james

Hi all, Ok here goes, don't want to bore you but its really starting to hurt me! I was seeing a girl for a couple of months last year. She broke up with me because she said she wasn't ready for anothe relationship after she got hurt by her ex of 3 years. So we broke and didn't speak for a couple of months we ended up getting back in contact aroun christmas last year. We have been very close ever since we talk all the time see each other all the time and after wewent to spain this summer we have started sleeping together. It all went a little pear shaped recently with her starting her new job and working long hours. I was still calliong her a lot and i think she was starting to get very narked off. We had a pregnancy scare around september to although all clear. We fought last week with her saying that she didn't want a boyfriend and that i am not her boyfriend. I really really care about her and think that I love her. We haven't really sopken much since a little but i don't know what to do. Do i stop calling her make her do the running or do i tell her how i feel although i think she knows. I'm 25 and i'm scared that i am going to lose her. Please help J

Hi All, I was with my ex for about 3 months very unusually for me i fell for hook line and sinker. unfortunately we broke up do to her saying she wasn't ready for a relationship because she still had her ex in her head but didn't want him back but she said it wasn't fair on me. I came to terms with it although i wasn't happy for obvious reasons. We didn't talk for about a month until i texted her to tell her i still had her xmas presents and that they were no good to me, which was completely true. We met up and it seemed great we got on and it seemed relaxed we swapped presents cos she had got me some stuff too. then i left after a couple of hours and she came out with me she gave me a big hug and wouldn't let go she even went to kiss me but i just kissed her on her cheek. Stupid i know but i was very surprised. Since then we have texted a bit and have spoke on the phone once. we always say we are going to meet up but she seems a little strange about. So we haven't yet. It seems to be to text her then she replys and we text for a while. I would love to get back with her, I just don't know what to do. I don't know whether to not text her at all or to come out and say how i feel or just to carry on as we are. SO confused I do still love her but i don't want to push her away or scare her off. would love to hear what everyone thinks Thank you! James

Hi, After 2 months of no contact my ex girlfriend finally contacts me first by a few text messages then by phoning me, we had a laugh on the phone and texts, but still seem a bit formal when we see each other cos she works oppsite me ina bar while she is studying. i have only just recently started going back in there. i'm not sure whether to play it cool or try to get things back on track I am a bit confused I still love her so much! haven't spoke for a couple of days just don't want her to think i am not interested in her anymore if she is interested in me. confused James

We went out for six months in total, it would have been over 7 by now, she broke up with me twice only in the last month the longest was 48 hours.

Hi, just thought someone could help, I am 23 and was going out with a girl for the last six months I fell for so quickly for her which is strange for me, I have had longer relationships but this was blew me away I loved everything about her and still do! We were so happy she would tell me how much she loved me and how happy i made her and just made me feel so happy so I just went with the flow and totally let my guard down. She broke up with me just over a month ago saying that she needed freedom and said she still loved me and was in love with me but needed to concentrate on herself without having to worry about someone else. she had done that a couple of times before but we always got back together after a couple of days. She was hurt by an ex and I just hope she doesn't think that if she gets to deep with me that I will hurt her. I'm scared this time that i"ve lost her I have never felt for anyone what feel for her. I can't concentrate or think about anything else but her I feel so lost without her, we have had no contact now for a month and i don't want to lose her as a person even if that means without a relationship! I want her back! Lost and Confused James