You are so right in saying that he doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you...RUN...I went through 7 years of this...He would pursue me catch me release me..then when he thought I was dating he was tight back saying that he was afraid that when he figured out he wanted me I would have moved on....and I had...then my brother died and he came back...I begged him to keep away as I was hurting and not in my right mind...well he pursued me...even proposed...moved back in and bammm...the commitment issues went from bad to worse..the emotional abuse...lying, staying away...I finally sent him the following letter...don't know how this happened but he has not talked to me since other than to say it is over
the letter
I have always said you are so much your father...and that my fear was that I would become yopur mother...well i believe it has started to happen...you go your merry way and i sit home and wait for you to come home and wonder what your mood will be and how many demands you will make of me...yes...I play along and I feel myself feling less respected and loved every day.
When i think of your mother sitting home every day at the table..waiting for your father...it makes me sad...she deserves so much more...a faithful, loving, giving man....who compliments her...respects her and loves her...I can honestly see why she is so unhappy...I feel it myself....I live it...
And you can say it is my choice and that I can get out anytime...well keep it up and I guarantee I will...I desrve to be treated like a human being...not just someone to cook for you, do your laundry,,,cater to your every need...I cannot and will not give until I am given back to.
Do not call me and ask what this BS is...you know it is true...not BS....think about how you treat me...I have no problem other than feeling used and unloved.....So do some thinking and call me when you have something nice to say..over and he likes his life..
well I guess they don't like the truth...they don't want you they want you to want them...
I am so hurt...even tho I know he will never change...my feelings are that he has found someone...never would admit it..but the signs were there...and the newness is there....
my best friend said he will change if he meets the right woman...hurts to hear
anyway I do not want to see anyone staying for 7 years of this...