tenn22

Yes you can be religious but not be a Christian, but in the real question is do you have a relationship with God? You don't have be religious to have that, but you can't be a Christian without it. Its like saying, I am a going to heaven because I am a good person. Well, thats not true, the only way to God is through Jesus.

I don't that weed isn't any worse the cigarettes...it is addictive, and the smoke is still not good for your lunges. The drug it self may not be addictive but the feeling is. Thats what I find the problem is, its not that I need to escape life....its just a neat feeling, more relaxed....I have talked to a few people who say that when they smoke they feel more spiritual because the rest of the world seems far away....and you can focus more on God. And its true, when I was on shrooms, I had my bible with me 90% of the time and was "preaching" to the people I was with. I truly felt closer to God because I wasn't numb to my feelings.

Marriage is a delicate thing, as I learned takes time to do well. Sometimes we fail.

things have been much better, we had a good talk about it. We decided on a compromise for the issue, we decided using a condom would be ok for him. He seemed to enjoy it very much so! thanks for everybody's imput!

I agree, You HAVE to think of your kids. This will affect them in many many ways.......if you stay with her, and there is a lack of trust there, they will grow up not being able to trust their partners in future relationships. I would get family counselling! God Bless!

The reason I asked this question is becausee I have smoked weed and done shrooms once, I realize that I am being a hypocrite when I do things like that. I want to stop and am in process of doing so, but for anybody who has done that and enjoys the experience, its hard when your given another oppourtunity to do them. I know there is no excuse right?

I agree, and God shows us what we need. Its like in the matrix when Morphious says to Neo, " I can show you the door, but you have to walk through it." Its the same with God, He shows us His Word and He shows us how we can be saved by Him. And yes to a certain extent we make our own salvation, but we don't save ourselves, God does that. We just make choices to get to that point or not to. You could use it this way....God gave us all free will, and at 9/11 when those men flew the planes into the WTCs they claimed it was for God. I truly believe that God didn't not want them to commit murder against innocent people, its against one of the ten commandments.....but they have free will and made that choice to do that. Unfourtunately its the same for the enemy. The devil will show you the door and you can choose to walk through it or not. Every decision is like a cross road to God and to the enemy.

sure, Christians who do drugs casually...ie) Weed, shrooms...etc....just say......every couple of months....what do people think about that?

What do people think about this subject?

Remember God has forgiven us for all of our sins, thats why Jesus died on the cross. God just expects us to turn to him when we need to make decisions. And when we make poor ones thats causes consequences...not always God punishing us...its the decisions that we made that caused them. Does that make sense?

Have you guys separated before? Maybe you should see if she'll go to counselling? So basically she's cheated on you 7 or so times, thats a lot....once is a lot......I would say she loves you but doesn't respect you and the bonds of marriage. What else is going on in you marriage that may have caused this to happen? Look at all angles...and God Bless! Hopefully everything works out for you guys, one way or another.

hey, I am 22 almost 23 and have been married for almost a year. From the sounds of it your girlfriend is trying to pressure you into doing something that your not ready for. Marriage is something you need to be ready for. If you turn this around and if she were asking you for sex and you weren't ready for it...and she said "if you loved me......" Is that right? No, if she respects you, the way she should...then she should understand that your not ready yet...you may want to in the future just not yet. If you choose to get married and you don't want t o yet......you won't enjoy the experience as much......God intended us to enjoy marriage, not be pressured into it. We chose to get married young because we were ready...both of us. I wouldn't have said yes if I wasn't ready...don't ask her if your not ready. Worse situation maybe you need to have a talk with her and make her understand that your not ready.....and thats final.....your request, in this situation, out ranks hers because of the severity of the whole situation. You know what I mean? good luck!

Thats very true for many things poppet, but while we are on earth, we still need to seek Him and try to find out everything we can about Him.

Thank you all for your replies. All were encouraging. I know God has a plan for me in my life. ......I am not sure what else to say..but thank you for your encouragment.

[ I just have so many questions.. and concerns about my beliefs. And to compound the problem.. my mom is sick with cancer and needs prayers right now. yet, I feel guilty praying because of all of these questions and doubts. So, I COMPLETELY feel your pain!!!!!! Thank you for responding. THERE IS A GOD! Although I struggle, I know he does or doesn't do things for a reason, and many many times we don't understand. NEVER feel guilty praying. I know what you mean when you say that, because I feel it too, when I haven't done anything for God, and then I ask him to protect my husband or something like that. But God doesn't see that as a bad thing! Just on another note, dating an athiest.......not helping. But thank you for responding!