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I find this statement highly offensive. I'm in a PhD program in biochemistry. I use logic and reason everyday. And if you look throughout the world, for example, in saudi arabia, women are completely separated from men, they are not allowed to drive, not allowed to vote, at work, You are right in terms of what you are saying. Women in in some middle eastern countries are deprivied of right. Yes, PhD women tend to be smart and use logic a lot. But how relevant it to dating? We are talking about dating and using logic in dating... To be specific here is an example about women, logic and dating: if a guy is accomodating, if he agrees to see the movies she wants, if he easily accepts her new schedule, if he accommodates his schedule to please her - immediately most women would think "this guy is desperate." Next step - is to basically dump him for another guy, who plays it well: appear busy, and not accomodating. What is the logic in this dating example? Or I missing somehting? Again, women are able to use logic in science.. and well everywhere. But most women choose not to use it in dating.

Down-In-A-Hole, You see? it is usually a test! You need just to pass it by showing you dont care, preferable laugh it off.

Unfortunately those are two mutually exclusive things: if you are accomodating to women, you are out, no matter how confident you are. They pick up the level of your confidence by the level of how much you are accomodating.

It is not about how they are accomodating to me. It is why women do not like accomodating men? I am still a bit confused about what you are saying.

Down-In-A-Hole, What if she just wants to test you? Your reaction to some sort of "not a very easy situation" and she wants to see how you handle it? Do you get angry.. silent.. or talk? or laugh it off? Women want to make sure men are good in bad situations too, so they tend to test men, especially young women are very prone to do so. Advice: laugh it off, make a joke of it. Show her that you do not care about her "stupid" remarks and you rather turn it into joke.

I take it as you don't know how to get any positive reinforcement. May I assume it is the case? If yes, I can assure you there are some ways of getting it by consciously working on it. Are you willing to put any efforts in getting positive reinforcement?

From what I see you are more of a thinker type, who is not afraid of logic and to be a bit opinionated. I think what happens is you prefer a guy who are more of a people person, who somewoe complement you. But this type is not so much into logic or thinking, and some of them may find a woman who is not afraid to state her opinion a bit intimidating. I can assure you it is not about quiet guys: for example I am quiet, but I love outgoing people, though it is just me. You have to accept this sad fact: some people, men and women are not going to email you saying "No, thank you".Unfortuntaly we cannot change that.

I find it fascinating that there is Gender differences class! What did you cover there? But I am not getting your point.. why women do not like accommodating men especially in the beginning - what's your take on that?

I guess you are right, at least I feel so. I conclude men should be good "players" in terms of dating: they should not show any kind of "being too nice" or show any kind of despearation. Thanks for the answer, you are good!

Ok, I'll try to be more specific: relatively young women in the initial stage of dating are usually dislike accomodating men. Later on in a relationshiop it is usuallu gone or almost gone.

It seems you are right. But why it is attractive being unaccomodating for women(at first)? I would not like if she is unaccomodating for example. But I am a guy.

I think this formula is very much true, women cannot stand accommodating men in the very first stages of dating. For example: if he eagerly agrees to see the movie she wants, if he eagerly agrees to change, i.e accommodate his schedule to please her etc. Women, why do you dislike accomodating men (in the beginning of dating)? It seems to me that it is a good feature, he want to be please you, but it evokes some totally different women's reaction...rejection. Why is that?

Do you want to get some positive reinforcement, are you working on it, or you choose just to talk about the lack of it?

You got it!! Most people usually are not willing to admit this. It may sound superficial and thereforeeee "not good". So they choose not to admit this fact. Especially women are having hard tim ewith it: society trained them in a way that they should be nice all the time.. if a woman admit "I like hot guys, and if approach guys, they are only hot ones", is she does say so, she ruins her image as a "nice girl". If a guy admits it, "I approach only hot girls" well.. it is almost ok, since we know guys are way more superficial in general. The point is it is hard to admit what society says is "not good" to admit.

So don't start with prenup, start with explaining to him that marriage is more important to you than child support in case you get divorced. And then explain that prenup can assure that thing. Of course if it is ok with you.