Dare2Dream

My ex fiance and I split up...we did the long distance relationship for 3 years. I moved from the states to Ontario to be with her while she finnishes school. I lived there for close to a month, and things were bad. She was very harsh towards me. The communication was minimal and she would always pick fights. Basically the spark was no longer there. It wasnt all her fault, I was guilty of empty promise after empty promise. But we were so close when we were together. For 4 years before we got together we were friends and now we havent spoke in over a month. I know what we have is over, but part of me wants still wants to be part of her life as a friend because ill always care about her. I thought about writing saying I am no longer mad at her, and want to continue our friendship. I do feel we need to go time apart before talking...perhaps a few months or even a year or two. If we were meant to be friends are paths will cross once again. But part of me thinks she doesnt deserve me. She hurt me twice like this so maybe we werent even meant to be friends? Im confused....your thoughts

I posted about 2 weeks ago about my g/f spending a lot of time with her male friend. This past friday she goes to a CFL (Canadian Football) game with her friend Dave to meet up with his aunt and uncle. Then after the game they meet some of his friends and go clubbing. At first I was a little jealous. But realize I must trust her. So I dont hear anything from her until Saturday morning at 9:30 am! She has a "pay as you go" cell phone and didnt have any minutes so she couldnt call. And usually when we go out we dont call until we get home. But 9:30? She slept on the couch over his place. Which bugs me cause he lives 10 minutes from her house. So I dont talk to her all day saturday because I was upset and we kept missing each others calls...which I was okay with. Then, Saturday night she leaves right from work to go over to his place and they meet his buddy at Niagra Falls camping ground. They hang out there all night. Sunday morning I wake up at 8:30 and call her parents. Her mom says she must of had a little too much to drink and stayed over a friends house. After speaking to her, she says they hung out at the camp site all night. Had a lot to drink and waited after 5 am to drive home. She then told me she had about 4 beers starting around 10 pm. Okay 4 beers? She drinks 4 beers no problem so I feel that was an excuse. Then she drove Daves car home and he wanted to stop by his place to let the dogs out. And while he did that she fell asleep on his couch? Okay, the dogs couldnt have waited another 10 minutes to go pee? So she calls me at 9 am. Finally, Sunday night I blow up at her. I mean what would you do if your b/f or g/f comes in at 9 am and sleeps over twice at their "friends" We get in this big argument. She says why are we in a relationship when you dont trust me. yadda, yadda, yadda. We tell her each other how we feel. She says I dont have to justify myself because I didnt do anything wrong. So I feel bad for questioning her. But her actions are very questionable. Your comments?

Thanks for the response... What I get jealous of is "what" they do together. They often go to the movies together. To dinner together. To the bar together. Last week he took her to a club to meet his other friends. Now he's taking her to meet his uncle and aunt? What do you think his aunt and uncle will think? "They are cute together" or "Just friends"

Hello, My g/f and I have been doing the long distance relationship for 3 + years. I will be moving to be with her soon. As of late, she has been hanging around with this guy Dave that she met through her best friend Carl. After Carl blew her off, she became really good friends with Dave. And tomorrow she is going to a football game with him, his aunt, and uncle. She said she was "excited" because they love to heckle the players like her. Does this at all sound fishy? She has been seeing this guy a lot. But tells me they are just friends. Is it acceptible that friends do things together, that to me, people who are "together" do?

Hello all, My g/f and I have been going through some difficult times as of late. We are attempting to work through the hard times. Most of these, are on me. I have some issues I have to overcome and she has been patient over the last 3 or 4 years. My "empty promises" are taking a toll. Well, I understand things have been off. It is clear the spark has faded and I am looking for a way to rekindle this. It wont be until I get where I have to go personally. But our communication is gone down the drain. We sit on the couch and watch TV. When we do talk, we struggle to find something to actually talk about. We used to spend hours on the phone just talking, not its been reduced to 5 minute brief convos. And together like I said we sit on the couch and watch TV. I told her this upsets me and she says she is just "comfortable" and doesnt think anything is wrong with it. She's always out with her friends. We used to leave messages for each other when we go out or while we are out. She never really does that. As shell call when she gets home and by that time it's "Hey, Im home. Ill talk to you in the morning. I love you. Bye" What can I do to rekindle the magic? Any advice would be great

I feel for you, as I am a jealous person by nature but only because I have been burnt before. You can draw up all the assumptions you want, but unless you tells (which he probally wont) you'll never know what really happened. This girl could be innocently flirting with him, and he probally liked it. Not that he did anything. But its nice when someone finds you attractive right? And you arent doing anything correct? So ask if politely if anything happened....you should be able to tell if he's truthful! just be polite about it and tell him it is bothering you good luck

Anyone else have a thought? Please, I'd like to hear it

There was no sarcasm in his voice, fairly monotone... It's just the whole idea he calls her and leaves her messages. Sounds like he cares a little more than a friend. I surely dont call me friends and leave messages like that. Granit my friends are guys, but regardless. Friends are friends.

Hello, I am new to the boards. My girlfriend and I have a family plan with our cellular phones. Here's my issues and maybe I am over reacting, maybe I am not...you decide. Sarah has been seeing Bryan a lot lately. They are close friends and I am okay with Sarah having guy friends. As of late, she has beeing hanging out with him frequently. So being the jealous voice I checked her cell phone the last couple of days ( I know this is wrong ) and over the last week, while she is waitressing he calls to say Hello and see how her day is going. Just today Bryan called and left this message "Hey Sarah, it's a beautiful day outside and was calling to see how work is" I know I dont leave messages like that on my friends voice mail. Your honest thoughts please. Dare2Dream