Should I confront her?

[blackberry]

Here's the situation...

 

and a few tidbits that I found out this past weekend...

 

She was scheduled to take La. Boards in Shreveport, La. in Mid-July...She told me that she was going to be flying in. What she didn't tell me was that she was flying into Dallas with this guy, and they were going to drive down together to S'port to take the test...(he took it as well).

 

She called me the first night that she was in Shreveport, telling me that she had just won some money at the casino. I was excited for her and asked her "wow, cool...who are ya with?"....to that, she replies "Nobody."

 

"Wow..." is the expression on my face when one of our mutual friends told me of this. They found out about this through him, and he's got no reason to tell lies or stories.

 

I am very...I don't know...disappointed that I was left in the dark, deceived like this. Should I confront her and tell her that I know? It's like I'm armed with information, but unaware of what the best way to use it is....or I can just keep this info inside of me and take no course of action. Continue to let go and move on, but I am still so disappointed that I was deceived...Thoughts?

[CarnelianButterfly]

Let go and move on.

She's not your girlfriend, you have nothing to confront her about, she's not your property, she doesn't have to tell you everything.

Move on

[blackberry]

Let go and move on.

She's not your girlfriend, you have nothing to confront her about, she's not your property, she doesn't have to tell you everything.

Move on

was definitely leaning towards just that very thing that you mentioned, lol...sometimes you just need some assurances/reassurances...Thanks.

[Scout]

Blackberry, have you two had a real talk since you found out she doesn't consider you two back together? Have you two clearly defined what exactly it is you have?

 

Because I think you need to have the closure talk and be done with this girl.

[blackberry]

I can honestly say that No, we haven't...but I think it's definitely apparent that she still cares for me. We haven't talked in a couple of days, and I have no intention of making contact. I don't know if I'd pick up if/when she calls me, though.

 

The last time we talked, I laid it all on the line for her, telling her that if she wanted us to take that next step in a relationship, then I was ready to do so. These were her exact words: "Don't torment yourself by thinking about it so much. Just let things be and just let things happen. It's just that it's not the same..." She then said that it felt like an ultimatum that I was giving her, and I knew that that's not what she wanted to be given.

 

so then, I'm confused...

[blackberry]

actually, you know what guys...I don't even know why I started this thread. Maybe it's because I wanted her to know that I knew, but that wouldn't accomplish anything at all. She's not my gf, not anything to me anymore. Probably just a moment of relapse, but I find that the more moments of relapse that you have, the more chances you have to get through it all. Then, it all culminates into one thing...moving on.

 

I hate to contradict myself on things, but you're right...I need to keep moving on, keep grinding it out everyday. Become that better person that I'm looking to become. Become happy again...