Not Effectionant enough?

[Blinking101]

My girlfriend says I am not affectionate enought what does that mean? And how do you become affectionate? I am really unsure because I kiss her alot, pay attention to her, do things for her, etc... etc.. But what does affectionate mean and how important is it in a relationship?

[tylercdurden2004]

Affection means different things for men and women usually.

 

Maybe she misses the spontenaity of it? Does it always lead to sex? COuld it be an excuse for something else that is bothering her? Could it be a test to see if you will give in to her every whim?

[Aurian]

Sounds like you are being affectionate. Have you tried asking her for clarification? Ask her how she would like you to be affectionate, because you feel like you are giving her a lot of positive attention. Maybe she wants romantic gestures or something....?

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

This is my take on what that means.

 

If a bf caresses me a lot and plays with my hair and holds my hand and puts his arm around me, stuff like that is affectionate.

 

If he grabs my butt and boobs and kisses me a lot, then I don't consider that affectionate, I consider that more along the lines of frisky.

 

Then I think of romantic gestures in their own category. I wouldn't necessarily consider making me a candlelight dinner affectionate, though it would be romantic, I guess, personally I prefer going out though.

[Momene]

She could be testing you or playing games.

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

Or....she could want him to be more affectionate

[Momene]

... but he's affectionate already, so it seems.

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

Might not be her definition of affection. I've given one woman's definition already, I haven't heard verification that he is. Perhaps they should communicate more....she, telling; him, listening.

[tylercdurden2004]

Perhaps they should communicate more....she, telling; him, listening.

 

 

Excellent communication strategy!

 

Communicating may work here but if they are not able to see how each person feels and where they may be coming from in terms of communcation styles they might as well be speaking two different languages to each other.

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

Excellent communication strategy!

 

Communicating may work here but if they are not able to see how each person feels and where they may be coming from in terms of communcation styles they might as well be speaking two different languages to each other.

 

Sure, but, might there be a point Mr. Insightful? I hear you, and yet...it's like you're speaking in tongues or something....

[Momene]

No entiendo!?

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

Entschuldigen Sie.

[tylercdurden2004]

Alles Klar!