love?? Religion?? Whats wrong with us?

been together for 2 yrs, decided to move in with eachother

5 months into our relationship..Having been living together

ever since..

We didn't have to many problems in the beginning, In fact hed

almost everyday tell me how much he care about me and how EASY

our relationship is...

Things have changed =(

We both believed in God and Now ever since watching the move

"Religulous" he wants nothing to do with God..Annnd me, Im

kind of catty cornered, I still believe but theres things about the bible

that make no since--?

Soo Sorry to bore you but I feel what ive said so far is important

and hasn't got off track,, I NEED some opinions, suggestions, Help if you

can!

We fight, I thought i would never say this, but we do, about little

petty things, sometimes its to do with me nit picking about money or

insecure about him going in early to work and accuse him of cheating.

Other times its as simple as me wanting to spend time together, I

don't mean Us in the SAME room, talking and not even looking at

eachother or US eating, or US watching a Show on tv not engaging

eachother, I mean really spending TIME TOGETHER OTHER THAN AT OUT LITTLE DINKY APARTMENT! GRR..o yeah, the other day my little 12yr

old sister was over and he raised his fist at me like he was going to

punch me...he didn't, hes never hit me, but is it leading to it?

Am i being smart by asking about this or does this seem more like a rant

to you guys?

Are we good together or doomed to fail, Come on Be

Honest, Im at Wits end, I forgot to mention, I feel like crying

out of frustration, I want to work out, i love him to death! Id do

anything for him... it just seems like we are fighting a lot more, we always try

to talk and make up and we have since last fight,"yesterday"

however I feel like something is still wrong...I don't know what to do

or how to fix it, or if i should leave him, but i really don't want to leave him.

I just keep crying everytime we fight, he belittles me, calls me a big ol baby,

he told me it feels like hes argueing with a kid sometimes..I don't want what he

means by that or if im completely in the wrong or if we are just not

compatible and are NEVER going to see fireworks again..

As I type, Im at work, , its interfering with work...

its pretty bad,, i want to fix it..Is there even a way to, I need some type of

help, don't know who else to turn to...=(

You aren't going to be able to convince him of anything, but anyone who stops believing in God after a film such as that wasn't really all that convinced anyway. Only a fool would claim to give up his beliefs because of one poorly done, ill-researched mockumentary...

As for your relationship, it will be quite rocky until you can come to terms on what you believe together... that is if it doesn't end. He sounds like he became a pretty hateful person once watching that film, somewhat sad really. I know he may feel hurt because he feels like he's been mis-led, but it's in no way your fault.

Honestly, your best bet would be to leave him. I'm not trying to hurt you in any way by saying that, but if you're fighting more often, it's usually due to recent feelings of selfishness, and the idea of being right placed in front of your relationship itself. If it's meant to be, he will come back, but what your describing here--you should be talking about with him. On a calm level, he has to be approached and let known of your feelings and if he won't do anything about it you should leave, or it will only get worse.

I appriciate the honestly DropToZero, He was questioning things about

the bible and God for a while before watching the STUPID movie,

and his dad is an atheist, his step mom and real mom both believe...

Anyways, Im trying to cool down, expecially because Im at work..

I feel so annoyd right now but at the same time do not want to be alone.

I want to work things out but i feel like the moment he stopped believening

someone higher up than him "GOD" things were going to get harder and harder

to cope with..theres a lot of baggage on him, his ex gf has a kid w.him and she wont

let him see his daughter without giving a grip of money he doesnt have.

and credit card debt and more debt, his credit score is like a 300=( I love him

so much tho...

if anybody can help, i would really appriciate it..Im not wanting

to end it, i do aacept the advice on ending it tho.. I REALLY am

thinking about counceling, but i REALLY dont have that type of

money, I don't even have money to get health insurance..

I pay for RENT, CAR INS,CAR PAYMENT,Phn Bill for both of us,

APS and GAS, Groceries, I dont have a lot left over after that, he

makes a lot less than me...=(

I don't know about where you are, but in Australia, the fact that he raised his fist to you in a threatening way is enough to constitute assault. (Apprehension/fear of immediate violence etc)

It's definitely abusive behaviour.

And it sounds like your relationship has become anything but easy, that he takes you for granted, and has a multitude of his own issues which he is taking out on you.

thanks for that as well...this is the first time its happened..but yes i

know what you mean, i guess i can just try talking to him some

more later on during the week or some time when my lil sis isn't over..

I miss how it use to be and i can just about start crying right now//

we want marriage/kids/everything!!! Its just so HARD

Oh, don't cry delicious. You cry and then you get this release .. and then you just want to pretend like you don't have any issues and keep going.. until you're upset again really soon and crying again.

You need a plan. Can you see a counselor to help you sort one out? Or is that not affordable right now?

How old are you? Lots of people want marriage, family, kids - but it only works long term if it's with the right person. He is who he is now. If that's what he's changed into he might not change back. You can't maintain a relationship with the person he once was.

Well I'm sorry for him changing his beliefs so suddenly, maybe one day he'll realize and come back... but you won't be able to make him, please accept that now, because if you don't it'll only be reason to start more fights.

Just believing in God doesn't make everything go well(and that's a pretty naive view), and if your b/f thinks he has it so bad, maybe recommend the chapter of Job for him to flip through... it's a pretty sad and then overall amazing story about a man who had everything, and then God allowed Satan to take it all away(family, food, home, and health)... it puts things into perspective about how bad you think you really have it I think(among other things). Things are only getting harder because your core beliefs and values between you are at ends now. I'm not saying it's not possible to work it out, I'm just saying you would best be talking to God, pray and ask Him to show you what to do somehow... because it'll be a rough ride. My fiance met me when I was an atheist, and she stuck with me for about 8 VERY rough months before I began to realize things on my own...(that's a story in itself). There is hope, just don't lose it, just don't hold on so long as to think you can change everything.

As for his debt, and his credit score, I suggest you look up a man named Dave Ramsey about those things. I suggest not caring about his credit score, and not getting into any more debt whatsoever... and you'll never have to deal with it again.

I Don't know if that would be wise of us just because I KNOW

we are going to get through this...Im going to TRY harder

to not react to every little things he does and Im going to

TRY to be more empathetic to him, I love him you guys.

I really WANT this to work.

I had a talk with him yesterday, he got defensive almost

immediately and than I let him know how his actions made

me feel and it seeme dlike he got less defensive and

he seemed to of calmed down a little...

We Will do ok, im sure, but if it keeps up, we will definetly

have to try counceling or see a therapist,,:SIGH:

Thank you for all of your input

Just an UpDATE..

Things seem to be going better, especially after I Stopped thinking

so negativly about everything and think alittle more positive and

being super nice and smiling a lot more and just trying to rebuild our

friendship again, Thanks for all the advice you guy!