VirginGirl85 Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 Ok so my boyfriend and I tried to have sex I'm a virgin he isnt. It had been a while for him. Anyways we tried to have sex but he couldnt get in. I'm really tight bc I dont finger myself very much. We also didn't have lube i think that had alot to do with it he had a condom on. It has been burning a lil could it be from the friction? how long would it last ? I 'm planning a doctors appointment. Link to comment
MikeyD Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 well since it is ur first time and u tight, he gotta finger u first. start with 1, and keep going till u stretch a lil and then do 2, enuff so it can stretch enuff for him to get it in. Btw. im a virgin guy too, im just talkin on whim, on wat i would do if i was to have sex wit a virgin, so u can take my advice with a grain of salt. Link to comment
VirginGirl85 Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 Yeah I am going to suggest that. also lube! I feel bad bc he thought it has him but I know it was a combo of me and lube. Link to comment
MikeyD Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 oh yea forgot lube, depending on the situation, lube can be very important. so yea, its ALWAYS good to finger a girl b4 going in, getting her wet would add extra lube and would make it easier if she extra tight as is ur case. U'll never hear a guy complain about too tight tho Link to comment
quietgrl Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 I'm starting to wonder did a man create lube because i notice women having a bad reaction too that stuff. Hey soon to be exvirgingirl85, How about you and your boyfriend stretching your vagina via finger before via penis. Link to comment
VirginGirl85 Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 I'm not sure I just feel its my fault because i was so tight. He wanted to make it special since it was my birthday Link to comment
MikeyD Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 dont ever blame urself, its ur first time, its natural for u to be extra tight, hell, it'd even be natural if it was to hurt more than anything and if u bleed. dont ever blame urself cuz of ur body, thats just gonna make u feel worse Link to comment
VirginGirl85 Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 i didnt bleed but for some reason the condom broke. most likely due to the friction. Link to comment
VirginGirl85 Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 thats y a good session of fingering b4 intercourse with a virgin is needed, u dont want the condom breaking midway Yeah no doubt. You guys have any advice for me on giving blowjobs ive never done it and he has never received it. Link to comment
MikeyD Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 WOW, if he have never received it (neither have I), im pretty sure he'd be happy with the fact that he's finally getting one (i know i sure damn would). Ok on to the advice from wat ive heard/seen thats good, make sure ur teeth NEVER TOUCH, dont try to put TOO much in ur mouth to the point where u gag but dont just be at the top either, while ur doing it, like jerk him off at the same time. umm, licking is good too, and last as long as needed, dont just stop right away, thats all i can think of Link to comment
VirginGirl85 Posted February 17, 2007 Author Share Posted February 17, 2007 lol ok MikeyD Link to comment
Siriana Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 I have a suggestion - since you never tried oral sex how about you two exploring each others bodies for a while prior to sex. That way you will learn a lot about forplay and what makes you both excited. Sex than will be easier. And it will come naturally. you can't just jump from inexperienced to super experienced. p.s. since he never got oral sex and you never tried giving you can just try and with comunication you will learn what feels great to both of you. Even if you're doing not so great he'll still be thrilled he is getting it. the only thing important - keep your teeth away. Link to comment
Gus Almighty Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 If hes never been with a virgin then this is a new experience for you both. He is probably nervous as all hell and frustrated because its not as easy as he thought it would be during insertion. You both must understand and have a bit of patience and you'll be just fine. Also if the lube is bothering you then try another brand, not every woman reacts the same to the same product. Right now you will really want that because you will hurt more without it at first. Link to comment
valenski Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 You guys have some foreplay or did you just went right to the deed? If you dont, then you should. Besides setting the mood, foreplay stimulates the vagina to secreat the body's own natural lubrication into the vaginal canal, hence the expression "I'm wet". Link to comment
Hope75 Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 You being nervous because it's your first time can also cause your vaginal muscles to clench up and make it harder for him to enter. So my advice is lots of lube, lots of foreplay, don't rush things, relax, feel comfortable and move at a pace that works for you. If it takes a couple of these "sessions" that it Ok- there is no rush and the more relaxed you both are, the easier it will be. Link to comment
VirginGirl85 Posted February 18, 2007 Author Share Posted February 18, 2007 Ok since there are more than one post that I am writing to I'm going to pull it all together. First of all yes we did go right to the deed I know bad idea. I love him so much and wish I could fix this but like people say if its not broke dont fix it. Nothing is bad just we are going too fast. I learned one thing lube is important. I really didn't think it would be that important to have but I now know it is a main thing to have! Thanks to everyone. Link to comment
isisastaria Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 This all seems so ... I don't know...wrong! Are you SURE you want to do this? In complete respect for you, are you really ready? Virginity is GOOD! REALLY! Link to comment
VirginGirl85 Posted February 18, 2007 Author Share Posted February 18, 2007 This all seems so ... I don't know...wrong! Are you SURE you want to do this? In complete respect for you, are you really ready? Virginity is GOOD! REALLY! I am I love my boyfriend and I believe that I am old enough to know what I am or not ready for. I understand what you mean though. But my question is why do you think it is wrong? Link to comment
kr356 Posted February 19, 2007 Share Posted February 19, 2007 Ok so my boyfriend and I tried to have sex I'm a virgin he isnt. It had been a while for him. Anyways we tried to have sex but he couldnt get in. I'm really tight bc I dont finger myself very much. We also didn't have lube i think that had alot to do with it he had a condom on. It has been burning a lil could it be from the friction? how long would it last ? I 'm planning a doctors appointment. the discomfort would most likely be from the fiction, you need to use some kind of lube, some girls will lubricate themselves enough and others will need a little help also you may want to do other things before he tries penetration him fingering you, or licking you (if you let him do that) this will help when he tries to have sex with you again as it will give you some lubrication and when you are arroused you will be less tight, more relaxed Link to comment
VirginGirl85 Posted February 21, 2007 Author Share Posted February 21, 2007 the discomfort would most likely be from the fiction, you need to use some kind of lube, some girls will lubricate themselves enough and others will need a little help also you may want to do other things before he tries penetration him fingering you, or licking you (if you let him do that) this will help when he tries to have sex with you again as it will give you some lubrication and when you are arroused you will be less tight, more relaxed Yeah next time I wil suggest lube and foreplay we took it to fast Link to comment
belissima86 Posted February 21, 2007 Share Posted February 21, 2007 Excellent site: link removed Link to comment
belissima86 Posted February 21, 2007 Share Posted February 21, 2007 Don't worry, it's not porn or anything!!! Link to comment
kr356 Posted February 21, 2007 Share Posted February 21, 2007 Yeah next time I wil suggest lube and foreplay we took it to fast that happens when it's your first time, i was the same for my first time, pretty much jsut jumped right on lol. not a good idea, makes it really painful.. Link to comment
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