I have a date tonight

[MyTeddyBear]

I was asked out and I'm going.

no, i'm not trying to replace one with another but i see no point in sitting at home alone and pining over my ex. If i know him like i believe I do, he feels like crap. He made his bed, though.

I did everything right and he left. and you know what ...he's a fool!

[hosswhispra]

Get out and enjoy yourself tonight.

 

Update us how it goes!

 

Have fun,

hosswhispra

[southerngirl]

Have a fun night out! Your right, no use just setting there!

[Entomon]

That's right. The ex made his bed and he must sleep in it. Go and enjoy your night - though you probably did and had a fantastic time.

[joyce1412]

that's the spirit! believe those words you wrote.

 

whatever you think about this breakup will be your reality; whatever you tell yourself, you will believe. hence the reason most have such low self-esteem after a breakup: they tell themselves they're not good enough for their exes. but if you have a positive attitude, you can't go wrong.

 

keep it up!

[MyTeddyBear]

I had a good time. But it felt really strange. There were times in the evening i didn't think at all about my ex. but after it was over, i missed him terribly.

maybe it's normal, i dunno?

I don't think i'm ready to date. I need time heal. I realize this now.

[joyce1412]

sorry it didn't go as well as you'd hoped...i dated a little about 1 1/2-2 months after the breakup and it didn't feel right. it made me miss my ex more, too. it's very normal...even though i was kind of excited about the dates beforehand, they ultimately didn't go that well and even during the dates i got really sad, missed him, etc.

 

like you said, as much as you wanted to start dating, you might need some time off. nothing wrong with that.

[Chibby33]

Only you will know when you are ready. At least you found out your emotional state - I'm sure it was all worth the effort of going out. For me, I really know I won't be ready for a looooooonng time, nor do I want/need it right now. I am focusing on my daughter, house, work, etc. Relationships go way down the bottom of my list. Funny because way back, I was always longing for one, after the other, after the other.

[joyce1412]

Relationships go way down the bottom of my list. Funny because way back, I was always longing for one, after the other, after the other.

 

you're really strong to not want to hop into another relationship. even though i am still sad about my ex, i think most of my depression is about not being okay on my own, so i still have this impulse to find another man to make me happy. but i don't want to end up like this after another relationship, so i'm doing my best to get happy on my own.

 

it's a terrible thing when you realize, after a breakup, that all the times you thought you were happy were really because your relationship had acted as a band-aid for all your troubles.