Starrjenna

thank you Lady bugg!!! that does help. I am really trying to change my thinking. I really am not a jealous person. I guess I just have to wait my turn to find whatI desire! But LOA is amazing stuff!! I thought more people would help me on this one.. Come on LOA people help a sista out!!!

HI Everyone! I have seen a lot of threads on the law of attraction lately so I wanted to post my question here! I have been practicing the law of attraction for a couple weeks. I have definetly seen the power of positive thinking and visualizing. I have one problem though. Everytime someone I know (friends, ex boyfriends, people I dated casually) finds someone new I have bad feelings. I don't like the jealousy I have been feeling when they hook up with someone. I know I am being silly and try to be thankful for everything that I have. But HOW do I stop these bad feelings? I can usually forget them for a few minutes while visualizing my future but they always pop back up! HELP! Thanks for any advice!!!

UPDATE! he called me today and asked me to hang out for new years eve with him since he didn't make it out of town. I told him that I had plans already and he was upset. I told him that it was too little too late and if he wanted a relationship he couldn't treat me as a last minute thing. It really made me mad that he only was going to call me as a last resort. Like well I didn't get to go snowboarding with my friends so I guess I could see you. I never thought I would have the strength to say NO to him, But it felt so good to take control of the situation! I told him to get a hold of me when I can be a priority and not until I am. who knows if we will ever speak again but you know what I am fine either way! I am so glad I posted last night or I would've been in the same spot as before! I am still questioning my choice and hope it turns out to be the right thing!

Thank you so much guys! I definetly wasnt the clingy type. I was super patient with him. But I had just had enough! I appriciate all of the advice it really puts some things into prespective for me! I don't really know what went wrong in his past relationships. We never really had the best communication I guess. We always just lived in the moment! I am definetly letting this one go and seeing if he puts anything into us getting back together! Doesn't he know how manyother guys want to date me? haha but really I guess I shouldn't have put all of my eggs in one basket with this guy! I thought he was the one for me juding by how he acted in the beginning! I can only try to learn from my mistakes and constantly try to grow! I really appriciate this site it hepls so much!!!

I wish that was the case, but I know he is the relationship type. His last 2 girlfriends lasted 5 years a piece. you are right I guess he was just not the right guy for me! Unless he will change! Thank you so much girl its good to know there are other people in the same situation! Keep the advice coming it hepls me so much you guys!

Good for you cordelia. that must feel good to have the shoe on the other foot so to say! Thanks for the encouragement it helps so much! Whats up with these guys who want everything but won't put anything into it?! So disrespectful. I guess we started to get the respect back by breaking it off with these guys in the first place. It hurts but Yay us hahaha!!

No North it wasn't too harsh at all. It was an amazing anology. Thank You. I have always tried to be an independent person (emotionally as well as phisically). But maybe I need a little more work on that! You guys are awsome. I'm feeling better already. Keep the replies coming I need as much advice as I can get!!

I agree completely. I was just going off what she said and asking her what she thinks.Believe me I am no expert. blender has amazing advice. I thought she said she thought he might be dragging it out! I was just saying to set her own boundries for what she feels!

Don't you just wish we had a crystal ball to see exactly what is going on with these guys! I mean why drag it out if you just want to break up. It's going to hurt more the longer he draws it out. What do you feel in your heart. Do you think it is really over. If so I guess go no contact and see what else is out there. I know it is hard to give up on someone you love, so if you really think he is just having a hard time I would do what I said before. Make an ultimatium in your mind and set your own boundries. Don't let him set your boundries for you! Only you decide what is Ok for you! I'm so sorry girl. ouch that must be rough!

thank you so much guys! Cordelia it sounds like the same situation exactly! I didn't want to break it off bacause I didn't want to lose him forever. But I just couldn't deal with the feeling of never seeing him and always wondering when we would be able to connect again. I do feel like I was alone a lot even when we were together! I missed him even when we were dating! I need to let him chase me but I am so inpatient. Even going a week without texting or callin is so hard! I want to know now!! I wish he would chase me! Keep them coming guys I need this so bad right now! thanks!

I would set a limit in your mind. For example, I will be supportive of his need for space and time for 1 month. As long as he keeps in touch and doesn't date anyone else. Or whatever you are comfortable with. that way in your mind you have set boundries that you feel OK with. If he is having problems I would be there for him and give him the space he needs. But if you feel he is just doing it for an easy out then be done with him! I don't know the whole situation so only you and your guy know for sure what the deal is. what a crappy time to do it though! When you were supposed to exchange gifts. that is pretty cold hearted. Maybe he didn't want to feel guilty about taking the gifts if he wasn't happy in the relationship. I'm sorry hun that must hurt really bad!

I really need some encouragement here. I broke up with my guy 2 weeks ago. I really didn't want it to end. But he was always "busy" and stressed out with work. So he has been unavailable to me for about 2 months. We were together for 10 months. We were only really speaking through text and i.m. So obviously I got annoyed. In that 2 month span I saw him like 5 times. The only time I would see him was if I planned something. So I took a step back and he kind of picked up the slack and we hung out 3 times in one week. I was so happy!! well after that week he fell off the radar again. I expressed my concern that if we wanted to keep us together that we had to keep in touch. I asked him to call me that night. He didn't call me at all. So the next day I broke it off with him. I just thought if he couldn't even call me he must not love me right! Well I regret breaking it off with him. I miss him so much and I want him back so bad. I told him as we were breaking it off that If he ever got his life toghther to call me. Well I havn't heard a peep from him. except when I texted him for christmas and he texted back "thinking of you". I need advice. what should I do. I dont want to let it go. But I am not going to chase him around either. I have been independent and doing my own thing. I've been going on dates a lot and trying to forget him, but it just makes it worse! I am trying to do NC but I guess it's Lc right now because I have texted him twice. Once just tonight to ask if he was going to make his snowboard trip (we are having a blizzard in colorado)! He wrote me right back but then didnt respond to my next text asking him what was new! Please respond guys I am so sad right now and don't know what to do!

I did it and I felt worse!! All I did was think of my ex love!! It sucked it made me miss him more. Plus I feel bad for the new guy because he is just distracting me from the one I really want!!!

I just did the whole rebound fling thing. You know what it doesn't feel as good as you think it will.I was thinking of my real love the whole time! It made it so much worse. I think if my ex found out he would question if I really love him at all. Plus now the new guy wants a relationship !!!! Just keep doing LC.You will feel better if you just focus on yourself and not look to another man to fill that void! I wish I had taken my own advice! good luck!!!

Great advice. I know deep down that I am only pretending to be into this new guy to forget about the old one. I do not think I was too quick to break up with the first one though because I waited 2 months for him to make time for me and he didn. So I guess only time will tell what happens with that one!