Capricorn3

He's not taking you for granted. He's simply not into you anymore (sorry). It's still early days and already he's fading - that's your cue to walk out the door and keep walking. There's no happy future with this guy. Don't go wasting years trying to win him back, it aint gonna happen.

You did the right thing. You dodged a bullet and whatever you do, do NOT respond to him if he starts sending you sweet messages etc. Block and be glad he's gone. And never ever share nude pictures with anyone, because they will be shared and spread around the great big web.

What to do? Learn to accept that you have to take a back seat - you are no longer in the picture, so to speak. He has chosen his wife. Put her first. And you no longer belong there simply because it has been made clear that you are not welcome anymore. As much as it hurts, you can't change it and you have to learn to accept that times are changing. His wife doesn't want you around so stop badgering him. Respect their relationship and start the slow fade. It is what it is and not much you can do about it.

When reading your post several times I can see why you get no results with dating. The men who you deem to be "inferior" but yet in relationships are probably successful because they do not display narcissistic misogynistic hatred towards women. Also, your very first opening sentence was already off-putting - can you guess why? Showing off and bragging is also not very appealing to most people and just because you have "lots of big muscles" doesn't automatically mean that you will attract all women - (speaking for myself only, I can't stand the muscle gym rat look, I find it gross). Some self-reflection might go a long way because all the things you think are important, are not. Carry on the way you are and you'll continue to have zero success.

He's showing you his real, true character and what you see is what you get. All of this abuse in only 3 months?? Ask yourself, do you really visualise yourself living this way for the rest of your life with someone like this who treats you like trash and has zero respect for you? This guy is a toxic, dysfunctional mess and the sooner you leave the better. Be done and head for the hills. If you stay, knowing how badly he treats you (which will only get worse), then that's on you. Leave.

You do know this is abuse, right? You have absolutely no right to tell her to "go home immediately" or to "cuss at her when she doesn't listen". And no, she does not "need to listen to you". You are not her parent. She is not a young child. You are way out of line. I am not surprised her parents don't like you. What to do? - Leave her alone and learn from this. Perhaps you need to look into professional help - therapy to help you address all of your controlling abusive issues/behaviour. It would be of great benefit to you.

What's even more frightening is that there are so many of these cases it's almost hard to catch up. "Happy" family man, beautiful wife and gorgeous children, dream house with a white picket fence, constant happy family snap shots on all social media etc etc ...... only to end with him murdering the entire family, throw them down wells, bury them in the desert and on and on and on. And then go on TV, "crying" (with not a tear in sight), begging everyone to please help find his missing family. It's horrendous. I won't express my thoughts on what I would like for their punishment .......

^ This. OP, can you give us some idea of what exactly you're looking for? If you really don't want advice, perhaps posting in the Journal forum will be helpful to you.

I agree with both posters above. OP, it seems you're living in denial. Marriage counseling and therapy sound like a very good idea at this point. The sooner the better. Following that, a good attorney.

OP, this is the fourth thread you have about this same topic. Perhaps time to look into professional counseling/therapy to help you get over this as clearly nothing else has worked.

Am I the only one here who instantly thought "Eww eww" when reading those words? That would have been so off-putting (to me). OP, keep any and all flirting outside of work - it has no place with your job and colleagues.

^ That's all you need to know and it's your cue to head for the hills, FAST, and never look back. He should remain an EX forever and it would be extremely foolish to get involved with anyone who has that record. No amount of sweet talk and sweet words change the fact of what he did, which btw, shows his true character. Continue with your therapy and share this information with him/her.

I have always gone with the phrase "when in doubt, don't". It has saved me many times from making the wrong decision. That doesn't make you a bad person. Everyone should do what is right for them. Your girlfriend also deserves someone who can give her what she needs. Maybe time for the both of you to lay all your cards on the table so that you both have a clear understanding on which way this relationship is heading.

And with that, Thread closed.

I have nothing more to add to all the above comments, other than to say I second them all. He needs to be an EX.