sweetheart21 Posted January 24, 2007 Share Posted January 24, 2007 This happens all the time... a guy will ask me out on a date... the date will go ok... I dont hear from him again. Sometimes its a few dates and then they just disappear. I'm not that bothered if I have a bf or not. In fact I'd rather not have one. But I'm getting really paronoid that there is something wrong with me. I had a coffee with a guy on saturday. We seemed to have a bit in common, we were both a bit shy, but it seemed to go ok. He said he would message me later. But I havent heard from him since. I sent him a little email yesterday asking about his new job (he started monday)... but he didnt write back. I'm usually very smiley but a bit shy with new people. I dont think I'm ugly. I think I look alright. I'm 5ft 8 and weigh 148 pounds. I thought I was an average weight but maybe i'm chubbier then I thought? I dont know what it is How can I find out? Should I ask him? Or would that be way too weird? I know it would be weird but I dont know how else to figure this out. Any advice? Link to comment
puff.tm.dragon Posted January 24, 2007 Share Posted January 24, 2007 It's only been a day Sweetheart, where is your patience. Besides, 5'8" and 148lbs sounds hot. Link to comment
sweetheart21 Posted January 24, 2007 Author Share Posted January 24, 2007 Oh I know... but its been 4 days since the date... & this isnt the first time its happened. Link to comment
puff.tm.dragon Posted January 24, 2007 Share Posted January 24, 2007 Well you've already email the guy, the ball is in his court. We at ENA don't know what's wrong with you, only you know that. I would love to find out if you feel like sharing. But, right now it's a waiting game. Ice cream and pay per view can really help. Link to comment
sweetheart21 Posted January 24, 2007 Author Share Posted January 24, 2007 Yes I guess your right. I think I'm just annoyed cuz I cant figure it out. P.S I love your signature quote. It made me laugh hehe Link to comment
insofar Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 I just posted a thread about pretty much the same thing, so at least you know you're not the only one experiencing this. Link to comment
shy2cool Posted January 28, 2007 Share Posted January 28, 2007 I recall seeing your picture in that 'post your pic' thread, and believe me, you are really cute. Maybe it was something that you said? You should talk to him about it. If you don't hear anything, then he wouldn't have been worth all the effort. BTW, I've read your Journal thread, and I hope that everything will work out for you in the future. Link to comment
sweetheart21 Posted January 28, 2007 Author Share Posted January 28, 2007 I recall seeing your picture in that 'post your pic' thread, and believe me, you are really cute. Maybe it was something that you said? You should talk to him about it. If you don't hear anything, then he wouldn't have been worth all the effort. BTW, I've read your Journal thread, and I hope that everything will work out for you in the future. Well I havent heard anything and I know I wont. I understand that sometimes people dont click or whatever. But we seemed to get along so well and have a lot in common. Do you really think I should ask him? What would I say? I dont want it to come accross as I'm interested in him and am really sad that HE doesnt like me or something. I'm just upset because I cant figure out what I'm doing wrong all the time. Link to comment
sweetheart21 Posted January 28, 2007 Author Share Posted January 28, 2007 BTW, I've read your Journal thread, and I hope that everything will work out for you in the future. Thanks! Maybe that is why i'm so screwed up. Maybe its really obvious but I cant see it cause I'm so screwed up? Link to comment
shy2cool Posted January 28, 2007 Share Posted January 28, 2007 Well I havent heard anything and I know I wont. I understand that sometimes people dont click or whatever. But we seemed to get along so well and have a lot in common. Do you really think I should ask him? What would I say? I dont want it to come accross as I'm interested in him and am really sad that HE doesnt like me or something. I'm just upset because I cant figure out what I'm doing wrong all the time. Just casually ask him why he never got back to you. If he doesn't give you a clear response, then just give up. You also say that he is shy, so maybe he is scared to contact you first. As for 'doing something wrong', well... how do you act on these dates? what do you say? Link to comment
sweetheart21 Posted January 28, 2007 Author Share Posted January 28, 2007 Just casually ask him why he never got back to you. If he doesn't give you a clear response, then just give up. You also say that he is shy, so maybe he is scared to contact you first. As for 'doing something wrong', well... how do you act on these dates? what do you say? I emailed him a couple of days later because I thought that maybe he was too shy or something like you said. But he ignored it. So if I was to ask him in an email or text msg (i'm too scared to call him) what would I write?? Can you give me an example? Also if i'm too casual he might just write something nice so that he doesnt hurt my feelings. Link to comment
sweetheart21 Posted January 28, 2007 Author Share Posted January 28, 2007 As for 'doing something wrong', well... how do you act on these dates? what do you say? I'm not sure... I just talk about my life... but i'm very careful not to say anything negative... i smile a lot... i get very shy though. Link to comment
shy2cool Posted January 28, 2007 Share Posted January 28, 2007 I emailed him a couple of days later because I thought that maybe he was too shy or something like you said. But he ignored it. So if I was to ask him in an email or text msg (i'm too scared to call him) what would I write?? Can you give me an example? Also if i'm too casual he might just write something nice so that he doesnt hurt my feelings. awwww... well how about just asking how he is via text and ask him to call you if he wants to talk. How you word this depends on how much you like him! Link to comment
shy2cool Posted January 28, 2007 Share Posted January 28, 2007 I'm not sure... I just talk about my life... but i'm very careful not to say anything negative... i smile a lot... i get very shy though. See, there's nothing wrong with that at all! Well... just as long as you don't go in depth about your own personal past, or talk about past partners on the first date. Actually, it's kinda rude for someone not to call you when they say that they would. Link to comment
sweetheart21 Posted January 28, 2007 Author Share Posted January 28, 2007 How you word this depends on how much you like him! No no I dont like him. I dont even know him that well. Its just because it has happened a few times I was getting upset cuz I dont know what i'm doing wrong. I think i'll just forget about it & not write to him. Link to comment
shy2cool Posted January 28, 2007 Share Posted January 28, 2007 No no I dont like him. I dont even know him that well. Its just because it has happened a few times I was getting upset cuz I dont know what i'm doing wrong. I think i'll just forget about it & not write to him. Good idea! Y'know, maybe it is that THEY have the issues and not you. Link to comment
sweetheart21 Posted January 28, 2007 Author Share Posted January 28, 2007 yeah I wish! haha Link to comment
sweetheart21 Posted January 30, 2007 Author Share Posted January 30, 2007 Hey guess what that guy replied to my email... 10 days after the date Does anyone else find that kind of weird? He wrote sorry for taking so long to reply I've been really busy at work. Its not that difficult to take 2 mins to write a text message or something at least right? Should I write back to him? If I write back I would have to write 'thats ok'... but i'm kinda annoyed about it actually. Link to comment
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