Josh07

I'm very shy when it comes to the ladies and I've realized that you just have to get out there and let go. I just recently asked a girl out that I've known for awhile and I feel as if I've opened up more then ever and I'm starting to get over the shyness whenever I'm around her. But, get to know her some before you just ask her out. Even though it may seem out of the ordinary for you to talk to her, it will help out. If you start to get out more and start talking to new people you'll eventually lose some of the shyness within and you'll open up way more then you could have thought. Good Luck! Josh

I've been talking with her on the phone almost every night and she's been calling alot lately and talking on AIM. I spent 2 1/2 hours talking with her everyday and I've known her for a long time. I just wanted to know about holding hands and getting at least a kiss on the cheek or somewhere around those lines. But, I don't want to force it or make her feel uncomfortable because I'm thinking of long-term and I really don't want to screw this relationship up.

Have you noticed any growth change during any previous years? I know that when I was around 11 or 12 I got a large increase in size and it was larger then before. I'm 15 and I'm 6 1/2 inches and idk if I got anymore growing to do ... hopefully! - Josh

I just went out with this girl to the movies. I asked my best friend and his girlfriend to come along to help make the situation feel more comfortable for both of us. I've started talking to her more on the phone and she gave me her AOL scree name and wants to talk on there some more. She was really excited about the 1st date and said she had a great time. I was thinking of asking her out to the movies again for the 2nd date and with it just being the two of us instead of anyone else. I didn't go for anything on the 1st date because I didn't want to give her the wrong impression or surprise her. I wanted to know if that would be a good idea and if I should make any moves on the 2nd date. Post some tips on anything that could be useful. - Thanks, Josh . . .

Yeah ... I can sometimes freeze up when I talk with her but I think that if I talk to her for most of the night and I can't escape haha you know what I mean I can't chicken out ... I should just relax as the night goes on and open up more.

I just called this girl up and asked her to the movies and she agreed . I was just wondering on what I should do during the date and whatnot. I don't want to look like a total loser. I'm going to pay for her and whatever else comes along just be the gentleman I supposed to be . Please post some tips/hints on what I should expect and be ready for during the date. - Josh

I called her up tonight and talked for a few mins then asked her if she wanted to go to the movies saturday night. SHE SAID YES! I feel great for getting it out but I feel like I kinda cut the conversation short after that and made a total a-hole out of myself. I was like cool I'll talk to you tomrrow about it some more. I kinda chickened out after all that, but I'm going to kinda say I know it was weird for me to kinda wrap it up to her and explain it some more. I'm going to do a double date this weekend and wanted some ideas on what to expect for a first date and what I should do? I'm definitely going to pay for her but any other stuff?

Yeah, I've had a few conversations in person and I'd get kinda nervous in a way but after talking for a while I'll get somewhat comfortable. But the past times I've talked with her it was over the phone. I just can't explain my feelings and it's frustrating. All of my friends are like go for it and stuff but I'm thinking about just talking with her some more and getting to know her more then ask her out to the movies. I just really feel differently about this girl then other girls, like I don't think anything sexually or anywhere around that area like I would if I just noticed a girl. She's not like most girls and everything about her seems perfect. IDK!!!

I've had this crush on a girl for a few years and I'm not the "player" or person that goes out with just anyone. I've had only 1 relationship in the past and it didn't work out that great. I've known this girl for basically all my life and she lives like 3 houses down in my neighborhood and she's always come over and stuff for christmas/bdays and I've done the same. But recently it's been really getting to my head and it's getting frustrating to deal with. I'm not worried about getting rejected or anything like that because I think she likes me back but isn't going to make any moves. I'm not the best at expressing my feelings or thoughts and I'm mostly quiet around those I don't know very well but when I'm around my friends everything is cool. Over the past year I've opened up more and sort of gotten over the shyness but it's still there sometimes and it's my downfall. She's in my classes and whenever I glance towards her or just happen to look in her direction, I noticed she's looking back at me and smiling and usually waves back. I've realized the only way to get over this is to just do it and it will eventually go away. I've gotten the nerves to call her up and just start up short conversations about school and classes and other stuff. She's told me that she enjoys talking with me and stuff. It's always on my mind and it's starting to get to me and I feel that I'm going to explode if I don't do something about it soon. I just wanted some comments or helpful hints/tips on what I should do. Thanks, Josh

anyone?

I can be shy whenever I'm around any girls that I like, but when it comes to just being around anyone else I'm always comfortable and I can't ever keep quiet. There's this girl I've known basically all my life and I've kinda had some feelings for her, but now things are different. I just feel like she's different then all the other girls and that everything about her is perfect. I've had a few conversations with her but most of the time they are quick and not much to it. I find her glancing towards me almost everyday in class and she smiles and waves to me all the time. I really think there could be something between us, IDK! I've only gone out with 1 other girl before and it didn't go anywhere really. I just need some advice for talking to her and any ideas on what to do for a date if I ask her out and if she agrees to it. I feel like I just get tongue tied and my heart is racing and pounding and I don't want to look like a pathetic loser in front of her.

I really appreciate the help you guys are giving. I guess if I just get it off my chest and out of my mind things should hopefully go smooth. Maybe things aren't as nerve racking as it seems. I just think my main problem is the shy part, I'm totally cool and calm when I'm around my friends but when it comes to being around that special girl then it all changes.

I'm not going to spill my guts I'm just going to say that I've always liked her and if she'd want to go out to the movies or something. I thnk if I did anymore it might be too much.

anyone?

I'll admit, that I'm not the greatest when it comes to dealing with girls and going out. Whenever I'm around specific girls that I really like, I seem to freeze up and get really nervous about how to act or what to say. I'm not a player or someone that tries to go out with all the girls I can, I prefer to wait until there's actually someone that I'm interested in and go from there. There's this girl I've known for a long time but there's always seemed to be some thing between us that I can't really explain, I just know that we've got something. I've noticed that she's exchanging glances with me during class alot and lately she's also smiled and waved at me. I get this feeling deep inside that makes me feel crazy all over cause I don't know what to do! I just need help on actually getting the balls to go up to her and admit my feelings for her and that I'd like to go out with her sometime. I really don't think I'd get rejected because there's definitiely something there. I just don't want to look like a pathetic loser when I'm around her. I can easily talk to her because she even lives about 3 houses up the road from me. I just need some motivation and confidence on what to do.