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  1. Melis
    They are the worst feelings in the world. It hurts a lot, like why did i deserve this. I was the good person, yet im the one hurting. He gets to be happy and move on to someone new, and I get to sit here and count the days that we haven't talked. Its just rough, and im really sad, but im pulling through, and just trying to make it to each day without calling him.
  2. Melis
    Day 3! Its so hard, b/c I know hes already with someone new. While im struggling to make it day to day, hes already spending time with another girl. Its so tough, my stomach is in knots, and i miss him. But heres to finishing out this day, i know i wont hear from him, hes occupied with someone new.
  3. Melis
    yeah your right myspace is for sure a game, and im sure his will change once him and the new girl start getting more serious. I found out today that he is with this new girl, I guess it hurts because while im sitting here trying to make it day to day hes with someone else already. Im sure she takes all his attention, and I dont even cross his mind. It hurts a lot, b/c i feel like i wasted 2 1/2 years of my life. I know im better off, and I would never get back with him, its just i wish he cared i guess.
  4. Melis
    sorry thats suppose to read "What do you guys make about him moving me from not even in his top anything on myspace to #1 in the last two days?"
  5. Melis
    i have a quick question, what do you guys make about him moving me from on anywhere on his top friend on myspace to #1? Even when we were together i was never #1..why would he do it now? He even put me infront of the girl that hes seeing now, the girl i got the pleasure of meeting last night.
  6. Melis
    thanks, im trying to set up aim...i have a name, just haven't downloaded aim on this computer yet!
  7. Melis
    Thank you guys so much for the support! My day one is almost complete, and i feel proud that i made it! Emmylu I completely agree with you, my hurt comes from believing that i can be replaced over night. While im upset about him and trying to make it day to day, hes moving on over night. It hurts a lot, and all ive done is go from angry to upset all day long. I keep imagining him with these other girls, but the pain gets less and less b/c I know if I stayed with him he would have just continued to cheat and play mind games with me! Its sad, but im managing. My poor stomach, its been blah all day, guess i just keep stressing myself out!
  8. Melis
    for real about karma! But the thing is knowing now what i know, if he tried calling me in a month from now i would never answer. He could text or call tonight i will never answer again. Hearing what Ive heard hes dead to me. Know can make me feel like i did wrong, and make me cry, and feel bad, when hes really doing everything! He cheating and lying and im calling him out on it, and im being told I have problems. I hate him, honestly, I truly hate him. I dont plan on hearing from him, but either way I can never speak to him again! Im just glad his friend decided to put everything out there for me!
  9. Melis
    im just in shock, knowing what i know now about him. He made our break up my fault, saying i had "problems." Because if i couldn't get ahold of him i would call over and over till he answered. I didn't trust him, and clearly for obvious reasons. I dont have problems i know this now, i was right, he was lying and cheating the entire time. He made me think i had problems to make him ok with what he was doing!
  10. Melis
    Wow guys! Im in complete shock right now! The man i was with for 3 years I believe now is nothing more then a con man. My roommate was still at the house last night where the party was, with my ex's mutual friends. And they told her that they were tired of him doing this, and that he had actually cheated on me more then what i new of. That he brings home random girls all the time from the bar, and that he has even lent his truck to one of the girl b/c her car broke down last week. Wow, im speechless...i want him to know i know, but i wont call, i just have to realize hes trash and move past this!
  11. Melis
    Has anyone every watched the clock and think well i made it through another hour, not many to go and day 1 is over. I cant stop imagining them together, wondering what they are doing, and hurting b/c that was just me the other day. But i know im better off where im at, b/c hes not a guy who is faithful, he never has been, and I would have gotten hurt in the long run!
  12. Melis
    Thanks guys, I am sticking to no contact! Im hurting really bad right now b/c I know they are together, and they were in the same bed last night, which probably means they slept together. I know what I need to do, and I swore to myself I would stick to healing, and not worrying about him. I just cant help but wish he would text or call, but I know itwont happen. He made it clearly he wants to pursue something with this other girl. This is the worst position to be in, but I wont go by, wont call, and will just completely drop out of his life. I dont plan on hearing from him, and I think that hurts the most b/c I thought we had something so great. 3 years of my life were spent with him, and now over night he is with someone else. My poor stomach is killing me. I just wish karma worked all the time...hes cheated on everyone hes been with, even me a year ago, yet it never fails, he never hurts, he just jumps to the next girl!
  13. Melis
    Thanks for the support. It hurts really bad knowing another girl was in his bed last night, another girl was doing the things I was doing just days ago. He has her now so I probably wont hear from him for a long time, if at all. Im staying strong, and sticking to NC, b/c if I contact him I am just hurting myself, and clearly i dont have to worry about him calling. Im just going to keep getting on this site to get all the advice and support I can. Todays a rough day, my stomach is in knots, and i cant help but keep checking my phone. I know hes still with her, so why do i even bother....
  14. Melis
    Last night I was at a mutual friend of me and my ex's house, for a party. My ex and I just called it quits 2 days ago. Anyway yesterday he was texting me, and calling me, about nothing really, just to talk. He even changed his myspace putting me as his number 1. Long story short, yesterday night i go to our friends house, he wasn't there b/c he works nights at a bar. Well thinking everything was ok between him and I, when he gets home I walk down to his house, but to my surprise he had brought home a girl he used to work with at the bar. He answered the door when i knocked, but just told me he loved me but didn't want to be with me. I just said "well i hope shes worth it" and she responds with "oh honey im worth it." I left, and was proud of myself for going straight home, not calling, not texting, nothing. Thats the last Ive talked to him, and know that I wont hear from him b/c hes with her now...but I cant care anymore, it just hurts really bad. I want to cry but i think im to mad right now to cry. Why would he even call yesterday? Or act like he cared? I would have never thought he would have done this to me
  15. Melis

