Has anyone ever had a masturbating addiction? Need help ending mine...

I'm sure it might be a touchy and/or embarrassing subject for some people but whatever...I've had this problem for over 2 years now and it really seems like I can't stop.

Before people point out the obvious solution of getting laid, I don't plan on doing it pretty soon, I'd rather just cut out the habit.

Usually it'll be once every 2 days or something like that, but at times I'll do two times in one day. Over the course of over 2 years now that I think of it...that's terrible. And I suppose enough sperm to fill a fish tank.

For me the urge is just overwhelming sometimes and if I go too long without doing it I'll just feel like I need to do it even more. I swear, the symptoms and results of not doing it makes me feel like a crackhead without his crack. Or maybe 20% of the time I just feel like I'm under stress and doing it seems like the best way to relieve my stress.

When I do it to overcome stress I do feel a bit better afterwards, I feel more relieved. But if I'm not under those circumstances, if I just do it because I haven't done it in that short span of time and the urge comes, then after I cum I feel relaxed and not all tense like I did when thinking "damn i need to masturbate" but I also feel like * * * * and always say to myself "why am i doing this, i need to stop, this times the last etc..."

that * * * * never happens.

However when I'm around people, the thought or urge to masturbate never comes up at all really, I noticed that. When I'm at college I don't dare do it in my room whether or not my roomate is there, I'll only think of it when he's gone for the weekend and I know I'm okay cuz the shame in being walked in on for me would be unbearable. But yeah if I sleep over at a friends house for a week on vacation, the thought or urge never comes up at all.

That led me to believe I'm alot more confident, secure, and happy when I'm around people since I don't feel the need to masturbate. When I'm alone, the feeling to do so is alot stronger. I've read articles that masturbation is directly depression related but was never sure, with my case I think masturbating makes me depressed, and depression makes me wanna masturbate. Which is a lose-lose situation really.

When I think of it the solution is simple. Just stop. Or just constnatly be around people but I don't think I can cuz I need my own space and privacy.

Anyways, I just wanted to share my problem, and see if anyone had similar stories or experiences they'd like to share, thanks all.

I may be reading this wrong but I don't see where you have an "addiction" to masturbating. I knew a guy that did it almost 5 times a day...every day. If it isnt affecting your social life then what your average is is normal.

Once every two days is almost nothing at all. I'm sure I'm not alone in thinking you have no problem other than guilt for rubbing your nub.

There's nothing to feel guity about, and you should enjoy having a functional healthy body. There's nothing at all harmful about it, and it's a good stress reliever.

At your age, I'm surprised you can even skip a day. You don't have an addiction... just hormones. And it's a better way to reduce stress than drinking or drugs.

You have to much time on your hand's, thats what it sounds like. But what you must also remember that we all masturbate. I've known people that have sometimes done it so many times in one night that it started to hurt them. I've found myself going five day's without playing on the devil's bagpipes, then I go at it like a spider monkey.

There is no one thing that will stop you doing the “nasty” but if you want to slow down the alone time do something like read a book, play games, go for a run, the list is endless.

The reason you don't think about in front of other people is because you mind is on other things. Just try and keep yourself busy. Hope you find this useful and power to you friend. I'd shake your hand but....well you know.

But what you must also remember that we all masturbate.

I don't masturbate...I also am pretty indifferent to sexual things.

Personally, I think if the OP wants to stop then it is okay. I masturbated when I was maybe 17 and got bored with it pretty quickly. I pretty much stopped cold turkey.

Stop spending so much time alone. You can't do that when you're around other people... I hope. lol

Thanks 2 all of you guys, From what everyone has said masturbating on a daily basis at my age is more than normal. I guess that dehumanizes all Catholic adolescents unless the church is willing to believe 99% of their go-ers are mortal sinners lol.

You have to much time on your hand's, thats what it sounds like. But what you must also remember that we all masturbate.

 

There is no one thing that will stop you doing the “nasty” but if you want to slow down the alone time do something like read a book, play games, go for a run, the list is endless.

The reason you don't think about in front of other people is because you mind is on other things. Just try and keep yourself busy. Hope you find this useful and power to you friend. I'd shake your hand but....well you know.

LOL thanks for that, specially the last comment which made me chuckle. Makes alotta sense I think, so long as I'm occupied and doing something I like, the urge won't come up as much.

I don't masturbate...I also am pretty indifferent to sexual things.

