what do i do?

[gail]

i was walking home from the pub at about half9 lastnight when i got attacked. a girl grabbed me by the throat and punched me in the face 3 or 4 times. she was after money but i didnt have any.

the thing is i know the girl who did it. she was in my year at school and she lives round the corner from my house, do you think i should press charges?

if she didnt recognise me she will if it goes to court. the police told me that they could arrest her but she would get bail so if she did recognise me i think she is the type of girl to come back and get me. i dont know what to do i dont want her to get away with it but i dont want another beating.

[Closure]

Okay, press charges and go nowhere alone.

 

If you know where she lives, who she is etc do you have someone that could 'lean' on her, like an older brother, father or male friend?

 

Just someone to say, if you touch her, I know where you live and I will destroy you and everyone you know and love.

 

That's how i'd play it. If she touches you after you've pressed charges then believe me, she's going to prison.

[gail]

my dad is not around and ive only got sisters so thats not an option i do have a boyfriend but he is in the army and wont be home for another 2weeks.

not going anywhere alone is not really an option either my mum starts work at 7 and i start at 10 and dont drive, i cant give up work

[aymee_lee]

Wow, what a piece of work.

 

Tough choice too.

 

I don't know, I am tempted to say press charges but in reality it's probably hard. She deserves to be punished for what she did though. Maybe if you press charges she'll be too scared to do anything else to you?

[Closure]

Don't you have a friend's boyfriend or male friend that can do it? Cousin? Work colleague? Uncle?

 

If I knew you i'd take you to the police station then knock on this womans door and tell her if she comes near you i'd break her legs.

 

That's all you need, it will work.

 

You must press charges.

 

my dad is not around and ive only got sisters so thats not an option i do have a boyfriend but he is in the army and wont be home for another 2weeks.

not going anywhere alone is not really an option either my mum starts work at 7 and i start at 10 and dont drive, i cant give up work

[annie24]

i think you MUST press charges. you are not the first person she has done this to and you won't be the last! and if she just lives a block away from you, chances are, she might even do this to you again!!!

 

if you don't, she'll just keep doing this to everyone. I think you should press charges before she does it again.

[gail]

im just about to go to the police station, wish me luck

[coollady1957]

I think you should press charges as well. And as someone already said, don't go anywhere alone and get yourself some pepper spray. Watch your back at all times. The girl needs to be stopped from doing this. Good luck !

[MacGyverRI]

press charges and get a "restraining" or "no contact" order if you have those where you live.

[yeawutever]

Damn what a real low life person that has nothing better to do than intimidating others. Go on with the charges and hopefully yhey're charge her as an adult.

[gail]

i went ahead and did it. whilst i was making my statement someone was out looking for her. the thing is she hasnt got previous so she is likely to only get a caution. the reason i went through with it was because if i ddnt and she did it again and they pressed charges she'd get her caution then where as now she'll have her caution and get a worse punishment the next time. im pretty sure there will be a next time.

[coollady1957]

Good for you for going ahead and filing your statement with the police. Just be careful and aware of your surroundings and be prepared with that pepper spray.

[annie24]

i totally think you did the right thing. now she knows she can't just beat up people and get away with it.

 

be on your guard. don't walk alone at night, and carry spray with you. I like the suggestion of taking a self-defense class....