cherries Posted December 24, 2006 Share Posted December 24, 2006 just wondering: did you feel good, bad, distracted, guilty, pleased or even relieved? Link to comment
NyGentleman Posted December 24, 2006 Share Posted December 24, 2006 Rebound I guess you can say after 4yr relationship... Pleased, & relieved and fell somewhat hard for the girl (knew her for 2yrs as a friend) but ultimately was happy that someone else was out there that was interested... Even though it fell apart after 4 mos, it felt good while it lasted.... Link to comment
Reluctant Rebuilder Posted December 24, 2006 Share Posted December 24, 2006 Yes, all of the above Link to comment
cherries Posted December 24, 2006 Author Share Posted December 24, 2006 glad someone else said 'all of the above'.. i am seeing a friend on an extremely casual basis (he is a good looking guy and already has three girls on the go, plus lives in another country, so it won't come to anything and we are both clear about that). it's nice to have some attention but i also feel like this intimate contact with him make me put my ex on some kind of pedestal cos he's just not the same person. i'm hoping this is part of the healing process and not something that is going to work against me. Link to comment
Orlander Posted December 24, 2006 Share Posted December 24, 2006 It makes you feel better....and worse. Orlander Link to comment
Portage Posted December 24, 2006 Share Posted December 24, 2006 Sorry, don't mean to steal this thread. But i'm curious, has anyone ever stayed long term with their rebound?? Link to comment
cordelia Posted December 24, 2006 Share Posted December 24, 2006 I was with someone for 3 years and 2 weeks after the break up, I hooked up a couple of times with someone I had been friends with for years. It felt great and comforting because I already knew him so well. But I wasn't able to let it go any further than casual because I was still messed up from the break up. For me anyways, it made me feel great and sexy and attractive again! Link to comment
Starrjenna Posted December 24, 2006 Share Posted December 24, 2006 I did it and I felt worse!! All I did was think of my ex love!! It sucked it made me miss him more. Plus I feel bad for the new guy because he is just distracting me from the one I really want!!! Link to comment
Aschleigh Posted December 24, 2006 Share Posted December 24, 2006 This is comforting to know, all your responces. My ex slept with 2 people in the first 2 weeks after breaking up with me. It's been difficult because we still talk and care about eachother but it didn't work. I want to have sex with someone new but want to wait until I find someone I'm really interested in. I need some time to heal before I jump back into a sexual relationship, I think. Link to comment
bella321 Posted December 24, 2006 Share Posted December 24, 2006 Hi Aschleigh, I think the sleeping with as many people as possible after the break up is more of a man thing. I've read it's because they need some kind of outlet for their emotion and unfortunately, society dictates that it's unnacceptable for them to cry into a pint of ben and jerrys and talk endlessly with their friends about what went wrong. Link to comment
EddieRentz Posted December 24, 2006 Share Posted December 24, 2006 1 - I spent a lot of time with a girl starting 2 weeks after my recent breakup.... same answer as before - all of the above feelings were illicited 2 - my new ex was with me for 5.5 years directly following a 2 month break from a relationship that lasted 1.5 years. That one lasted because I was WAYYYYYY over the last girl by the time I met the now one.. despite the short time frame. Link to comment
cherries Posted December 25, 2006 Author Share Posted December 25, 2006 perhaps it helps a little that the guy i have slept with is a. a friend of 2 years b. honest about his intentions c. not going to be around this time next month, for at least 6 months so although i can project certain things onto him, i know deep down that it is a temporary fix and we are both very honest with each other and ourselves that we don't want anything to develop... even though we are good friends and get on well. it can be upsetting to wake up with another guy though... it seems to being back memories of snuggling with my ex and so on, and of course, the sex is different when you are not actually in love with someone... Link to comment
Benson Posted December 26, 2006 Share Posted December 26, 2006 yeah sex isnt nearly as good as when you're in love.. maybe thats why im reluctant to get a rebound.. and the fact that all i will do is probably hurt the rebound girl in the end. heh i dont like hurting people Link to comment
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