thank you all for ur coments and i have thought about things. and things have gotten more confusing now than ever. someone else entered my life and im not to sure how i feel about them or how they feel about me. now both of us have 1 child each and he has 1 on the way... which things can get pretty crazy from here on out. but u cant help where ur feelings lead u. did i mention that i heard that girls from louisiana find a guy and get attached to them and then next thing u know the feelings that they had for them has gone away. so they leave them. i think this is true.. and my ex told me that(the second 1, not my daughters father). so i think its true cuz when he told me that i was like, "wow i had no idea". so and he said that since he thinks im like that, he says that he thinks i will never be able to love a guy cuz of that even tho maybe if the guy and i were meant to be. now how i feel about him is that i really dont even want to talk to him at all. i dont really want to be friends with him. he is really annoying. ok and guess what.. the guy whom i just found out he had feelings for me. well being around him makes me spend more time with my daughter. cuz i see how much he is always with his sons(he calls them both cuz they always been together and they r brothers but 2 diff dads) and how he cares for them makes me feel bad. but makes me want to spend more time with her. even my mom was like u need to be there for her now and stop turning ur back cuz when she gets older she may turn her back on me. well the new guy has helped me not knowingly. well i be looking for u guys, so i'll check back.. later and thanx