Annoyingly rookie questions about female ejaculation...

[Baby Carrot]

It never happened to me before, up until yesterday... I've had heard of it, and seen it briefly in porn videos, and I concluded the girls were simply peeing and pretending it was this urban myth of fem.ej.

 

I still have no idea how common is this "phenomenon". The article says that "more rarely" it can be accomplished thru external stimulation (which is my case) but honestly, I'm like the most average creature when it comes to sex so basically what the BLEEP?

 

I'm still really curious about where the hell does all that fluid comes from... I honestly thought I was experiencing some kind of incontinence, but I... *sorry for the gruesome details* kept... eerrhhmm... "squirting" even after peeing. In the end, it was like the content of a small cup...

 

Yikes. I just never saw myself as a potential Cytherea...

 

Girls are weird

[Ash]

Girls are weird

 

... and wonderful!

 

From what I've read on the subject, it's not a particularly well understood thing by the medical community in general, and many of them still seem to claim there is no such thing. There are a seemingly growing number of people who know differently though!!

 

I've been with one lady who did ejac., and another who very nearly did - she became very, very wet at certain points although no fluid was expelled.

 

Sometimes I think the fertility doctors don't totally understand the female reproductive system. My current partner had extreme difficulty concieving her first two children. Then she suddenly came to the realization one day that about the only two times she could remember orgasming with her then husband, were the same two times she concieved.

[BellaDonna]

and I concluded the girls were simply peeing and pretending it was this urban myth of fem.ej.

 

If I remember correctly, there has been research which suggested that female ejaculation is qualitatively different from urine, even though many believe it comes from the urethra.

[Baby Carrot]

it's not a particularly well understood thing by the medical community in general, and many of them still seem to claim there is no such thing.

 

Sometimes I think the fertility doctors don't totally understand the female reproductive system.

 

Holy crap... if science can't quite explain it yet... then how can I even begin understanding what I've just went thru?

 

LOL I mean I swear I wasn't high and it was so not pee.

 

But where the hell does it comes from if the bladder is empty? What produces this... liquid? There weren't a few drops... Dude!

 

Still a bit shocked

[Baby Carrot]

If I remember correctly, there has been research which suggested that female ejaculation is qualitatively different from urine, even though many believe it comes from the urethra.

 

Oh yeah it definitely comes from the urethra, but, what produces all this amount of liquid?

 

Have you experienced it?

[BellaDonna]

I didn't think it existed until my mid twenties.....

[Baby Carrot]

So now what?

 

Do I throw a party or something?

[BellaDonna]

Do I throw a party or something?

 

You could. Just warn your guests to wear their rain coats.

[Baby Carrot]

You could. Just warn your guests to wear their rain coats.

 

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

 

 

 

 

[BellaDonna]

I was "trying" to be funny. I hope I didn't offend you.

 

Remember I'm part of "the club" so my guests would have to wear rain coats too.... lol

[Baby Carrot]

No! Please! No deleting!

 

Insight? Facts? Anyone?

 

I'm really not ready yet to make jokes about it.... I was just being sarcastic cuz I need to know how am I supposed to take this...

 

[Day_Walker]

Take it as it being a wonderful thing, not all girls have the capability or even want to do this. Have fun with it just make sure you are prepared so the clean up is easy.

[lunatic]

No! Please! No deleting!

 

Insight? Facts? Anyone?

 

I'm really not ready yet to make jokes about it.... I was just being sarcastic cuz I need to know how am I supposed to take this...

 

 

 

I have a suggestion for you. Why not consider this a gift and enjoy it! I have been with only one woman who squirted and it was pretty insane when it happened. She thought she peed but, it did not look or smell like pee. I know it wasn't pee and I tried to explain to her what happened as she was having an orgasm when it "happened".

 

Remember that most women have problems having an orgasm. Let alone a squirting orgasm! I think that is a blessing in itself so why not enjoy what the powers to be granted you.

