ender999

Perhaps she scared herself withthe "baby" talk. You might just have been a very serious, fun rebound relationship that restored her shattered ego and femininity. She is ambivalent and I have no way of knowing whether this ambivalence is passing or a finisher. It does not sound good. She took you for a ride and now it is you who is in need of a rebound relationship. From the clarity of your post, though, it appears you have the resources to bounce back stronger than ever. I think you've already started.

I don't expect to get much sympathy here but I'll forge ahead. I was happily married but nevertheless became intensely involved with a married woman at work. For 3 years we had an intensely thrilling, romantic and torrid sexual relationship. Emotionally and sexually we built our lives around one another. The sex was off the charts. Our respective spouses never knew. But in the "all things must come to an end" department, I ended our affair a few days ago. The reasons aren't relevant. We now have no contact and I'm grieving over our break-up. Since this was my first and only affair does anyone know whether the post-break-up healing process is any different after an affair. I have a profound sense of loss but I know I've done the right thing in ending this. The sad thing about secret, illicit affairs is that the pain, like the pleasure, remains hidden. And does this secret hinder the healing process? I don't know.