 

Personally, I think if the OP wants to stop then it is okay. I masturbated when I was maybe 17 and got bored with it pretty quickly. I pretty much stopped cold turkey.

Not 2 make this a sex war but hormones are different so yeah...I mean, I'm sure females enjoy masturbating as much as males, but I don't think they do it nearly as much unless there's a secret society that dictates "dont let the guys know we get off w/ ourselves"

I think I'll do what someone said which was to keep myself busy with things, that should help alot not only with beatin off but life in general, and I won't feel as guilty about masturbating when I do, prior to today I found it something quite embarrassing and abnormal.

good to see i was of some help.

I have a policy against masturbating and it's successful.

Day-Masturbation is illegal and I give myself three strikes in a month.

Day-Masturbation is defined as masturbation during waking hours, it's simply avoidable by staying awake and out of the bed and doing something that people normally do during waking hours, like work, walk, read a book, whatever....

Porn has been strike-blocked so I haven't viewed it, so there is no 'fuel' available anywhere to encourage any masturbation.

Nocturnal Masturbation is more difficult because you are inside the bed and if you are unable to sleep, sexual tension can build up to a point where you feel you need to release yourself in order to go to sleep.

To avoid this I have set up a coupon system -- I'd pay myself $ 2.00 every day for not masturbating during the night, plus an additional $ 5.00 for every effort not to masturbate during the night -- and that incentive is working somewhat. It feels good when you reward yourself afterwards.

I pre-print all the $ 2.00 coupons for a month in advance, so that each night I keep clean, I claim the coupon, but if I fail, the coupon will be ripped off for that day.

To aid in fighting nocturnal masturbation - the following steps I would adhere to:

- If you need to take a bowel movement, go ahead and do so before sleeping. Excess stuff in your system prevents you from sleeping and could get you hard.

- Take a shower if it's a hot and humid night prior to sleeping. If you are sweaty and perspiring, it will be difficult to sleep and thus you are more prone to masturbate just to catch some sleep.

- Allow 30 minutes of a deflection activity during the night if you are unable to sleep and feel the urge to masturbate. For example, try doing something you would consider fun, watch tv, crosswords, eat food, whatever, then 30 minutes later return back to bed (of course rewarding yourself with the $ 5.00 coupons for each attempted effort).

- Buy a bottle of red wine or some alcohol so you can take a shot and hopefully that will dope you to sleep if needs be. Or incorporate that into the 30 minutes.

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So far, after this new policy has been implemented, I have not masturbated once during the daytime in the month of July, and perhaps only once during the night time in this month to date and that was because I could not sleep at all and I was desperate. I'm losing libido and interest in masturbating.

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Question: What is my final recourse if I break my own rules - or fail my own strikes?

I intend to purchase health food store herbs that are known for libido suppressing qualities, or buy a product over the internet link removed or a slue of products out there designed to curb down the libido.

Last recourse is to remove the internet altogether as punishment.

You print coupons to pay yourself to not masturbate?

Whatever turns you off, I suppose.

You REALLY do all this?????? This is a little much don't you think? All this because you want to punish and reward yourself for masturbating? You have waaaaay toooooo much time on your hands.

Luke is training himself to become impotent.

AYE CARUMBA!!! You can say that again DAKO. LOL WOW!!

Luke is training himself to become impotent.

Yes, especially with those 'antiviagra' drugs that he is considering buying.

That's dangerous territory Luke (unless you don't intend to have a sexual life in future).

Back to the OP: once every two days is not much IMO. I have heard of guys who average ten times a day. If it bothers you then the only way to stop it is to ensure that you NEVER spend time alone, especially near your computer. When the urge to masturbate overwhelms you, take a long jog or go to the gym and work out furiously. If you can go for 2 months without masturbating then you will probably find that the urge to do it at all will disappear completely.

Luke,

You're scaring me, buddy!

To the OP:

Think of it this way: if you had a girlfriend or wife, it would not be unusual if you had a VERY active and robust sex life to have sex twice a day, morning and evening. This isn't the daily routine for most couples forever, but I've heard of high libido relationships where indeed this is the frequency. So you are within normal limits. As another poster said, you are at the peak age for males in regards to libido, so please do not try to repress anything. It is not interfering with anything else in your life, that is the mark of an addiction.

Luke the coupon reward system is too much for me, and besides bribing myself with my own money will never work in my case. And most importantly I'm not trying to KILL my libido at all, I plan on retaining a high libido so when I do start having sex my woman will be pleased. I just feel like I'm dependent on masturbating right now and it's being the groundstone for my depression and it has to stop or at least not occur as frequently.

