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Thread: When having sex, pull out or ejaculate inside of her?

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    When having sex, pull out or ejaculate inside of her?

    Because the only sex I've experienced has been by looking at porn, I may have a distorted view of what constitutes normal sexual behavior.

    What are the fool proof birth control methods? I would think that if the girl is serious about using bith control, the guy uses a condom every time, and the guy pulls out of the girl and jerks off to "finish the deed" or lets the girl jerk him off outside of her the risk of pregnancy is pretty much as low as it could get aside from not having sex at all.

    The only possibility of an accident is by pre-cum and then there would be two barriers of protection, the condom and the girl's birth control.

    Also, in the pornos, many times the guy jerks off on the girl's face, mouth, breasts, butt, back. I'd think most girls would consider this kind of nasty? Is this something done outside of the pornos? .

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    I think it's going to depend on who you are with and how relaxed you are with one another.

    I think that for the first time the safest bet is to:
    (a) use a condom;
    (b) do your utmost to ask her what she likes and try to bring her to orgasm; and
    (c) only orgasm yourself once she has, and do it inside the condom, inside her (or ask her first if that's okay, if you want to).

    Some women might find the porn stuff nasty, some might find it a turn on (and yes, it's done in the real world). However, trying things in a basic way first can't hurt until you know what actually works for both of you. I would also suggest you won't know personally what feels great until you are there.

    Yes, from a birth control perspective, not coming inside her is safest. Your condom could break, for example. So if you are really worried about this, do it outside her. If she is new to sex though I would advise you bring yourself to climax rather than expecting her to - she might not know what she's doing or be comfortable with it.

    The upshot of all of this is is to test her out beforehand, see what she likes and what she's into. We're all different.

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    Fool proof would be no sex.

    Otherwise, always wear a condom and make sure its lubricated so it doesn't break.

    If you want to ejaculate on her, ask first. If a guy decided to randomly cum in my face or on me it would be his last time.

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    Snap ... porn sex is nothing like real sex. I seriously doubt that many women actually enjoy having their faces covered with your semen!!! Having said that, the other things (mouth, breasts, back, stomach) she'll let you know.

    Pulling out is a fairly effective (but not 100%) method of birth control, condums are better. If everything without the condum is done outside her vagina, that's very effective.

    Zack.

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    Originally Posted by CarnelianButterfly
    If you want to ejaculate on her, ask first. If a guy decided to randomly cum in my face or on me it would be his last time.
    lmfao, I have no idea why I thought that was so funny, but I just started cracking up and my parent's looked at me like " * * *!?!?!?!"

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    You can do whatever you are both comfortable with. I was with my gf for 3.5 years and it took a long time for us to be comfortable not using a condom. She was still on birth control pills, but we didn't risk having me go in her. So she let me pull out and go on her stomach.

    If you aren't comfortable knowing exactly when you are going to go, then you should use a condom everytime and probably pull out right before you are going to go so you don't have to worry about it later when she has a later period. (late periods are kind of common amongst younger girls and it had us worried a couple times)

    Just remember to have fun and be safe

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    Porn sex is for the pro's. Leave it up to them. Unless your lady wants that cream sprayed on her face, then go for it.

    If you want to combine your chances for safe sex....I suggest putting the girl on the pill, and then you use a condom. CONDOM....Not condUm...(Zackinlaw) Anyways.. combine the two for a greater chance of safe sex, but just b/c you did that...doesn't make it guaranteed 100% safe sex, either. The only 100% sure fire way to NOT get pregnant...is to not have sex with her.

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    If you don't combine the pill and a condom, think about combing the condom with something else. They make spermacides that go inside the vagina. Two methods is more effective than one.

    Pulling out, if you do pull out, and come on her, domn't od it on her face. If you pull out and come, then get it away from between her legs, and that might mean on her abdomen or something, but after you do that, and you find a proper moment, go get something to clean her up with, a tissue, and you do the cleaning, gently.

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    Yes I agree if you cum on her then you should be respectful enough to clean it up.

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    Originally Posted by Zackinlaw
    Snap ... porn sex is nothing like real sex.
    *ridiculously long round of applause*

    THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!! At least ONE of you understands this. You'd be surprised how many men actually believe women naturally enjoy sexual humiliation. Not to mention how many women have chosen to accept it and pretend to enjoy it. Sad stuff.

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