This is a pretty complicated stroy: Im a married guy, 36, two kids, fairly happy in my marriage...I didn't marry for love, though: I married out of a set of practical considerations with the most compatible woman I could find (I was under time pressure too). The long and short of it is that we are together 10 years now, we have two wonderful kids aged 5 and 2, and a good life together.
For a number of years, I have been "cybering" on IRC...never took it seriously, its just a form of entertainment for me...anyway, about 3 months ago, I cybered with this girl who claimed to be 18, and it was...well, stunning. Unlike anything I've ever done before on the internet (and I've done a lot...)
There are no words to describe how "real" it was. After a few days, she told me that we had to meet, that this was as amazing for her as it was for me... but that very night, at 2:30 AM, she sent me a text message saying she had just had sex with her BF, and all she could think of was me... the next morning she sent a series of texts telling how she couldn't allow herself to get involved, and she wanted it to end.
Well, that very night we were back at it on the 'net, she told me she couldn't stop, that I had gotten into her head and she couldn't get me out...that we would meet one day, but not now.
In the meantime, we began to talk, not just ****, and all sorts of "coincidences" appeared... we both became convinced that we were two halves of one whole, "twin flames" if you will, destined to be together, even if not right now.
Since then we are in constant contact - text messages, telephone calls, IRC... but have never met. I want to meet her, just to see her face, but she claims that if we were to meet it would release something in her that would only cause her pain and suffering if she couldn't be with me all the time...so she prefers not to get into it at all. But that doesnt stop her from calling in the middle of the night when she's happy, lonely, horny, sad, whatever...
...and for some bizarre reason, instead of just walking away, investing in my wife or finding another lover, I accept her reasoning, because I could never do anything to cause her pain...
She has tried to "cool things down" twice now, decided that she needs a break from me... but always makes contact again after a few hours saying she can't bear to be away.
I have, incidentally, "confirmed" that she really is who she claims to be... an 18-yo high school senior.
This has gone on for 3 months now, but my belief that we will be together someday just gets stronger and stronger.... she is so much a part of me. She is my sister, my lover, my twin... and 18 years my junior. And I have never met her.
I often wonder:
1. Is the (almost mystic) connection I feel with her real, or the product of my own silly hormones?
2. Is she just playing with me, using me for the attention she gets without having to commit anything from her side?
3. Is it just childish fantasy to think that someday...even in the distant future... we are bound to be together, or is there such a thing as destiny and twin souls?
Any comments would be appreciated