naranja Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Ok, so I am only now realizing, at the age of 27, that I love the idea of submission. I love the idea of being weak and helpless. In my normal day to day life I'm in control of things and powerful....things have always been like this. At times I've thought that I have too much control. As a child I used to fantasize about getting hurt and then someone would have to take complete care of me. Anyways, I have noticed that when I feel sick I get horny, probably because of the weakness thing. I'm wondering what I should do about this? Tis so strange.... Link to comment
HellFrost666 Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Not strange at all in my opinion. What should you do? Find a willing Dom. Explore it. Link to comment
Cardinal Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Take advantage of it! Let your partner(s) know. A lot of men are very attracted to that sort of tendency. Trust me...I have first hand experience with that =D Link to comment
friscodj Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Roll with it...there are far more bizarre thoughts and behaviors out there. And you'll likely have absolutely the time of your life with the right guy... Link to comment
zerohalo Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 As others have said, there's no reason to fight these feelings. Getting tied up, having someone else in control... if that's what gets you off, go for it. As long as you're willing, and you trust your partner, you're in for some fun. Link to comment
NeverMore Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I love being submissive! Sadly a lot of people in our society have dubbed this strange, but it isn't. It is actually pretty common. I would try it out, test your limits, and have fun doing it girl. Link to comment
quietgrl Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Are you looking for a dom or domme to control you or just a regular bf/Gf? Link to comment
musicguy Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Ok, so I am only now realizing, at the age of 27, that I love the idea of submission. I love the idea of being weak and helpless. In my normal day to day life I'm in control of things and powerful....things have always been like this. At times I've thought that I have too much control. As a child I used to fantasize about getting hurt and then someone would have to take complete care of me. Anyways, I have noticed that when I feel sick I get horny, probably because of the weakness thing. I'm wondering what I should do about this? Tis so strange.... *raises hand and starts walking to Canada* Thank god I have relatives in Canada Link to comment
TheRedQueen Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Not strange at all in my opinion. What should you do? Find a willing Dom. Explore it. B-I-N-G-O!!! Link to comment
naranja Posted January 10, 2007 Author Share Posted January 10, 2007 Not strange at all in my opinion. What should you do? Find a willing Dom. Explore it. Luckily for me I'm just out of a relationship....but where do I find this? In some ways, I also imagine that I'd enjoy being submissive in other areas of life as well, not just the sex. I could imagine that being very very sexy. Link to comment
Ash Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 There are many that live alternative lifestyles to varying degrees. Look around on the internet for group near you, or join one of the personals sites that advertise catering to the alternative lifestyle. You'll likely find it by using the term BDSM. Hopefully I'm not stepping on any toes of anyway already enjoying an alternate lifestyle. Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong! Link to comment
TheRedQueen Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Luckily for me I'm just out of a relationship....but where do I find this? In some ways, I also imagine that I'd enjoy being submissive in other areas of life as well, not just the sex. I could imagine that being very very sexy. Do yourself a favor, and watch the movie Secretary. It's right up your alley (and mine ). Link to comment
joiseygrl Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I thought that was me writing that post. Wow! I know exactly where you're coming from. I was lucky that I found a Master who was willing to work with me and bring out my submissive side. I'm torn on the advice of looking for a Dom on the internet. Pro: You need to experiment with someone who knows what they're doing. I don't know what you want to get into, but some stuff could be dangerous (or atleast very painful and not in a good way) if the Dom isn't experienced. Con: BDSM involves a high level of trust. You really can't enjoy yourself completely as a Sub without knowing you can 100% trust your Master. I'd say your best bet is to introduce it slowly with the next guy you sleep with. See if he's into it too. I used to drop key phrases into a conversation like, "BDSM, Sub, Dom, topping, bottoming" if he's into it too, he'll know what you're eluding to. Link to comment
Ash Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Con: BDSM involves a high level of trust. You really can't enjoy yourself completely as a Sub without knowing you can 100% trust your Master. Which is why it is SO important to make sure your Dom/me is real. Too many subs get taken advantage of by those aren't really so inclined and they think you're an easy target. Not at all true. The phrase I once heard "I'm a sub, not a doormat." comes to mind and a true Dom/me will already know that. You still get treated with respect. It's a distinction for some reason a lot of people can't seem to understand. Link to comment
quietgrl Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I wish you luck because i heard it's hard to find a good dom/domme.How about going to a monthly BDSM munch Link to comment
TheRedQueen Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Which is why it is SO important to make sure your Dom/me is real. Too many subs get taken advantage of by those aren't really so inclined and they think you're an easy target. Not at all true. The phrase I once heard "I'm a sub, not a doormat." comes to mind and a true Dom/me will already know that. You still get treated with respect. It's a distinction for some reason a lot of people can't seem to understand. Though I'm not into the scene, I fully understand this mentality. Link to comment
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