earlylifecrisis

Hi onmyownagain, Can you please tell me more about the above quote? I actually had the same response from my ex. I'd like to know how it feels when compromising yourself in a relationship with someone you truly care for.

Love is a double-edged sword: it can destroy or inspire. Those of you who have loved and given a part of yourself to another know that love is indeed a double edged sword. THere are times when your baby is the only person you need in the whole world and cloud9 becomes your permanent address. There are times when the two of you are just not on the same page and that leads to disappointment, hurt and heartbreak. More than ever, my relationship has shown me that love can hurt as much as it can heal. Anyone feel the same? Any experiences to share?

shes2smart is really smart! Dark_Raven although on 14 has probably came up with a better plan than i'll ever come up with. THanks! I think my gf is somewhat like shes2smart, she's intelligent and really into doing things that she finds enjoying like travellling etc. So I have a questions.....if i let her go off and do all these things without me...will she form memories with other people and other guys and soon I will fade away? I don't wanna seem like an idiot waiting for years for my gf to come back while she's hitting it off with some other guy in another country.....if u know what i mean.

I've been with my gf for 1.5 years now. At first it was total bliss, we loved each other and everything. Even now we both see each other whenever we can hang out etc and we love it. However, lately she says she is "unfufilled" and thinks that we want different things in life. I intend on settling down with her after college and she knows that I'd do anything to make it happen. She on the other hand says she wants to "be independent" and roam around the world travelling and seeing new things. She says she misses home (We are both international students) and reminisces her friends and family back at home a lot. She's the type of girl that deserves the best that life has to offer and knows it. Falling short makes her feel "unfufilled".....what am I to do? I'm so confused......... is it normal for a relationship to be "unfufilling" after 1.5 years? I don't know..... maybe we really DO want different things in life.....who knows? Any ladies out there feel the same? A bit stifled by their bfs but still love them and don't know what to do? Also, I wouldn't mind going around travelling with her if she asked but i know that she wouldn't settle down for a few years get established and then start travlling if i asked her. That really makes me sad and angry at the same time, half the time the things i'd do for her she wouldn't do for me.....

Has anyone out there been in a relationship where u know the both of you love DEARLY each other but sometimes wander if you are just TOO incompatible to be with each other for the rest of their lives? I have these thoughts some times when I get into arguments with my gf. I think I am quite insecure and sometimes when I feel bad about things I tend to shut down for a while and then later want to talk and work things out with her. I really just want to talk and work things out but she gets defensive and resents me for feeling the way I do. This is nearly ALWAYS the source of our arguments For example: I caught her checking some guy out. We were walking and she keeps on staring at him and when we walk past him she turns around a couple of times to keep on checking him out. Obviously I got very upset for disrespecting me like that so I shut down for a while then confront her. She doesn't say sorry (which I would have expected), she gets defensive says why I didn't talk to her while I was in "shut down" mode and says she was just "curious". She said it was just like checking out any other freak on the street with 3 legs or something. Everytime I want to talk about these things she tells me "your not inadequate in any way, I am not comparing you" and gets angry at me for feeling the way I do. We always make up after a while and its because we both know we love each other. But all this is getting emotionally draining. Sometimes I just want a "I am sorry, I didn't mean it, I won't do it again" just out of respect of what I feel is not right. I mean I see her point. Is it me or her? Or are we just not right for each other?