 

In other words ENJOY the FEELING and the ORGASMS!

[Baby Carrot]

Take it as it being a wonderful thing, not all girls have the capability or even want to do this. Have fun with it just make sure you are prepared so the clean up is easy.

 

But, why is it so wonderful anyways?

 

And why some girls are capable and others are not?

 

If I had known I would have prepared a towel...

 

I just never thought there was this little "squirter" creature inside me... never!

 

I can't emphasize enough the and the

[Ash]

I have a very strong tendency to take this as a good thing. I've never heard that this is associated with any type of problem or issue at all. On the contrary, it's usually the result of receiving stimulation in a new or more intense way than before, and it sometimes often the result of being in the right mindset and enjoying your sexuality.

 

As for exactly where it comes from, whether it serves a purpose, details about why ... ask yourself if that really matters in the long run. I mean, if it's something you thought was okay, and came from something enjoyable, and it does nobody any harm then that's a good thing, right?

 

You're in a minority of women who experience this. There are a whole bunch of people who would like to have this happen to them or their partner. I've heard the odd story of how a woman experiencing this thinks it's wrong, but generally on learning more about it they accept it and enjoy it as part of who they are.

 

I've heard this discussed as a rough equivalent to male ejaculation, although it's quite different. It's also been suggested a female orgasm serves no real purpose in the reproductive cycle but I'm not totally convinced there isn't something about it that ultimately helps. Additionally, I suspect that there hasn't always been a very fair treatment of women in the bedroom in the past at all times and often even today they can be viewed as simply a way for man to have pleasure (very regrettably one of our friends just around the corner from her is treated in exactly this way by her husband and she hates anything to do with sex with him as a result, poor dear). Seeing as how men or couples haven't always explored a woman's sexuality in particular detail means it's very possible that in many relationships this sort of thing is missed. Then a couple (or a woman) feels free and liberated enough to start really exploring her body, then I think this sort of thing tends to happen.

 

Any of my babbling making any sense??

 

Like I said, I think it's a good thing. Sure, throw a party, but I'd recommend you keep the guest list down to one very lucky person in addition to yourself! That, and put a lot of towels on the bed!

[BellaDonna]

Don't worry. There is nothing wrong with you- and nothing to be embarrassed about. You are normal.

 

I think most partners would be very happy to see a woman experience this.

 

I do not think it's anything to be ashamed of. It will not happen to you every time, either.

 

I think it has a lot to do with hormones, along with your level of relaxation and state of mind.

 

If it bothers you- just keep towels handy or change your sheets a lot.

[Baby Carrot]

 

Any of my babbling making any sense??

 

Yes a lot. Thanks a lot for your patience and for leaving the witty jokes aside.

[BornToResist]

From what I've heard, the liquid comes from the Skene's glands. Here's what I found:

"The Skene's glands are glands located on the upper wall of the vagina, around the lower end of the urethra. They are also homologous with the male's prostate gland. It is believed Skene's glands are the cause of FEMALE EJACULATION and g-spot orgasms. The glands were named after the physician who described them first, Alexander Skeen."

 

I know it's shocking when it happens, and since you can't really control it, it makes you (at least it did me) panic the first few times. But I say roll with it.

 

Not every guy I've been with seems okay with this, some of them are kind of confused or think I peed on them, but then there are the exceptional few that think it's great, which it is. Not every female can do this and it usually means I'm having one of those mind blowing orgasms that you read about in books.

 

Just take your time to get okay with it, but try to realize that it's something natural your body is doing.

[Baby Carrot]

I know it wasn't pee and I tried to explain to her what happened as she was having an orgasm when it "happened".

 

Weird. It didn't happen when I was having an orgasm, it was right before...

 

I think is funky, but I don't understand how come is a blessing really.

 

I guess I just don't get it

[lunatic]

Weird. It didn't happen when I was having an orgasm, it was right before...

 

I think is funky, but I don't understand how come is a blessing really.

