InsertNameHere Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 Ok, so I have been out of the dating game for a while, but am just getting back into it because I was dumped awhile ago. So anyway, I met this girl through a friend. The friend called me over one night and it was her and room-mate. So me and a friend went over to just hang out. ANyways, its getting pretty late and I have been getting signals from the girl all night. We have had a few beers, but nothing to much. Since Im getting signals I go in for the kiss, and we end up making out for awhile, and then later fool around. She wanted to have sex but I declined. Anyways, after its pretty late so I head out. But then yesterday, I went over there again with another friend in hopes I would see this girl cause I didnt pick up her number. The whole time I'm there though, she just stayed in her room. She didnt say anything.. which I thought was odd? I just ended up talking to her room mate, and then left. It was kind of weird. I know that this girl does not get around and is not a , and judging by her friends she seems interested, but could it just have been a hookup? I wouldnt mind trying to pursue a relationship, but I am confused? Link to comment
jengh Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 I don't know. She could've just been embarrassed for going as far as she did. I know you said you only had a few beers, but maybe she was buzzing, and regrets what she did. It's possible she just wants to avoid confrontation. I' have no idea why she wouldn't even come out of her room. Did you ask her roommate? Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 She wanted to have sex but I declined It is possible that she thought you were rejecting her. For college aged women, they are so used to having men attempt to have sex with them all the time that when a man does turn down sex, the woman can be pretty shocked and offended! Maybe that is why she didn't come out to talk to you. She might have felt embarrassed and rejected. I think you should just call her up and talk to her. Ask her out if you are interested in a relationship. Just tell her that you are attracted to her, but you weren't ready to have sex right then and there. I know, it's hard to talk about it, but just call her up and ask her out if you are interested in her. good luck Link to comment
jengh Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 ^^ ooh, good point. I didn't even think about that... Definitely get her number and tell her you're interested but didn't want to rush things. Link to comment
InsertNameHere Posted February 10, 2007 Author Share Posted February 10, 2007 It is possible that she thought you were rejecting her. For college aged women, they are so used to having men attempt to have sex with them all the time that when a man does turn down sex, the woman can be pretty shocked and offended! Maybe that is why she didn't come out to talk to you. She might have felt embarrassed and rejected. I think you should just call her up and talk to her. Ask her out if you are interested in a relationship. Just tell her that you are attracted to her, but you weren't ready to have sex right then and there. I know, it's hard to talk about it, but just call her up and ask her out if you are interested in her. good luck The hard thing is, I dont have her number. And I don't really like hanging out with her room mate, but right now she is my only hook to this girl. And I feel bad just using her room mate to get to her. If I had her number it would be easier.. ha ha. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 I don't know. She could've just been embarrassed for going as far as she did. I know you said you only had a few beers, but maybe she was buzzing, and regrets what she did. It's possible she just wants to avoid confrontation. I' have no idea why she wouldn't even come out of her room. Did you ask her roommate? ^^^Yup, also a possibility. she could have had too much to drink and is now feeling embarrassed and awkward. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 Do you have their phone number? If so, use it, Man! Maybe she is interested. Maybe you can call her to discuss the other night or ask her out to dinner? Maybe she was disappointed because you hadn't called? I could be off base... But I think if you are interested in her, you should contact her! Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 Then ask her roommate for her number. Or can you find her number through the university's website? (I assume you are all at the same college) Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 Sorry - I didn't see all the other posts before I posted. Can you just go to her house and ask to speak to her? Or send her a card in the mail (if that's the only option,) or leave a note on her car. Link to comment
Relationship Coach Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 I agree with Annie. Tell her that you really like her and respect her and that's why you declined. Chances are she wont come to you about this, call her or go see her if you still don't have her number. Someday the two of you will laugh about this. RC Link to comment
InsertNameHere Posted February 10, 2007 Author Share Posted February 10, 2007 Do you have their phone number? If so, use it, Man! Maybe she is interested. Maybe you can call her to discuss the other night or ask her out to dinner? Maybe she was disappointed because you hadn't called? I could be off base... But I think if you are interested in her, you should contact her! I only have her room mates number. Which makes it quite hard for me to contact her because I dont really like her room mate. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 It could be that she is uncomfortable about how things started and might assume that all you want is to drink and hook up. I would call the roommate and get her number. Make small talk and then ask. Link to comment
InsertNameHere Posted February 10, 2007 Author Share Posted February 10, 2007 Then ask her roommate for her number. Or can you find her number through the university's website? (I assume you are all at the same college) I always felt weird about asking someone else for a girls number. But I guess it is really my only option right now. I guess I am just confused because I dont want to look like a fool trying to pursue something she isnt interested in, and I just felt kinda rejected last night.. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 I only have her room mates number. Which makes it quite hard for me to contact her because I dont really like her room mate. Will the roommate give you her number? What's your options? Go over and hang out with the roommate and hope to get to talk to the girl or call the roommate and tell her you REALLY need to talk to the roommate about something (ask her to have the girl call you or for her number?) Any chance? Link to comment
InsertNameHere Posted February 10, 2007 Author Share Posted February 10, 2007 Will the roommate give you her number? What's your options? Go over and hang out with the roommate and hope to get to talk to the girl or call the roommate and tell her you REALLY need to talk to the roommate about something (ask her to have the girl call you or for her number?) Any chance? Yeah, the room mate will give me her number. That seems to be most logical since then I can talk to just the girl and clear up any confusion about the other night. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 I think that is good. call her today. Link to comment
InsertNameHere Posted February 10, 2007 Author Share Posted February 10, 2007 I think that is good. call her today. Thanks. I appreciate the advice Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 I always felt weird about asking someone else for a girls number. But I guess it is really my only option right now. I guess I am just confused because I dont want to look like a fool trying to pursue something she isnt interested in, and I just felt kinda rejected last night.. I know it can be uncomfortable. But Girls can be funny (just as guys can.) She could very well be uninterested or she could be thinking "great - can't believe I did that and he's not contacting me at all..." That's why communication is SO wonderful! And Necessary! And really, besides feeling a little rejected if she isn't interested (which you can get past,) what else do you have to lose? Call her! Let us know how it goes! We're here for you! Link to comment
InsertNameHere Posted February 10, 2007 Author Share Posted February 10, 2007 I know it can be uncomfortable. But Girls can be funny (just as guys can.) She could very well be uninterested or she could be thinking "great - can't believe I did that and he's not contacting me at all..." That's why communication is SO wonderful! And Necessary! And really, besides feeling a little rejected if she isn't interested (which you can get past,) what else do you have to lose? Call her! Let us know how it goes! We're here for you! Yeah, I agree completely. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted February 12, 2007 Share Posted February 12, 2007 Soooooooo - Did ya contact her? Link to comment
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