i'm about to tell my mom we're..

[alexx is a girl]

having sex.

 

 

and advice on how to start the convo?!

 

PLEASE!

 

i'm shaking and crying.

and my tummy is tensing up.

and i feel like i'm gonna vomit.

[NKP]

Why tell your mother for?

 

She proberly already knows, or just doesnt want to know, it really has nothing to do with her unless you fall pregnet

[renaissancewoman101]

how old are you?

 

I'm 33 and I still would have a problem telling my mom if I was having sex. She never questions me about it and still assumes I am a "virgin".

 

I stay away from discussing stuff like that with my mother.

[puff.tm.dragon]

how old are you?

 

I'm 33 and I still would have a problem telling my mom if I was having sex. She never questions me about it and still assumes I am a "virgin".

 

I stay away from discussing stuff like that with my mother.

 

I think she's 14.

[NKP]

14 the i sure as hell wouldnt tell my mother. Im 16 and i never ever plan on telling my mother i have had sex befor, she would freak out and go off

[CharlesF]

I agree. Don't tell your mom. It is kind of awkward to talk to your family about sex anyway and what is the purpose of telling her?

 

Take it easy, don't get so worried about this. Especially if you don't tell her, you have nothing to be crying about.

[candy604]

she needs to get birth control pills though. It's probably better than her getting pregnant.

[zerohalo]

This directly relates to Alexx's other thread, you might want to read up on it.

 

Alexx, you're very brave for going ahead with this. I personally am a big fan of the direct approach in these kinds of situations. It was hard for me to tell my parents when I started having sex, and I was 18 at the time. You're going to have a harder time at this, but just keep remembering that you're telling her because you want to be safe, you want to be responsible, you want to be adult about this.

 

And that is commendable.

 

The whole argument about you being 14 and having sex, I'm not going to touch that. The fact is, you plan to continue having sex and you need to protect yourself.

[avman]

This is about being responsible since you are having sex. So I'd start with that:

 

"Mom, I know how you've always told me to be responsible and things. So I'm trying to be responsible now. I need to tell you that I need to be on birth control so that I am protected."

 

Start with something like that and I'm sure the conversation will take off from there.

[alexx is a girl]

 

 

i told her.

it was so incredibly hard.

she knew that i had had it before.

twice that she knew of.

with 2 other partners.

she took it really well.

and was pround of me.

 

we haven't fully discussed it.

 

but i told her that i'm 'asking her to put me on birt control, not saying that it's ok. because i'm infact not, and i suppose i'm not mature enough to be doing such things. but if me and my current boyfriend are going to do this again, i want to be safe'

 

my boyfriend supported me completely on telling her.

btw, for everyone who's wondered his age.

he's 15, and in my grade. and it was his virginity.

but my 17 year old sister said it was stupid.

and that i'm not messing things up for her.

 

i'm proud of myself!

 

 

and i'd really like to thank everyone.

all of you who gave me really great/helpful advice today.

[southerngirl]

What avman said sounds good.

 

I think that you should discuss this with your mother. You do need to get educated on birth control. Also, if you do continue to have sex,,,, do not do it without a condom.

[southerngirl]

Well good! I am glad that you told her! I still think you need to use condoms if the two of you do have sex.

[zerohalo]

I'm proud of you alexx, that had to have been really hard. Now that you can be safe about it, you may want to start to examine why you have a hard time saying no. Baby steps (and that is NOT a pun).

[Hope75]

Hi Alexx,

 

I am glad that you were honest with your mom. That means, if in the future there is ever a problem, you can now go to her with it.

 

Just make sure that EVERY time you have sex that you use an condom in addition to using birth contol pills- since they are not 100% effective against pregnancy, and they do not protect against STI's.

 

Good luck!

[jengh]

oh, alexx, im so proud of you for talking to her. I know how hard that must've been. You made a great choice.