Should I Pursue This?

[Blue_Eyed_Blonde]

I'm feel really conflicted. I am 18 and I have been single for like a year and a half and I feel like I really want a boyfriend. Recently a good friend asked me out and I said yes. We get along great, we have tons of common interests, he listens to me and acts interested when I talk about things that bored most people (seriously I spent ten minutes talking about the health benefits of avocados on our date), we like the same music, our in the same university program, we are both intensely athletic, and basically would be totally perfect for each other.

 

The problem is I don't feel that spark. Like that feeling like you have been swept off your feet and like you can't wait to see each other again. I don't think about him when he's gone and I would be totally apathetic if tomorrow he told me he changed his mind and we should be friends.

 

I also like this other friend of mine. We have very little in common but we live near each other in residence. We watch movies and cuddle and stuff all the time I feel so nice when I'm with him but he's made it clear he doesn't want a relationship now and I do.

 

I'm really conflicted I do want a relationship and my other friend should be perfect but I just don't feel it. I desperately need opinion what I should do.

 

Thanks to anyone who managed to read this.

[shikashika]

Hmnnn.. sometimes the best relationships are based on a good solid friendship... the best sparks can develop form nothing at all.

 

In my own experience I've found that the people that I've had the biggest ZAP

 

from initially are not the ones that have given me the DEEPEST spark

 

However.. if you feel no attraction whatsoever.. then why not keep the wonderful friendship that you do have?

[addictedblue]

just because it is very convenient for you to date the first guy you mentioned doesn't mean you should feel obligated to do so just because you have no boyfriend and want one. i prefer to be single and wait around til i find the spark in someone rather than be with someone i don't truly like. as for the other guy, if he doesn't want to commit to a relationship then you can't make him do so, my advice about him would be to stop cuddling and just stay single until you find the guy who has both - the spark and the readiness to commit. the first guy has the readiness to commit and the other guy has the spark. you can't decide which one's more important so just wait for someone who has both.

[puff.tm.dragon]

The spark is the best thing. You get all excited over nothing and miss them when they're gone. W/o that, it's just companionship, not love.