Depression - when is enough time for them to recover?

[amuse]

When someone tells you that they are depressed and changing medications and etc, they need time to work things out, and they will call you.

How much time do you give them before you move on?

Is seeing and hanging out with another guy cheating?

 

[Orlander]

How much time do you give them before you move on?

that will ultimately be your decision and one based on more information than we currently know about your given situation.

 

Is seeing and hanging out with another guy cheating?

No, it isn't cheating as long as you let him know that is your intent. You deserve to be happy with someone who is also happy. Life is tough and we all get depressed from time to time, but the test of any relationship is how you handle those bad times. This person handled his bad times by not wanting you to be a part of his life while he went through them. Relationships are about togetherness and if he told you he wanted to put the relationship on hold once, he will probably do it again.

 

Orlander

[kittysaysmeow]

I don't think anyone can give you a certain amount of time as an answer. It really depends on the person that is depressed and how long it takes them to recover. Also, many people relapse into depression. This might be a lifelong battle.

I think you should talk to the person about the time he/she needs and if you should move on.

[amuse]

Well he said he would call me.

He also said he did not know how long - 1, 3, 6 months.

He would go back and fourth on stuff also - so i am confused as hell and I care a lot about him = I love him.

I have been thinking lately he will never call and I have been trying to suppress those feelings and that i love him.

Because I love him and it's best for him that i just go away and never call him back or see him again ever.

Maybe it's just the holidays.....

 

I just thought hanging out with someone else - like a guy friend - nothing romantic or anything - would be a distraction - but i don't know how he would take it - if he saw me with another guy - i don't want to hurt him in anyway.

So that is why I am alone and avoiding guys in general.

Most of the time i ususally hang out with guys - they do more fun things - biking, fishing and etc.

[AntiLove_SuperStar]

A lifetime in some peoples' cases, sadly.

[kittysaysmeow]

Then I would suggest trying to move on. If you decide to do this then let him know and be honest with him. I understand that you love him but if he needs time and space then that's all you can do. If he gets "better" and you're both in the same place (both single) then you can talk about going out again.

[amuse]

I told him i would not see anyone else.

I am giving him his space and time.

But it's hard when you don't know when or if...

I just keep staying busy.

[kittysaysmeow]

I'm not suggesting to start dating. But you have to realize that he may never want to continue the relationship. Right now he needs to focus on recovering and his depression might not go away.

 

You're right. Keeping busy is a good thing to do.

[amuse]

He is a man and has to fix his own problems - that is why the space and time.

So i must respect him and love him and do what he says for his sake and health.

If he wants or does not want to continue he should call either way... and let me know.

So his max time he gave me was 6 months.

But at times i think i should just let him go completely and never call him either way, or even call him back if he calls or ever see him again for his best interest.

[agent1607307371]

I think that saying he would call was to let you know not to wait around.

 

Depression is nebulous and what can take a day for someone can take a lifetime for someone else.

 

How long has it been?

[amuse]

If you love someone you love them no matter what - even if ill or even if depressed and etc....