Free Online Dating Websites. Any suggestions?

Hello.

Lately I've felt the need to explore the world of online dating. I've had small amounts of luck with OkCupid, and almost no luck with PlentyOfFish. Are there any other free online dating websites?

Thanks.

-CCBoom

why are you not having luck..i had lots of luck with PoF only one i tried...well i did when i started learning the right things to say.

Knight you're a lucky man. I only have horror stories from POF. Met three women from there in total over a period of two years. First one turned out to be a complete nut wanted me to move to south africa with her after a month of dating, second one I dated for three months only to find out she had a boyfriend of two years, and third I ended up dating for two months agian to find out she was sleeping around with multiple guys while trying to convince me that she wants a long-term relationship. But I blame it on bad luck lol

i've done free and pay sites. i've had completely better luck with pay sites, especially eharmony. if people are paying for it, you can be more confident that they are actually looking for a date/relationship and aren't just goofing around. i'd recommend you give match or eharmony a try.

Ugh. eHarmony rejected me. Both of them are super expensive. But I'll give match a try!

Thanks guys!

I found a few, but the only one I really actually use consistenly is OKCupid. Go to the Yahoo site, and go to the "Personals" section, that's a free one. I think link removed is a free one, but I'm not sure, I might be wrong on that one... Anyway, yeah, I agree with the idea that you're more likely to find some one on a pay site (because if they're paying money for it, they're less likely to just be some one screwing around). The thing that stops me from using a pay site is, what if you never find some one on it, you know? Then that's money spent for pretty much nothing. 'Course, I'm kind of a penny-pincher, so...

I dunno; I'm really only messing around with online dating because I have some self-esteem/ confidence issues to work on, and I haven't really had any luck with girls in person, so... I'm not really taking it too seriously, and I doubt I'd ever meet anyone on any of these sites, but I kind of like playing around on them. I had a couple of girls write me on OKCupid, but for whatever reason, after exchanging a few messages back and forth with them, they don't seem to write to me any more (which is kinda weird, since it's not like I expressed disinterest; eh, whatever, not that big of a deal). The last girl that wrote me, though, she told me that I was "really hot", and considering that no girl has ever said anything like that to me before (and because I never felt I was all that attractive), that was a pretty nice boost to my self-esteem. ^_^

matt - i typically stop writing to men if they haven't asked me out by 4-6 emails or so. men who are genuinely interested in meeting in person suggest drinks or coffee relatively early on. men who have some other issues going on don't. that's why i cut contact if no date has been set up after a while.

Check out a bunch without paying and see what kind of people are in your area and if they are active or not.

Some sites are more popular in some areas than in others. link removed is pretty popular in some places, but it was pretty much dead in my area for instance.

Try Lavalife - instead of paying a monthly fee, you pay a small fee for some "tokens" and you use those to send the initial email to those on the site.

matt - i typically stop writing to men if they haven't asked me out by 4-6 emails or so. men who are genuinely interested in meeting in person suggest drinks or coffee relatively early on. men who have some other issues going on don't. that's why i cut contact if no date has been set up after a while.

Agreed, there was a guy who emailed me often and I replied back. I hinted at meeting up, but the hints either didn`t register or he responded with how busy he was blah blah blah. I didn`t want to keep chatting because I was looking for someone to date offline, not another online buddy.

Mm, well, with the girls that've messaged me, they say something like "I'd like to talk to you more and get to know you better", or whatever, and when I basically say okay, that's when contact seems to stop, on their end. Also, I have it written on my page that I'm pretty iffy on just meeting people in person after meeting them online, and that I'd like to exchange messages for a bit before meeting up in person, so you'd think they'd get the message, ya know? Ah well.

Mm, well, with the girls that've messaged me, they say something like "I'd like to talk to you more and get to know you better", or whatever, and when I basically say okay, that's when contact seems to stop, on their end. Also, I have it written on my page that I'm pretty iffy on just meeting people in person after meeting them online, and that I'd like to exchange messages for a bit before meeting up in person, so you'd think they'd get the message, ya know? Ah well.

when they say 'i'd like to talk to you more and get to know you better', they mean, 'ask me out for coffee you bone-head!!!' so you should write back, 'sure - how about coffee this weekend? sunday 2 pm work for you?' i am a fan of taking things into real life asap. i think you really can't get to know each other too well by typing, it's just important to meet in person, see what that person is like, and then decide from there if you want to see them again.

Haha, yeah, I guess. 'Course, when the girls that write to me say that, they usually say something like "Do you have AIM/ MySpace/ Facebook/ (whatever) so we can talk more on that?", and then after we exchange those, I stop hearing from them, don't see them online much, etc.

plentyoffish is free

Have you tried just chat sites, as opposed to specific dating ones? ICQ or something similar? Just that way there's no real pressure, you can search for people in your area, for a specific age. This way you're really only looking for friends, and if it turns out to be more then great!

Free sites that I have been on in the past .

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Plentyoffish is filled with mostly single mothers/unemployed/downright ghetto people. The site in general just seems seedy. OkCupid seems a little better. Much more diverse crowd. Way better layout and a lot more interactive. I do not see Eharmony or link removed sticking around too much longer. They have to use tactics like free profiles and keeping expired profiles open in order to make the population seem larger. A lot of communication just falls on deaf ears.

In the end the skewed population makes online dating just about as difficult as regular picking someone up.

^^^

So true theres nothing but Single mothers and Ghetto people out here on POF, iv'e had very little success with POF and nothing but porn links on link removed worst place to try and meet someone.

Online dating has been such a terrible experience for me so far.

I actually met a girl using the personals on craigslist. I got more responses from an ad there then Match and Chemistry. eHarmony denied me. I've been seeing this girl for a little bit, and we're both really into each other, so that's going well.

y'all, i'm curious ( i was on eharmony for years...same crazies)...how do you get denied on eharmony?

Never got denied on Eharmony. That is weird. But I have never really had any luck with it either. Been on for about a month and a half and see a whole slew of step one's and closed communications on my communications. I get a match maybe once a week. I know my radius is small (25 miles), but I live in an area where there are about 1.5 million people in that 25 mile radius. I would think I would get more matches.

Some people are just too uncompatible for their matches - some get no matches and are declined for the service.

Some people only get a few matches.

Some people (like me) get a LOT, who are too cheap to pay, thus are not datable on the site!