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katerinacs: what do you mean "he was always insecure of me"?

hey, read what he said carefully: "he wasn't going to risk one of my films for awhile" 1) he's making a private joke with you. If he was serious, wouldn't he just say "No"? Or just ignore you altogether? 2) he said "awhile". ie, not "never" He needs some time for his exams, then he'll go with you to the movies. As a guy I reckon I'd be 90% sure of that interpretation.

If only people could tell each other what they really feel, things would be so much easier! ok dumpit. I'll try to tell you what I am like when I fancy someone. This might not reflect what other guys are like (it probably dosen't!) but it might help you. A bit about my situation - I currently like a girl, but I don't know if she likes me. I am very shy. I love to just talk to her. A thing that we started is email, we email each other 10-20 times per day. Every morning when I get to work I want to write to her and ask her how she is feeling, what she did the night before, what she is doing today, etc. OK, so that might indicate that a guy who likes you will go out of his way to talk to you all the time. But because I don't know if she likes me or not, I don't want to "look like" I'm wanting to talk to her all the time. Usually I like her to email me first, so it's like she's initiating the conversation and not me. Sometimes I will ignore her, which makes her annoyed, but to me this is indicating that she has an interest in me (why would she care otherwise if I ignored her). So part of what I do is to look for signs that she likes me, by keeping my distance, perhaps ignoring her sometimes. So a guy might like you if he DOSEN'T talk to you too. Confusing, I know. (I'm not saying that this is the RIGHT way a guy should treat a woman that he likes, but it happens to be the way I have found myself behaving) I also like to do little things for her. I will give her "anonymous" gifts by leaving things for her, when it's obvious it was me. This could be just little things, not great or expensive gifts. If she thanks me or asks me about it, I will deny it, but in a joking way. I will joke with her quite a bit, such as about her appearance, her clothes, her temper, but never in a nasty way, always so she can tell I am just poking fun. I also give subtle hints about how I really feel. Like a compliment that she looks amazing on a day she tells me she thinks she looks terrible. Or that I think she is smart, or funny. If a guy gives you compliments like this, I think you should listen carefully to what he is saying. Personally I don't usually give compliments in the same way to people I don't "like". I will ask all kinds of personal questions too, but in a joking way. Like, "so, did you go out with your BOYFRIEND last night? oooooER! hehehehe" That's because I really AM interested in whether she fancies someone else, but by doing it in a joking way I can ask without (perhaps) revealing what I'm really feeling. Or, if I am revealing it, at least I haven't said it directly, maybe she will pick up on it and I will indirectly find out if she does like me! I don't think I could tell her I liked her without knowing on some level at least that she liked me. If you're looking for a guy to just come out and tell you that he likes you, you might be waiting a while. If you catch a guy looking at your body, then that should be a big hint that he does like you! I think that women are much more subtle than men, and pick up on all kinds of things and read things into things that we don't. Men, on the other hand, need a pretty blatant indication I think! This causes a mismatch, when women think we will pick up on subtle indications that they like us, but we just don't see it. My advice would be to try the direct approach and just tell him that you think he's great. I don't think a guy would hold it against you if he dosen't feel the same, and at least then you'd know. And if he DOES feel the same, then he should tell you and you will avoid months of messing around like I've gone through! If the guy dosen't think the same, you could always twist it to say that you meant you think he's great as a friend, for example, thereby saving your pride. I think a guy might like you if he laughs easily at stupid things you say, if his face or eyes "light up" when you're around. He might be shy like me and not make eye contact or appear disinterested or appear to avoid talking to you, but that might not mean he's not interested! Perhaps this isn't giving much guidance or seems contradictory, but unfortunately that's how we (or at least, I) am!