    cant sleep

    Melis replied to Melis's topic in Breaking Up Advice

    Last night was a rough one! I maintained NC, but he didn't contact me either. I just kept imagining him with another girl, it kills me inside! Well now its a new day, and im hoping its a little easier. This pain just really sucks, and I miss him so much.
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    cant sleep

    Melis replied to Melis's topic in Breaking Up Advice

    Hes has a ton of annoying things! Im trying to change my mind set, but all i can do is imagine him with this other girl. It hurts so bad, Ive tried thinking about something else but just keep going back! Im starting NC as of tomorrow...he called at 8, and we talked shortly, but i know I need to be done with it, so Im not calling or texting from here on out. Just wish i could sleep, then i dont have to think about him!
  17. Melis
    its 2am and all i can think about is him with someone else. He works at a bar, and I know for sure he went to dinner with a girl he works with tonight before work. Tough night, cant sleep, stomach is in knots!
  18. Melis
    Sign me up once again for the no contact challenge! Its been a horrible last 2 days of talking to him, he just says things that make me feel horrible. Ive talked to him already today, but figure now is the best time to start NC!
  19. Melis

    Hmmmmm

    Melis replied to Melis's topic in Infidelity

    ok so last night my ex text me, saying "we need to have a BIG talk." I said "about?" and he texted back "us, you and me." That was at midnight last night and then I got a text today from him checking on how my first day at my new job was going....Any ideas why he would be doing this? Last night I ended things, and gave him exactly what he had asked for!
  20. Melis
    ok im going to start today as day 1....I haven't talked to him since his text at midnight....heres to giving this another try!
  21. Melis
    Those are really great songs! Whats kept me going is Josh Hoges 360! It kinda deals with those who have been cheated on...anyway heres the lyrics! 360 (WHAT GOES AROUND) SO THAT'S THE WAY IT IS, YOU CAN JUST GO FIND SOMEONE ELSE AND LET ME GO, LIKE YOU DON'T OWE ME A THING WELL I CAN HANDLE THIS, I'VE BEEN THROUGH IT ALL BEFORE AND YOU'LL GET YOURS, AND I'MMA BOUNCE BACK AGAIN BUT YOU CAN'T TELL SOMEONE THAT YOU'LL BE THERE AND THEN WALK AWAY, LIKE YOU DON'T CARE NOW I'M NOT SAYIN' THIS 'CAUSE I'M MAD I JUST WANT YOU TO UNDERSTAND ONE DAY, IT'S GONNA CATCH UP WITH YOU (CAUSE...) CHORUS: WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND BABY I THOUGHT YOU KNEW WHEN YOU DO SOMEBODY WRONG, BEFORE TOO LONG IT'S GONNA GET DONE TO YOU AND YOU MIGHT THINK YOU GOT AWAY WITH PLAYIN' ME FOR A FOOL DON'T YOU KNOW (IT'S) 360, (IT'S) COMIN' RIGHT BACK TO YOU YOU MUST BE SITTIN' ON TOP OF THE WORLD FEELIN' LIKE YOU'RE FINALLY FREE, BUT YOU DON'T SEE THAT IT WON'T BE TOO LONG TIL YOU GET WHAT YOU DESERVE, AND YOU'RE THE ONE SOMEBODY LEAVES, AND YOU THINK OF ME AND WISH YOU NEVER DID ME WRONG GIRL, YOU CAN'T TELL SOMEONE THAT YOU'LL BE THERE AND THEN WALK AWAY LIKE YOU DON'T CARE YOU MIGHT DECIDE YOU WANT ME BACK BUT IT'LL BE TOO LATE FOR THAT AND ALL I'LL HAVE TO SAY IS... REPEAT CHORUS BRIDGE: JUST LIKE THE WAY THAT THIS WORLD TURNS YOU PLAY THE GAME THAT WAY AND YOU'LL GET BURNED DON'T YOU KNOW...
