swissangel74

i don't think he'll leave me, we've been together for 7 years, and i know he's the right one for me and vice versa. i am just a little afraid that he might react badly, it is sooooooooo unexpected...even for me, but as a woman, things are different... he's comking back on monday afternoon, so I still got time to think about all this, it may be positive, but in a way, it's difficult for me not to say a thing when I have him on the phone...i try to give him some hints, like my breast is sore, am tired, have nausea, but he won't get it....probably it's the last thing he's thinking of...and I can understand him... lol

definitely...am 31 and have polycistic ovarian syndrome, i do not want to take the risk to abort now and have problems after to have a baby...

of course I didn't...I even stopped thinking about wanting a baby when he told me it was not the good moment for him...it completely got out of my head for the past months. the thing is that the first year without pill, he never "stayed inside"...i was getting a little sick and tired because it felt to me that sex was not the same, so since november, he sometimes stayed inside, but not always... i am really panicking, i was myself in shock this morning, i cannot imagine how he'll feel...

hi there, i found out this morning I was pregnant, which was not at all expected...i have PCOS and never thought I could get pregnant without treatment. I had stopped the pill 2 yrs ago, with the ok of my bf...he knew the risks, but never said anything, because he knew the chance to get pregnant were really low. well, then, this morning I had nice +++ on my test. i am happy, but am really afraid of his reaction. he's 26 and I'm 31, and lately I really wanted a baby and we talked it over many times, and he always said he wasn't ready, he didn't want his life to change and that it just wasnt the good moment to have a baby...he's away until monday and I have absolutely no clue how to tell him, as he didn't know i thought I had pregnancy symptoms... does anyone have an idea on how I can tell him? I am afraid of his reaction, i don't want him to believe I did it on purpose... thanks to all of you

Hi, thanks to all of you for your messages. my bf got mad when I told him what I had heard from my friend. he was actually mad at her for spreading those rumors, not mad at me because I had listened and doubted of his fidelity. he said he was angry because she called him for favours (tickets for hockey games that he can have free of charge, call for his bday,...), and wondered why she hadn't talked to him before talking to me. he trusted her before this story and now is really disappointed by her behaviour. we live in a small town where people really enjoy talking about people and saying false things. my bf is kind of famous here and many girls are jealous of me and wouold do anything to be with him, maybe even say things that are untrue such as these rumors. What Ailec1987 said about destroying my relationship is actually quite true...i felt that after what I said, I acted really strangely for a few days and he said he was sick and tired of me believing the rumors and not him, and asked me why I still was staying with him, if I didn't even believe him anymore.... the thing that annoys me is that my friend doesnt know the person who apparently knows something and this person doesn't even give a name of this girl.... for what concerns my bf, I have no way to think he's been cheating, because everytime he's with friends in a club or so, friends of mine are there too and they never saw anything, and honestly he's not the kind of guy that would be cheating. we've bee otgether for 7 years now... he once told me that if he were to cheat on me or at least be tempted to do so, he would rather break up with me. he never gave me any reasons to worry.... i really think you guys are right and I should not create more problems for rumors. especially, as shorty20 said, my friend has not a great situation with her bf and could be jealous of us, as we just bought a house and her bf doesn't even want to sleep over at her place...i don't know, maybe she's indeed jealous and doesn't want me to be happy. swissangel74

hi everybody, I need some advice. I have recently heard from one of my best friends that there were rumors in our small town that my bf was cheating on me. She told me " a friend of a friend of mine said that he was seeing a brown-haired girl" or "a friend of mine has seen him dance with a girl at a club once when you weren't with him" or stuff like that. she told me she never saw aynthing herself, but that she heard too many things to believe it was not true. I asked my bf (we've been together for 7 yrs) if this was true and he denied it. Of course, I would say. I have asked some other friends of mine if they had seen or heard anything, and nobody has ever had notice of such rumors. i really do want to believe my bf, because I love him, but at the same time, i don't want to be the silly blind gf who doesn't see thing and/or accepts everything... what should I do??? thanks for your advice Swissangel

I personnally agree, but for her it's too soon to think about that, she is still under shock. she'll need time to figure out what's best for her...but it's a terrible siutation...

