Melis Posted January 8, 2007 Share Posted January 8, 2007 Hey guys! OK if you have read my previous posts you will know that me and the guy im currently dating have been together for a little over 2 years, but have major trust issues. Well atleast on my part! He cheated on me a little over a year ago, and Ive spent everyday since trying to rebuild that trust. Anyway, Ive decided to just take a step back for a little while. Ive stopped calling/texting him. I dont make the effort I used to! Since Ive been doing that he calls and texts all day long, well until today. Normally by now he would have text or called, and he hasn't. I know its probably not a big deal, but Im trying everything not to contact him. Ive been doing so well, and hes been so sweet, I guess because my lack of effort has done something to him. I dont want to call, and have the ball end up back in his court. I leave work in an hour...not sure what to do??? Link to comment
Melis Posted January 8, 2007 Author Share Posted January 8, 2007 And I called....kinda mad at myself now! He wasn't doing anything. This is the part the sucks for me, I could have stuck to my plan of letting him make all the effort, but when I dont hear from him, I let my mind wonder and I imagine hes with someone else. I guess that happens when your cheated on! Well back to my orginal plan....he said give me a call after bit....should I just wait until he calls me?? Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 9, 2007 Share Posted January 9, 2007 He cheated on you over a year ago. If you can't learn to trust him, then there is no point to the relationship. Playing games by not calling him just so he can call you, will eventually backfire. He will get fed up always calling you and you not reciprocating. It is like you are still trying to punish him for cheating. Do you have any reason to believe he is cheating...other than your own insecurities? If you can't forgive and let it go, your relationship will be doomed. Link to comment
Rabican Posted January 9, 2007 Share Posted January 9, 2007 He cheated on you over a year ago. If you can't learn to trust him, then there is no point to the relationship. Playing games by not calling him just so he can call you, will eventually backfire. He will get fed up always calling you and you not reciprocating. It is like you are still trying to punish him for cheating. Do you have any reason to believe he is cheating...other than your own insecurities? If you can't forgive and let it go, your relationship will be doomed. Agreed. Either put your all into the relationship, or let it go and just end things. Dont do it half way. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted January 9, 2007 Share Posted January 9, 2007 Keep it up with that plan and I can guaranteed he's gonna get fed up with working on the relationship and instead walk away from you. If you sitll can't get pass it, why not end it now, move on, and find some decent guy who is trustworthy. Link to comment
Melis Posted January 10, 2007 Author Share Posted January 10, 2007 Well forget everything! I broke up with him tonight, actually about 20 min ago....I found out he kissed another girl at midnight on new years. He acted like it was no big deal, but to me it was. I didn't kiss anyone, just wished he was with me....guess he was thinking the same! Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 I am so sorry to hear that. It sounds like he is not a very faithful person. He should not have kissed anyone on New Year's Eve. Yes, it is a big deal, and the fact that he doesn't seem to understand your feelings, says a lot. I can't imagine he would be too thrilled if it was you kissing someone on New Year's Eve. Just hang in there, I know things are rough but you will get through it. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 Good to hear you finally had enough sense and did what you were suppost to have done long time ago. Kissing no big deal??, LOL, to me that would sitll be a deal-breaker. Don't even think about taking his no good behind back, if you do, then he'll think he can get away with it. Link to comment
Melis Posted January 10, 2007 Author Share Posted January 10, 2007 ok so last night my ex text me, saying "we need to have a BIG talk." I said "about?" and he texted back "us, you and me." That was at midnight last night and then I got a text today from him checking on how my first day at my new job was going....Any ideas why he would be doing this? Last night I ended things, and gave him exactly what he had asked for! Link to comment
yeawutever Posted January 10, 2007 Share Posted January 10, 2007 He just wants to string you along with his fake "Oh I'm sorry" stuff, don't fall for it again. You're right in putting him to the curb. Link to comment
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