  22. Melis
    I agree with Ellie! Shes going to be hurt and the worst thing for anyone to hear is "I hope we can be friends." Its better to break up, and let her have her space. She will eventually heal, and move on, and then she may want that friendship. You would only be ruining your chance at a friendship if you keep contact in the beginning. If she needs you, be there, but dont make any extra effort to keep in contact with her, you will only be getting her hopes up!
  23. Melis
    Thanks LL! I for sure dont want to have a "BIG talk" and end up coming out hurt again. Last night I told him he needed to date other people, and I needed to do the same. He needed to see if the grass was greener. He just said ok, and that was that. He said "I love you and I miss you, but I wont chase you." If you remember my other posts, this is the guy who cheated on me over a year ago, and still denies it, but there so much proof that he did it. Even the girl tells me what happened, along with all his friends. Anyway I tried to move past it, but have always had it in my back of my mind, I constantly stress if hes lying to me..etc. We technically broke up last week, because he said he couldn't stand living under a microscope. He said he wanted to date other people, and hence his words "see if the grass is greener on the other side." I got really upset, and did the worst thing possible i begged. Yuck! We kinda fell back into our old habits this last week, calling all the time, hanging out etc...until last night, I asked him if he kissed this girl at midnight on new years. And he said yeah he did, but it was nothing. I think that was enough to push me over the edge. I told him that I couldn't do it anymore, and I wanted to date other people, and I wanted him to go out and be with other people as well. I gave him everything he wanted...I said I dont want to talk, I want to get away from this, and be happy again with someone new. He said ok, but then text me 3 hours later, saying that thing about having a BIG talk! What could he have left to say? Im giving him exactly what he asked for a week ago!
  24. Melis
    Ok so my NC challenge lasted a whole 3 hours. He texted me a midnight saying "I think we need to have a BIG talk"...my mistake, I replied. I said "About?"....he said "Us, you and me." What is left to say? I thought I said everything there was to be said last night. So confused and so torn...I wont contact him, but I know he will contact me again....what do i do?
  25. Melis
    Lets hope! Tonight Im hoping to just go to bed, and deal with things tomorrow....I will keep no contact! Because if I contact him im only saying its ok to cheat on me! I dont want that....he can be with whomever he wants now, I know one thing, like will be so less stressful!
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