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Mermayd: I just had a thought while reading a reply to this post. Sexual abuse isn't really about sex at all is it. I mean the really bad part is about violations of trust and violation of the normal relationship between civilized responsible people. A longtime girlfriend was sexually abused by her stepfather and uncle (at the same time) and she said the she was mostly afraid that her mother would find out. She was so traumatized by that fear that she lost complete parts of her childhood (around 11) and could not remember friends she had in school when she met them later. Am I off base on this, or close to correct. I was and am amazed at how many of my female friends were either sexually abused or their children had been abused. (It is about 80% or thereabouts. Would like to hear what you think on all of the above.

Sliven, What you cannot have is always more desirable. Don't go offing yourself because of someone else, not a good plan. Just tell her in the nicest way (don't do a guilt trip on her) that she is very special to you and that in fact you are in love with her. Don't let her know that it makes you feel bad or if you already have, then let her know that you are ok. Then cheer yourself up and get on with your life. Keep in touch. Be patient. If she really likes you you may get a supprise someday. You have a lot of life ahead of you. Be cool. Have fun. Things will come to you, lots of things.

Ladybug: Having sex with your best male friend should be better than having sex with anyone else. Do you want the relationship to change or were you guys just goofing around. You do realize that sex doesn't (typically) mean the same thing to men that it means to women (surprise)? Why don't you just ask him, "What was it that happened the other night," and then after he tells you, you can tell him what you think is going on. Just go ahead and clear the air. It may not produce the results you want, but I guarantee it will PRODUCE results. Good luck.