SherriLi Posted October 5, 2006 Share Posted October 5, 2006 I WILL BE STRONG. No longer will i weaken and give in to his demands. I will stand strong, none does it matter how badly i want. I need to be strong for my self esteem, pride. If he goes.. I will hurt, my heart will twist with pain... I will lose the one true love i've ever had.... It will be lonely and hard... BUT! At least i'll smile and know that i didn't stand down like i always did and bow my head..... WATCH myself be manipulated, walked all over once AGAIN, because they THINK they can! ahhh that felt great.... Link to comment
colors Posted October 5, 2006 Share Posted October 5, 2006 AWESOME!!!! Stay strong & be proud...You rock! Link to comment
lunatic Posted October 5, 2006 Share Posted October 5, 2006 I WILL BE STRONG. No longer will i weaken and give in to his demands. I will stand strong, none does it matter how badly i want. I need to be strong for my self esteem, pride. If he goes.. I will hurt, my heart will twist with pain... I will lose the one true love i've ever had.... It will be lonely and hard... BUT! At least i'll smile and know that i didn't stand down like i always did and bow my head..... WATCH myself be manipulated, walked all over once AGAIN, because they THINK they can! ahhh that felt great.... YOU CAN DO THIS!!! Make a mental commitment that your not going to give in to him no more and stand strong to that commitment. Remember that you lived your life happily before you fell in love with him and you can be happy again on your own. Trust me there is life after total heartache. Be stubborn and stick to your guns no matter how much you want to cave in. You CAN DO THIS!!! Link to comment
SherriLi Posted October 5, 2006 Author Share Posted October 5, 2006 Hee hee thanks guys! I'm gonna try my {mod edit} off! Link to comment
flower99 Posted October 5, 2006 Share Posted October 5, 2006 Wow...Go Sherri! You should feel Proud. You are amazing. Stay strong...good comes of every struggle. Link to comment
blueangel Posted October 5, 2006 Share Posted October 5, 2006 The steps we take out of strength are the most productive ones. Here's a song by Jessica Simpson. I'm in love with it. It's a hard truth to deal with but I like hard truth now. "I Belong To Me" I belong to me... It's not that I don't wanna share my life with you baby It's just that I'm the one I need to be true to baby And I won't give up me to be part of you It's not that I don't wanna have you in my life baby It's just you gotta know that it's got to be right baby Before I open up my heart to you I don't need somebody to complete me I complete myself Nobody's got to belong to somebody else I belong to me I don't belong to you My heart is my possession I'll be my own reflection I belong to me I'm one not half of two And if you're gonna love me You should know this baby I belong to me I gotta let you know before I let you in, baby That who I am is not about who I am with, baby That don't mean I don't wanna be here with you I do I don't need somebody to complete me I want you to know I'll give up my love but I'm not giving up my soul I belong to me I don't belong to you My heart is my possession I'll be my own reflection I belong to me I'm one not half of two And if you're gonna love me You should know this baby I belong to me Oh yea Love don't mean changing who you are to be Who somebody wants you to be Nobody's got to belong to nobody I belong to me I don't belong to you My heart is my possession I'll be my own reflection I belong to me I don't belong to you My heart is my possession I'll be my own reflection I belong to me I'm one not half of two And if you gonna love me You should know this baby I belong to me Link to comment
SherriLi Posted October 5, 2006 Author Share Posted October 5, 2006 Wow...Go Sherri! You should feel Proud. You are amazing. Stay strong...good comes of every struggle. No thats where you are wrong, (lol well maybe your not "wrong" about that) but it's all you people that are amazing. If it weren't for all of you i'd still be stuck in the same pothole i fell in. I received alot of support here, and my eyes were opened by other peoples experiences and advice. Especially one special gal that i've been PMing on a different board. Any time i feel that need to call him, or bow down, give in to what he wants (which is what destroyed the rel. in the first place) i just PM her. Or post on here. It helps a great deal! I love it Thanks..... Link to comment
flower99 Posted October 6, 2006 Share Posted October 6, 2006 No thats where you are wrong, (lol well maybe your not "wrong" about that) but it's all you people that are amazing. If it weren't for all of you i'd still be stuck in the same pothole i fell in. I received alot of support here, and my eyes were opened by other peoples experiences and advice. Especially one special gal that i've been PMing on a different board. Any time i feel that need to call him, or bow down, give in to what he wants (which is what destroyed the rel. in the first place) i just PM her. Or post on here. It helps a great deal! I love it Thanks..... That's great you've found support & a friend I'm glad it's making a difference in your life & you're feeling better...hugs & love Link to comment
