LittleMiss

It is very possible to achieve all of your goals and be a single parent. Of course it is going to be harder, but it is all up to you. Now, I know you think this is in the best interest of the child, but he has been with you for six years, you are his mother and if he's like most six year old boys he loves you unconditionally. At six years old children do not understand the concept of "I will have a better life here". I think it would feel more like abandonment. It really does sound like you are going through a selfish phase, and to give up your little boy will really end up hurting you in the end. Your number one interest should be that little boy, and making a better life for him with you in it. There are a lot of resources out there for single parents, including child care. Most colleges have on site child care for a low cost/no cost. Please look at all your options before you make such a drastic decision…

Whatever you decide to do, just remember to be strong

Kalobaby, I'm sorry you have to go through this. Five years is a long time and I'm sure you think you have a lot invested in this relationship. The only thing is that, basically, your whole life with him was based on lies. It wasn't a healthy relationship, because it was not equal. As you said, you built your life around him. For five years he has let you do this and what sacrifices has he made? He still has his wife, his family and you. It's not fair for you, and yes, you do deserve somebody better. You need to find someone who will put you first, who doesn't manipulate you, or string you along. I think you should look at it like this; this man took five years of your life. I'm not saying that these years were wasted, but they were invested in someone who didn't truly commit to you. I know he says he doesn't sleep with his wife, but do you honestly believe that? I know it's easier said then done, but you should just cut him off. You don't need to explain to him, why. I'm sure he'll get it... If you have to have some type of closure, though, write to him. You can say all that you want, as long as you want with no interruptions, or excuses from him. Be strong and realize that you can do so much better, and don't ever settle for less again.

Hi Meagan, I'm not an expert on this issue by any means, however, I have learned a little about cutting. It is basically a way of dealing with emotions. When someone is sad, stressed or angry they might cry, talk or (yell) etc. to help release the anxiety. When you cut yourself it is your way of releasing that anxiety. As I'm sure you already know, it's not the best way to deal with feelings and it is dangerous. I hope this helped. Here is a site that can give you all kinds of information on cutting. link removed

NotJustAnybody, A nice way to show him could be to send him a card (not email) . There are so many cards that can express a range of emotions, so I'm sure you could find the right one. Or, how about sending three blank cards. The first day you send out one with just an "I" on it. You could even right a little note to say hi, or something. The second day you send out one with "love" or a heart on it. The third day you can send out the last one with "you", and then just spill the beans on that one. It's something different.