hello! well, my sister's intentions in going to see a lawyer is to find out what her rights are in case she wants to get a divorce and in case the mistress's kid arrives one day and asks for his father...which she is really afraid of. she is talking a lot with her husband, but is still very hurt and cannot sleep much. my brother in law had his mistress sign a paper saying that she will not ask him anything and so on, but the problem is that it has no legal value. as said before, they are going to see a counsellor and talk about all that, which is a very good thing. they have been talking too a lot about all this; my sister could accept the cheating part, but not the baby and now she has to think what is best for her. she will need time, they will need time to set their, her priorities straight and see how they can deal with all that. she is also concerned about her two oldest sons, who already noticed there was a problem between their parents...

hi... I just saw the latest answers they were posted when I was answering Ilse. As you both said, my sister has no right to force the other woman to abort, and now sh'es telling me she doesn't know why she should have an abortion instead of her. SHe wanted her baby and is probably gonna have it. We live in Switzerland and the laws are really good here, so that's not her problem actually. he earns enough money to support her and the kids, but she doesn't know yet if she wants to divorce or not, it's all to early, she only discovered it 3 days ago... I really try to be there for her at the moment and invited her for a holiday, whenever she wanted so she could change her mind...

hi Ilse, thanks for your answer. Just finished talking to my sister, and the mistress does not want to abort. My sister is going to the doctor's on wednesday to see what are her possibilities with abortion (for herself), and on thursday she and her husband are going to a counsellor. They have been talking a lot, and she is especially afraid of seeing a kid coming to her place in a few years asking to see his dad. She said that was the most terrifying thing for her. SHe could accept and understand her husband cheated on her,but the fact of knowing there is another of his child in the same town is very difficult for her. anyway, i'll do my best to support her...

Hello! I am devastated.My sister told me this weekend that her husband had cheated on her a couple of times, and now the mistress was pregnant (the condom broke). my sister is mother of 3 and 10 weeks pregnant. i would never have thought this might be possible, he really seemed a perfect and loving husband. they looked like the perfect family. what kind of advice can I give my sis? she is going to see a lawyer, and wants to ask her husband to convince his mistress that she needs to abort... gosh, i don't know what to do, so if there is someone who could help me, I'd appreciate it. Thank you

hello, thanks for your answer. So, no we are not married. My bf is not really ready for it, it kind of scares him. we were thinking of getting married in 2007, and then have the baby after, but then my doctor diagnosed the PCOS, and things changed. for me, the priority is now to have a baby, as it may take quite some time. I really feel ready for a baby now, I'm 31. he is a little scared though of the idea of a baby changing his life. but he admitted yesterday that he kind of forgot how long it will take for the baby to be here (min 12 months said my doc, included obviously the pregnancy). so when I repeated it many times, he was ok with it. I am only afraid that if we wait too long to start the treatment,and if it doesn't work I will have my 1st child at 34 or later, and I really don't want that. It actually stressed me a lot and he doesn't feel that. i know I cannot force him to have a baby, and if it comes in 2007, it's ok for me too. but he needs to understand this is important to me. i know deep inside he wants one, but maybe not right now. so i'll have to wait a little maybe. things between us are good, we get along well, and have been together for over 6 years and living together for 1.5. we just bought a place and moved in last week, so we're really happy about it. back to the PCOS now, i never had my periods when I was 18 and then took the pill until last year to get my periods. When I last saw ,my doctor he said that CLomid was the only way for me to be pregnant, and that when I decided it was a good moment for both of us to start, we should go t him and start the treatment...

thank you...helpful indeed....

Hi all of you! I am 31 and my gynecologist just diagnosed me with polycystic ovaries, which, he said, means that I will have to take clomid to be pregnant. It seems that I do not ovulate (my periods come every 3 months) and I wish to have a baby by the end of next year. my doctor said that clomid may work from the first month of treatment, but also not work for 6 months. shall I start immediately with the treatment now? I really wish to have kids, my bf is a little scared... thanks for your answers....

forgot to add, that we both have a good work and have absolutely no financial problems whatsoever. we even just bought a house and are moving in next month... when we talked, he said I never was satisfied, that i always wanted more. but what I'm asking is more than reasonable...no?