kim_uk Posted October 7, 2006 Share Posted October 7, 2006 I am going to print off your post and keep it above the bed, along with the UDB sign (You Deserve Better) and the Desiderata poem. It's a mantra I need to keep going over and ove rin my head...I will be strong and I won't bow down again! I love it, thanks for sharing and giving this to me Best wishes Link to comment
Spugly Fuglet Posted October 7, 2006 Share Posted October 7, 2006 If he gos what will change The sun will rise, the rain will fall, the city will buzz with 1000s feet on there way to work, cars will move, babys cry, books will be printed, frends will call, bead will bake, steam will rise. The world will carry on, unseen his passing from your life it will all be there the next day, the love you will marry will will get up, drink coffe and read the news on the day he gos. The doctor who will help you bearth your 1st child will walk down there words saying kind words mothers new. All on the day of his passing, the church where you and your true love will marry is being cleaned and new flowers for theows to be wed that day are bing hug all on the day of his passing. Your body will breath, your arms move, you eyes focus all of the day of his passing. When he gos all they will know is two minds held by pain and freed by futuer love all on the day of his passing. The day of his passing is just that one more day, after that day teh world will carry on as you will carry on to a better day when the new he comes into your life. Spugly Link to comment
whoops Posted October 7, 2006 Share Posted October 7, 2006 i miss him so much today - weekends are the worst i have tried all the tricks of the trade rememebering how horrible his mum was to me why he went away or will go without really putting me in the loop how he still before we broke talked of us as a married couple and it was only till i mentioned it did he say actually he wasnt ready - well nor was i perhaps i thought i was a bit but he was wrong from me and i have to move on - i hate going out on the weekend without him i miss him so much he emailed me to tell me he does to but it means nothing he forgot me and had done since he moved back with him mum he never wanted marriage he lied or did he and then he got scared - i keep thinking maybe i am ugly that is why i had to break it off maybe i aint earning enough maybe maybe all the negative things about me but then that isnt it he just wasnt ready - he would have carried on going with me till he left but i took the stance and made him say what he never wanted to - i think maybe he never loved me but he did 4 years okay not always happy but good really in hindsight - help me i feel awful ! Link to comment
Spugly Fuglet Posted October 9, 2006 Share Posted October 9, 2006 keep in mind what your life will be like once this passes you will be of need, free to live a new life on your turms. thats all you need do hold on to the hope of a better life. Link to comment
SherriLi Posted October 10, 2006 Author Share Posted October 10, 2006 I am going to print off your post and keep it above the bed, along with the UDB sign (You Deserve Better) and the Desiderata poem. It's a mantra I need to keep going over and ove rin my head...I will be strong and I won't bow down again! I love it, thanks for sharing and giving this to me Best wishes Awww Thanks Kim! I really feel honored. Today is pretty hard. But a good friend told me to look at all my old posts. I have done this, and i don't feel as bad anymore. Well i feel bad, but i'm not missing him as much. I can't believe i took sooooooo much crap all those years, let him manipulate and lie to me..... Its like i blocked out all the little details. Reading those posts put me back in the state of mind i was in when i started this thread. Link to comment
breeze33 Posted October 10, 2006 Share Posted October 10, 2006 Good for you Sherri your post is an inspiration for me today. I just broke up with my now-ex today who was neglecting me. I will stay strong too. I remembered I had a life before him and I was happy and I will be happier. of course, my heart hurts too. Link to comment
SherriLi Posted October 10, 2006 Author Share Posted October 10, 2006 Good for you Sherri your post is an inspiration for me today. I just broke up with my now-ex today who was neglecting me. I will stay strong too. I remembered I had a life before him and I was happy and I will be happier. of course, my heart hurts too. Aww, i'm sorry to hear that, yes it's soooo hard. But in time everything will heal. There is always a silver lining even where there's no sunshine, even when the clouds are black and mountainous..... We'll feel better, you'll see. Link to comment
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