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This girl and I, we use the same bus to go working and we're always sitting next to each other, we know us quite good. Now I had to do the military service for 2 weeks (that's duty in my country) and she sent me a SMS in which she asked whether i'm ok... I wrote her back, and I asked her an other question about a concert she had... but she didn't answer. I really love her, but I'm not sure about her feelings, sometimes I think she could be interessted in me too, but on the other hand there are situations which make me think the opposite. It's not the only SMS she didn't answer, last time I thought she didn't want to write me because we see each other the next day anyway, so I understood that, but now it's a bit different. I don't want to annoy her by writing too many SMS, so I won't ask her again, what reason could she have to not answer? Do you think she just asked me how i am as a nice gesture, but she is not really interessted in what i'm replying? maybe she fears that if she replies it could seem to me as if she would be interessted in me but she isn't at all... I hope not, but that's the only reasonable explanaition for me at the moment... what do you think?

I don't date often. I mean is it usual for the guy to pay? I don't know that girl very good, I've met her only yesterday evening and we chatted just a few minutes. I know it would be kind if I do, but is it impudent if I don't?

I'm meeting a girl tonight who I met in a chat room, we go to the movies. Should I pay the tickets and drinks for her?

Did you tell him that you love him and these were his words in return? If so, then I'm not entirely sure. But normally people say that they have feelings for somebody if they are in love with somebody. So I think it's very good possible that he's falling in love with u. But like I said, it's difficult to say with just that information.

Thank you all for your advice, I think you're right, that's what I'm gonna do, stay friends, give it some time. No she didn't talk about her boyfriend, I'm not sure though whether she knows that I know that she has a b/f at all. And I surely didn't ask about him. No, I love her for years already, we used to attend the same school once. It was even her I shared my first kiss with... and unfortunately it was the only one yet. We didn't see us for quite a while afterwards.

This post could be one of mine. I'm probably also the standard "shy guy", and the girl I love, but who isn't my girlfriend yet, is the one I shared the first kiss with. If you really think that she loves you too, u shouldn't hesitate. You should tell her. And I really advice you to tell her as soon as possible, because I have had a very hurtful experience with that, I waited to long, and then I heard that she got a boyfriend. I was so hurt, you can't imagine, so you better tell her as soon as possible!!! You must overcome yourself, I know it's not easy but you must give it a try!

Ok, I've got a question. There is a girl, and I think she likes to hang out with me. For example she asked me to go shopping with her (of course I agreed) and then she asked me whether I maybe could explain her some math once... things like that. Now the problem is, I love her, but she has a boyfriend. I don't know what to do, because I'm not sure whether she acts like that just as a friend or whether she is interessted in me. Do you think it's normal for girls who are taken to hang out with other guys? Tnx for any replies.

Thx for your reply! I live in Switzerland, there's a big time difference between us, it wasn't 3:00 in the morning. Don't know whether you're right, I'm trying to handle it, but I can't forget her... there is some hope in my life though, because from October on I'll work in the same town as her, so I'll see her every day on the bus.

I failed! I mean I didn't talk to her, but I learned that she got a boyfriend. I'm feeling soooo bad, I've never felt like this before. It's the saddest time in my life! I've never cried since my childhood, but when I heard that she's taken, I was so sad that in the night I even got tears in my eyes. Don't know what to do. I thought that after I know that she has a bf I could forget her, but I can't. Hope you've had more success, have you? Tell me, did u talk to him? Are u 2 together now? btw: u asked me where i'm from, i'm from Switzerland

ooooooooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhh noooooooooooooooooooooooooooo, i'm such an idiot, i waited too long, now it's too late, she's got a boyfriend !!! My heart is broken and I guess it will never ever be whole again. This is the saddest day in my whole life! What can I do now, nothing I guess, ohhhhhhhhhhh noooooo I want to die.

I'm shy too, and I like a girl, whom I don't know whether she likes me too the way I like her, but I just don't know how to ask her about it. My advice to you, do something together, ask him for a trip to somewhere, not just the 2 of you, maybe together with friends of you and him, so you will maybe get an opportunity to tell him. And if he feels the same, then he will probably be very glad that you told him, maybe he just didn't dare to ask you the same (like me with the girl I was talking about).

we had a first kiss, but that's a long time ago, we used to go to school together, it was at the first party our school class had organized (don't know if you know that over there, in my country school classes use to do parties sometimes) and there was a game, i don't know how to explain it in english sorry, but the thing is that this girl and i had to kiss, actually she wanted to kiss me and of course i agreed (at this time she had a boyfriend, but since it was a game we had a reason to kiss). But that's the only kiss we ever shared and that was YEARS ago. btw: probably this kiss game sounds strange, but it is not really, I just don't know the right expressions to explain it hey blondebabe22, let's have an agreement, you talk to your guy and tell him how you feel and I try to talk to my girl and tell her about my feelings, ok? actually there's no reason why u and him, resp i and she shouldn't be friends afterwards, is there? i mean we just tell them how we feel like...

I'm in a similar position as you, but this girl i love i know for years! there are signs that she might be interested in me too, however I really fear that if I tell her that I love her it maybe comes to a weird situation if she doesn't feel the same and maybe our friendship will be broken.

yes i think shy is cute

there is that girl in my life who i know since i was a small boy. in time i was getting more and more attracted by her. Then suddenly she changed school and we haven't seen each other for a while. But, always when I saw her somewhere I couldn't stop thinking of her the following days. After some time she called me, 'cause she had a problem with her comp, she knew i could help her. I was there and we chatted some words, and she asked me whether I have a girlfriend. I told her no and asked her the same question, she has no boyfriend. But the conversation didn't go deeper, 'cause both of us a quite shy. And now, it's about 2 years later, I'm 20 and she is 20, we met again. There was one of my flat-mates birthday, and his brother came here to surprise him, he didn't come alone, he came with his girlfriend and with the girl I was talking about. Now we've spent the evening, had fun, and sometimes there were these special moments when I and she were having eye-contact. Some times these were not just moments, but some longer moments. I think none of the other people noticed that. But we didn't talk about us. She has gone and now I'm in the same position as I've been so many times, she's always on my mind. Maybe I should call her, I really don't know, what if she has a boyfriend in the meantime? she is so pretty, why should she have no boyfriend, what if she is not interessted in me? but why would she have come to this little birthday party of my flat-mate, who she doesn't really know? I'm messed up, what should i do? thanks for any advice