under_the_pressure

I want to get my man something special. We've been together 2 years, & I want to set something up for us to do. I don't just want to get him some chocolates or a teddy bear and that's it. I want to set up for us to go somewhere, and do something. But I don't know what. & then on top of that I want to get him a gift. Any ideas on where we could go? What we could do? & what I could get him? thanks.

Any more advice from anyone?

I will talk to my Mom about it. I'm just scared of what she'll think. I know she won't mind, if we did date. But, it's I used to live with him. Fight with him. Play outside with him. We were such good friends he'd sleep on my bedroom floor at nights and we'd stay up late and talk all night. And I know I won't be able to just jump right in and be serious. We'd definatly have to take it slow. Especially with the physical things.

Thanks for your advice. I just want to clear some things up. And agree with you on some other things. I'm sure most people would have something to say. (We're incest, it's disgusting..etc.) But the life I have lived, everyone always has something to say. I once heard, 'you can't let the way you live your life be affected by what other people think.' We don't live in the same town or county anymore. My Mom and I have moved about 30 miles away. In a different town. I don't even see much of who I use to be friends with. (I homeschool now, people grow apart...etc) My Mom honestly wouldn't care. Her and her ex-husband get along great now that they're divorced. I don't know what his Dad would say. But, like I said, we aren't blood. It would just be as if we had known eachother for a long time and started dating. Yes our parents were married. Had no children together. People have always made fun of me. I honestly don't care. I'm a beautiful, amazing soul, so if someone feels the need to criticize the way I'm living my life, they should look at their own. I haven't really even thought about truly pursuing it. I just wanted some advice. Thanks.

Most people will probably find this really weird, or gross. I just want to know people's opinions on it. My Mom and my (ex) step-dad were married about 6 years. From when I was about 4 to 10 years old. They've been divorced for about 6 years now. I had a step brother, he is 2 years older than I. I was joking around with my Mom and said I wish you'd never married *****, because (we'll call him Kyle) Kyle, is such a sweet person. And would have been a great boyfriend. Just joking around. I told him that tonight and he said "We aren't brother and sister anymore." Which we aren't. We were only step-related before. But now their divorce is final, a long time ago. He said, we aren't related so why couldn't we date. Now, is this weird? Would you do it? He's a awesome person. We've been great friends since we've met. We have a blast together. But I want other opinions. It's not incest, we aren't related. Only 6 years ago by marriage. Reply back please. And please don't judge.

I know. I deserve better. But for a year he's been my everything. It just hurts. Really bad.

Listen people, it doesn't matter. He dumped me today. He told me he doesn't love me. We worked for a year just for this. Thanks for the advice though. How long does it take for a broken heart to heal? I will live through this right?

Almost a year.

I'm the type of person who is laid back, I don't freak out much, just a mellow kinda person. But 3 things, have caused more arguing in my relationship then they should. And I need advice, because I really don't want to lose the man I love over this. 1. Smoking. (Ciggarettes) I don't have anything against smokers. My Mom smokes, my brother, alot of people I know. But I do have an issue with the guy I'm dating and whether or not he smokes. A. It causes cancer. (Gpa died of cancer, last year.) B. Kissing someone who has smokes...go ahead and lick an ashtray. C. What does it do for you? "Calms you down." Don't start in the first place and find something else. (This is not directed at any smokers, it's just about my boyfriend.) 2. Drinking. I don't see the point in drinking and then doing something stupid. Wake up the next morning, regretting it/not knowing what you did, and having a hangover. I don't get it, really. A. My boyfriend is severely diabetic. B. It really doesn't have a point. C. We fight when he drinks. Because he gets OBNOXIOUS. 3. Smoking Marijuana. My life, for 16 years has revolved around drugs. My Dad left us because drugs are better. More important. My brother is in jail because of drugs. My Dad tried to sell my brother and I when we were little for drugs. A. It's illegal. B. All you do is lay around and eat. C. Once again, I don't see the point. When my boyfriend and I got together (last summer) we went through these phases. We smoked for about 2 weeks, then I threw the pack out the window and said, "no more." We drank, quite often. Not alot at a time, but probably every weekend. And we went through our smoking pot phase, we did it everyday for about a month. Then I said no more. It's pointless. Well, he gets around guys and they are all doing it, so he has to. In order to be "cool." Sunday night, is Senior Party. That's why this is worrying me so much. I'm scared he's going to do all 3. We'll fight. I'm scared he is going to do something with another girl...Yes, I'm insecure. A part of me is saying, "Go be a teenager. Have fun. Be stupid. Make mistakes." The other half is saying, "You're too mature for that. It's dumb. Don't go and do cliche' things, because everyone else is." (I've never went with the flow, I do my own things.) I just don't want to lose him over something like this. What should I do? I've tried talking to him. I've said, "Baby, I'm scared about the party. I'm scared you are going to get drunk and forget that I'm there. That you'll do something stupid." He says, "Be quiet. Don't stay stupid crap like that." I love him. Don't tell me to break up with him. Don't lecture. Just give straight up advice, please. Greatly Appreaciated, Alicia

We are now getting ready to be kicked out of our house. We don't have a car to live in either. We honestly don't have anywhere to go. It won't be long until my boyfriend and I get our own place, but now my Mom said "Why don't you get a 2 bedroom, so I can live with you. And Andrew. (my brother) and his dog." I couldn't say no. I didn't say yes though. 1. My Mom doesn't pay rent. She spends money on other stupid crap. 2. We can't have pets. We aren't going to sneak around and keep a pet either. 3. I can't live with her!!!