Altruist and vamphater thanks for the tips, I've been doing good since I made this post yesterday, I guess I'll give updates in this thread after a few days, and then a week, and so forth after that.

On a side note, does anyone know if masturbating helps or harms your libido? I have heard that masturbating is bad for your libido...but then again, if you masturbate frequently, to me that equates to sex (minus the vagina) so I don't see how it can be harmful to your libido at the same time...And I suppose if anyone here is an expert or knowledgeable about achieving a high libido please share =]

You REALLY do all this?????? This is a little much don't you think? All this because you want to punish and reward yourself for masturbating? You have waaaaay toooooo much time on your hands.

I dont spend too much time on that, but even if I did consider this. Law enforcement requires lots of time, tax payers dollars, you have police, court systems, jails, a big sponge of all of that, yet it's necessary for the greater good of maintaining order in society.

Same concept is here - I in turn end up policing myself against masturbating and turn myself into an enforcement agency.

Yes, especially with those 'antiviagra' drugs that he is considering buying.

That's dangerous territory Luke (unless you don't intend to have a sexual life in future).

As an independent imaginary state with my own laws and enforcement procedures (and even judicial process) I have the right to take any means to ensure that I am in line with whatever rules or laws that I have in place, otherwise, I'd be an undisciplined anarchic mess.

The 'antiviaga' is a last resort - but since I'm successfully following my own rules/laws by not masturbating - it wont be necessary. I have not day-masturbated more than three times in any month, or do I have the desire.

I share this, my libido has just gone down like a nose-dive a few months after this policy was implemented after April 15, 2007.

I dont spend too much time on that, but even if I did consider this. Law enforcement requires lots of time, tax payers dollars, you have police, court systems, jails, a big sponge of all of that, yet it's necessary for the greater good of maintaining order in society.

 

Same concept is here - I in turn end up policing myself against masturbating and turn myself into an enforcement agency.

This is non-sensical if you ask me and comparing it to law enforcement is laughable. Sorry! Have you considered going into the priesthood?

Luke --

Is this mandatory life term we are talking about here?

On a side note, does anyone know if masturbating helps or harms your libido? I have heard that masturbating is bad for your libido...but then again, if you masturbate frequently, to me that equates to sex (minus the vagina) so I don't see how it can be harmful to your libido at the same time...And I suppose if anyone here is an expert or knowledgeable about achieving a high libido please share =]

I don't believe I've heard or seen any evidence whatsoever of masturbating decreasing libido over time. It might for about an hour after doing so, lol. But not in any cumulative way. Sex drive is sex drive, it is powered by hormones that are continually re-stimulating you. That is my basic knowledge.

However, in cases of men who very frequently masturbate, the semen load can be reduced. Of course this is not a permanent thing, just that if you don't give your 'nads a chance to "refuel", you're not going to extract as much unless you give it a break. I don't think this is anything for you to worry about, first of all because you aren't trying to conceive right now, and also because if you could have filled a fishtank already after 2 years (each orgasm being approximately 2 Tbsp. worth), I think you're doing just fine.

Luke --

 

Is this mandatory life term we are talking about here?

No, from October 1st, 2007 to December 31st, 2007, the laws change again, and masturbation in those periods should be completely legal, assuming I dont have any relationship with anyone.

Since I'm using the time before that to discipline myself against masturbating, I'd like to, for that time period coming up, relieve myself of all external rules, and see what I would naturally do.

This is non-sensical if you ask me and comparing it to law enforcement is laughable. Sorry! Have you considered going into the priesthood?

I'm not a Roman Catholic, and nowhere does it say in the Bible that marriage is wrong or something to be discouraged, and of such, I do not agree that avoiding marriage means a more spiritual life (especially if the partner you are marrying is spiritual herself and will encourage spiritual growth).

This is not about marriage it's about a private sexual vice. I need to do experiments and see how life is like without masturbating, and how it's like with it masturbating. In order to have controlled experiments it's necessary that in times where I"m making a non-masturbating contrast that I totally abstain from it, or at least regulate it so that is just stops.

Once I see that a lifestyle without masturbation is happier, blissful and feels better than a lifestyle that has it without any controls, then perhaps it may really good not to masturbate at all.

I hope you find what you're after, but lots of people try to stop wanking, only to find it too stressful. Some take Androcur or get castrated to live a pure and decent life.

When I wake up with a stiffy, I obey natural law.