Why?

[AdviceGuru]

Iv entitled this topic 'Why?' becuase im completely confused at the moment

 

my GF dumped me yesterday becuase i said a few simple words. we were talking about marriage and i started singing 'here comes the bride large fat and wide' ...and she thought i meant herself which i didnt becuase i would never think that.

 

I keep thinking she takes stuff like too seriosly but when i tried talking to her about it, she pushes me away and cant be bothered

 

I honestly dont know what to do ... its causing my depression to come back aswell which isnt good. i keep getting suicidal feelings.

[InaneCathode]

Good lord, your gf dumped you over that? She's either incredibly stupid or incredibly shallow.

No offense, but i thought every elemetary school alumni knew that lyric?

[AdviceGuru]

i dont live in america ..lol

 

and i know its stupid she just wont listen to reason. i tried saying i was sorry but she wont have it

[Caine]

How well were you getting along in the relationship before that, if it was rough going, maybe she wanted out and this is the excuse she's using.

 

I have a large sister and I know large girls can be extremely sensative about their weight, if she's a big girl and you sang that, I expect she did think you were singing it to her and she's gonna be cut up. You have some serious grovelling to do, unless she IS just using this as an excuse to get away from you.

[AdviceGuru]

nah i dont think shes using it as an excuse ... she siad before that she wouldnt leave me for anything.

 

we do have problems in the relationships but i thought they were gone until now.

[SkylinesTurnstiles]

Wow.Thats a bit......weird

Was she upset\or angry befrore you said it?

[AdviceGuru]

nope ...everything was fine lol she probably cudnt of been happier. its just that she gets angry sometimes

 

i noticed things when we were in the relationship aswell ... when i came back from holiday, she asked me if id cheated on her. (so i got thinking thiers no trust). When she saw my 'myspace' she started asking about all my friends ...getting jelous of people. And when we went to this farm .. thier was a girl walking round who rides the horses and my GF said 'look at her in those clothes ..tart' .. i had to agree but reluctantly because she wasnt doing any harm .. just looking after the horses

[Caine]

Ok so we know she might have a little jelousy problem, but if she called the girl a tart (the one with the horses) it was probably because she was jelous if the girl had a nice body. Maybe she needs a lot more reasurance, tell her regularly how much you feel for her, how beautiful she is etc, she does need to hear it and it will help your relationship out immensly because she'll feel really assured that she's the one for you.

[AdviceGuru]

i do that quite alot which is a good thing lol it really helped

 

thanx for your advice anywayz, really appreciated ill try and sort things out by talking to her

[valenski]

You could try say... I dont know... to be a little more sensative? Just a thought.

[AdviceGuru]

thats what ive been thinkin ... but shed never give me a second chance

[InaneCathode]

Sounds to me like she's pretty screwed up in the head. If you're into helping people that can't help themselves, i'd say try to get her back. But if you're like me and dont want to put your heart mind soul and every ounce of energy into a relationship, i'd say move on.

[AdviceGuru]

Im guna keep going because its worth it ... i feel like if i lose her forever my whole world will fall apart

[InaneCathode]

I hate how this is going to come out, but quite honestly:

They'res other fish in the sea.

You've become acoustumed to one girl, that doesnt make her mrs right.

 

I mean, seriously mate, she dumped you over a primary school spoof lyric. Come on.

People don't change, she wont change, you wont change. Once you get back together, it's a matter of time before she does this again. And again. And again. And again.

 

Have you ever seen a couple that have broken up/got back together dozens of times? There's a reason they keep doing that, it's an incompatability.

 

In my opinion you need to go out and look some more, or let them come to you.

[matius]

I honestly dont know what to do ... its causing my depression to come back aswell which isnt good. i keep getting suicidal feelings.

 

Yo! I'm I the only one seeing this. Perhaps you should try talking with someone.