She wouldn't. She's not that type of person. She keeps everything to herself. I love her with all my heart. I just can't take living with her when she treats me like this.

She's always been like this. Her Mom left her on a doorstep when she was little. She almost died because her Mom didn't feed her. And when she was 27 she found out that her father she knew all her life, wasn't her real father. She went to a therapist before. But she quit. (Money Issues) My Mom is the worst communicator I know. I ask her something and she just kinda stares at me. So unless I pry, I don't get anywhere with talking to her. But if I do pry, then she yells at me. And I hate being yelled at. I would rather have physical pain then her yelling at me. The thing I don't get is, why does she take everything out on me? My brother (who I love to death) is 18. He has never had a job for more than 4 days. He (was) into drugs, very bad. He quit school. He is completely lazy. But he never gets yelled at. It's always me. I don't get it. I talk to my boyfriend about it, but he has the Brady Bunch kinda life and I have the...Jerry Springer kinda life. He just looks at me. He doesn't know what to say. His Mom and Dad are together. I just can't live with her when she keeps making me feel like I am a horrible person. My boyfriend and I can support ourselves. He is getting a new job, making $30 an hour. I'll have a job. We don't need fancy things. Just an apartment.

Hi everyone. As you can tell by the title, I definitly need some help/advice. I'll give you a briefing of my relationship with my mom. I'm 16. I live with her. I have my whole life because my "dad" is a drug addict and chose that over us. I have an older brother he's 18. Right now he's in jail, he has been for 3 months. He gets out in a week. I consider my Mom my best friend. She's always there for me and I'm always there for her. But here lately she keeps saying that I hate her. I quit my job, because there were drugs all over the place where I worked. I plan on getting a job at the beginning of June. I'm not the cleaniest person in the world, but I'm a lazy teenager like everyone else. I do help out though. I do laundry and dishes. When I do have money and I do need things, I'll give my Mom the money instead for bills, food..etc. Last week she dumped her boyfriend because she came home at 6am and he was drunk. They were together only 2 months. The whole time, he told us his Mom had died, and he was getting $250,000, he was depressed. Blah Blah Blah. Turns out, his Mom is alive. The whole time he was with my Mom he was still seeing his ex wife too. So, my Mom got really upset. I talked to her letting her know she can do WAY better than that. She agreed. Last night she was gone all night long. This morning I get home and he is at the house. She thinks I hate her just because I don't like seeing her get hurt time after time. Because I tell her that I don't like him, I won't like him and if she gets back with him then I'm moving out. She tells me, "I don't pick and choose your boyfriend's so you shouldn't pick and choose mine." I'm not picking. I just don't want to see her get hurt again and again. He's an alcoholic, he's into drugs, he's abusive. But she doesn't care. She always said men would come first, but I really don't think so this time. My boyfriend and I are getting ready to move about an hour away, in about 5 or 6 months. So she takes it as I don't need her anymore, that she's horrible, just because I'm moving away. She said "well since you are doing that, then I'm going away" Meaning, far. I cry everytime my Mom leaves. To go to the store, to work, to anywhere. Because she has told me so many times that she might just leave and never come back. I don't want to lose another parent. I don't want her walking out too. Just because I am 16 and can handle myself, I'm not ready for my Mom to leave me. I tried telling her all of this, she just stared at me with cold, emotionless eyes. She is the most unhappy person I've ever met. Yet she has two beautiful healthy kids. What do I do? What do I say? I just don't know anymore. I'm not a bad teenager either. I don't drink or smoke or do any drugs. I hang out with my boyfriend. That's all. PLEASE REPLY.

His best friend and I don't get along. This is how the girls are getting the numbers. I know that, his friend even told me that. We do not like eachother. He loves me. I love him. All I want to know is how I can keep myself from thinking something will happen. Deep down I know nothing will...but I still freak out. I'm not leaving him. Nobody knows what our relationship is like. I love him. He loves me.

Thanks for your advice. But I love him. I will not leave him. I just want to know how I can keep from acting like this. A part of me is saying "You know he loves you. He won't do anything" And I believe that.. Then another part is saying "Girls are evil. And if they want something they can get it."