Funny, not long ago I posted how my husband and I finally met in person at a bar after gaming for a couple of months. We both were not dressed up but I think we both were presentable. If it had been a "date" I definitely would have actually done my hair. But it wasn't, it was called a meet. I had it in topknot (like Mulan) and I just remembered thinking "I should have done my hair" the whole time we were together at the bar because I was thinking this man was hot (and he still is!) He did tell me he always liked my hair up and its what he saw when we were gaming online so I guess you can say, it worked out for me.
I think people can connect easily online - Ive done it many times where I meet a lot of gamers and we just clicked ONLINE, and then I actually hang out with them in real life, and they are just different. Its the same... I have staff under me who can write the most wittiest and funniest email and respond to me on Teams with the funniest messages in a split second, and when I go to lunch with them, they're just.... quiet....awkward. I'm like "hey where's that funny or smart arse side?"
So when you meet in real life, it can be so different. I think thats what happened and it comes down to compatibility. First impression is important to you, no question ask. This guy... not so much.
I am also a firm believer that when you meet someone, you just know. I think when you saw him, you just knew this isn't the guy for you.