It was very interesting to read through this thread. I would agree that reconciliations are quite common. They just aren't posted here as often. I think most relationships reach a point where both parties need time to evaluate. This is the case with mature couples, meaning they've been together for a year or longer.
My story is not a success story...yet. I just have a strong feeling things will take a turn. It's just a matter of when. I was dating a 37 year old man for about a year. I'm 31 no children and never married. Needless to say, I'm ready for that step in life. After college and a failed relationship, I met him. From the very beginning I thought, this was it. He's the one. I was very straightforward about where I was in my life. He has custody of his children from a previous relationshipp. We were a family and I was pretty much a step mother. I didn't realize that he may not want to grow the family. I became insecure about the future of the relationship and doubted him. This eventually took a toll on him. We had a series of problems and then out of no where, he decides to end things saying he doesn't want more children, but more importantly he didn't feel we would ever resolve our problems...my negative mindset. He gave up on me. I calmly packed my things and moved out. I tried to reach out a couple times, he responded saying he's been thinking about me a lot. After that, complete silence. He never responded to me ever again. I have furniture stored in my parents house that belongs to the landlord of the furnished apartment we rented. He never responded about picking that up. We broke up a month ago but I stopped trying to contact him 2 weeks ago. I just need to give him space. There are times I think he has made up his mind and will never go back on that, but I have faith he will turn this around. I've also gone on his Facebook page and he has been posting photos of flowers he sent me, quotes, and songs. I try not to look too much into it, but he knows I'm looking at it and I believe he is trying to get a reaction. I have always been the one to go running back to fix any problems we've had in the past. This is the first time I've completely let go of the rope. If he changes his mind, he has to show me he wants this for the roght reasons.
I am trying to respect his decision and I am giving him space. At the same time, I'm slowly starting to work on myself. Exercising and I've even started counseling. I found myself in church, haven't been there in about 20 years. I am going to come out of this a better person...with or without him. I'm practicing patience. I don't want to bother him again. I'm just going to wait until he comes back around. I have faith that if he loves me and has faith in us as he tried to instill in me for months, he will contact me. He's quite stubborn and that makes me doubtful I'd hear from him again, but I'm hopeful.
Hopefully, I will be back to update my story. Wishing all those who are in a similar situation lots of luck. Sit tight and have faith.