 

I guess I just don't get it

 

What is there not to get? You have a special gift that was passed down to you.

 

Lets look at the facts here quick!

 

1. Not all women are able to achieve an orgasm.

2. Not all women can not only have an orgasm but, have a squirting one at that.

3. Not all women are that comfortable with their sexuality to allow themselves to have an orgasm that intense because they are afraid they are going to pee.(that is what I have been told it feels like right before it happens)

 

I am one of those men that would be blown away if this happened while we were intimate. I say enjoy your special gift!

[Ash]

I guess some consider it a neat thing that you do that not everybody else can. Since it's associated with sex, it's interestingness and novelness factors go way up.

 

It's along the same lines as "bigger is better" (which we know isn't generally true). Also, the level of female sexual excitement is generally linked to how wet she is, so to some this is (perhaps incorrectly) seen as a sign of the ultimate in sexual response.

 

Turn the whole thing around and look at guys. Orgasm and ejaculation are two different things that generally occur at the same time. If guys could orgasm and find that enjoyable without ejaculation many likely would since there could advantages to that. However, there's still some judgement on quantity and force of ejaculations.

 

More semen with a more forceful expulsion is often the result of longer and more intense sexual excitement in a guy. So guys automatically equate female ejaculation with a heightened sexual response. Many people love it when the person they are with is at a very high state of sexual excitement.

[zerohalo]

I think the big thing here is, don't feel that you are abnormal or that something is wrong with you. I get the feeling that's where you concerns lie. Yes, you are in a minority but by and large an envied one. I've always thought it'd be great to be with a woman who can do what you do.

 

All this really means is you discovered something new about yourself and it might take you a little time to adjust. True story (and slightly embarrasing), the very first time I ever masturbated I didn't know what to expect, so when all this fluid started pumping out of me it scared the crap out of me! I seriously thought something was wrong with me and for a long time I wouldn't masturbate at all. After talking with some friends and doing a little self reflecting, I realized it wasn't bad, just surprising. Could it be you're at a similar spot?

[Baby Carrot]

It is believed Skene's glands are the cause of FEMALE EJACULATION and g-spot orgasms.

Question: how do the "squirter girls" achieve this generally? By external stimulation or by intercourse?

 

Also... I don't get why the put it like "it is believed..." like if it was some kind of legend or fairy tale. Coz it does happen...

 

 

Not every guy I've been with seems okay with this, some of them are kind of confused or think I peed on them, but then there are the exceptional few that think it's great,

Is it more likely to experience it with a partner? Cuz I was flying solo...

 

Thanks BTR

[Baby Carrot]

What is there not to get? You have a special gift that was passed down to you.

I think I'm still a bit confused and shocked, that's all. Like when little girls get so happy about their period, and I was just "Like, what's the point?" Altho, I must confess that this is WAY better than having the period.

 

Not all women are that comfortable with their sexuality to allow themselves to have an orgasm that intense because they are afraid they are going to pee.(that is what I have been told it feels like right before it happens)

It wasn't an intense orgasm with a splash in it. It was more like a really intense feeling that ended up in a splash (and no orgasm). What is that supposed to mean?

[BornToResist]

No problem.

 

Well truth is (from what I've read) is not a WHOLE lot of research has been done on us miraculous girls. Not that long ago, they thought female orgasms were myths, so there's no real scientific answer. This is the closest I got.

 

In my case, my partner was extremely interested in this...I had done it once before but didn't know what happened and it didn't happen again for 5 years. This guy was curious and made it happen for me, and from then, I learned how to "recreate" the feeling and can do it solo as well. It took me a while first. He used his hand for a while, then I learned how to do it during intercourse, then suddenly it started happening when I was by myself.

 

I'm happy that I was that dedicated because I think it's an awesome feeling.

 

And about the orgasm thing...it took me a while but I think it's just another type of orgasm, just as I can get a clitoral one, then a penetration one, and an ejacuation one. They're all different in my opinion.