nottoogreen Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 Thanx for the help i've read the links, and yeah. . . but how do i stop wanting to tlk to him? and how do i rid myself of him? Read these documents until you understand. Sorry, it will be tiring. Abusers like him break your lines of communications and trust with others. It's like a bad spell from a horror flick. Our brain is adaptible, it makes us good at what we do, even being abused. There is another rape victim on this site who may have been setup by a female friend who in turn may be another victim of that rapist and feeds him women. Unbelievable? You will get better, You have to let the past go, focus your love and care on NDG and develop positive thinking. I suggest you read and follow this first 142714&highlight=I+did+some+personal+growth+exercises] I did some personal growth exercises[/url] X, it will take time, you have a hell of a life for 15 years, in a few months you will be better. Please be patient and do not give up. Your brain will adapt to the positive you as well, do not worry. The eNotalone community and NDG will be here for you. Link to comment
Spugly Fuglet Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 Well I don't know what escation means, but the SH came after suicide attempts. sorry my spelling, its sould have been escalation but you have ancered my Q thanks Link to comment
ButterflyWrists Posted July 27, 2006 Author Share Posted July 27, 2006 well we cant fault you on bad spelling as u have already warnd us tht you are dyslexic Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 Yeah, Spugly's spelling trains our brain..., it's really good for us. X, How do you feel today? Link to comment
Spugly Fuglet Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 well we cant fault you on bad spelling as u have already warnd us tht you are dyslexic Yep I long since lost any upset for my bad spelling its as much part of me now as my feet, good news I get brains in other areas like of vitule use like soup making and Ping Pong. OK Here are some links which I feel my help you with info on Rapes here in uk Start with Beeb they have a garte site here, they have meta links as well to some of the key sites, link removed They have a link to Rape & Sexual Abuse Support Centre RSASC which is a very good sit have a look at them and let us know what you think. when and if your ready call them they will put you on to local help where you are if you would like it. Also if you have a NUS (National Union of Students) rep at school they have loads of help to school goers which is tailered to teens at Home. link removed Link to comment
ButterflyWrists Posted July 27, 2006 Author Share Posted July 27, 2006 oki, thanx, ill have a look soon but one problem, im not in school any more, i start college in september tho. Do you lot think it would be a good idea to see a shrink? Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 If you can see a cousellor often and trust her, it would be best because talking face to face is best. However if you can't we can talk here or by PM anytime. You have to get through a few months without being too unhappy and without SH. If you can do three (3) months, you should be fine because your brain will make you more happy. Three months is not long but also not short. ASAP, I suggest you read and follow this first 142714&highlight=I+did+some+personal+growth+exercises] I did some personal growth exercises[/url] Please trust me, it will help you to move towards your future and prepare for college. 01:17 - tried, but failed... Link to comment
blackend heart Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 do you think i could participate in helping her in the personal growth exercises, at least that way i feel like im doing something towards helping, rather than just listening and being there ?? Link to comment
ButterflyWrists Posted July 27, 2006 Author Share Posted July 27, 2006 yea u can join me with it honey, moral support is what i need! Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 It's past 2, I should sleep already but my mind is busy... NDG, of course, personal growth together is great. Focus on positives for both your future. :sleeping: again Link to comment
ButterflyWrists Posted July 27, 2006 Author Share Posted July 27, 2006 go to bed silly! ur sleepy! nighty night! Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 Thanks for the good advise, my gf hates it if I not snore next to her.... Link to comment
ButterflyWrists Posted July 27, 2006 Author Share Posted July 27, 2006 ok too much info about the snoring XD btw, i be very hyper now lol! hehehe, *sings move ur * * * by scooter* Link to comment
blackend heart Posted July 27, 2006 Share Posted July 27, 2006 ok i know this isnt the end of this thread as there is a lot to cope with and to sort out, but i would like to give a great big thankyou for all that have helped, without you guys i fear that i would have lost the one i loved and for that i am forever in your debt, thankyou so much and another thankyou for making me realise that i do play an important role and that i arent as useless and i first thought, thankyou Link to comment
ButterflyWrists Posted July 28, 2006 Author Share Posted July 28, 2006 yeah thank you so much for all the help you all have given me, and NDG it means alot, and helps alot more than I attually expected! Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 Glad to hear and both of you please keep in touch. Link to comment
blackend heart Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 less than a day and __x has had already been in contact with her ex, i dont know what to do please will someone talk some sense in to her, its killing me knowing that whatever i try isnt being taken on board, i told you all i was wothless i cant do anything, whats the point in living if you can only stand and watch the one yo ulove destroy herself??? Link to comment
ButterflyWrists Posted July 28, 2006 Author Share Posted July 28, 2006 i was findin out why he did what he did to me, so leave it, i have every right to know why he did wht he did to me! Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 Grrr, both of you stop arguing! X, Do you understand the documents and his character? Can you get him into therapy? Link to comment
ButterflyWrists Posted July 28, 2006 Author Share Posted July 28, 2006 he's going to therapy, for his gf, not cause of wht he did to me. he wants to change for his new gf. and i hate him. NDG can ur not worthless. if u was i wouldnt be where i am today. sorry for being moody. Link to comment
blackend heart Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 im sorry too, i just overeact, and you are right im not worthless at least i can put a smile on your face no matter how bad you are feeling Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 X, About Jon, we won't control you, all we can do is to advise you. Jon is a very sick and dangerous person. I hope he stays in therapy. How old is he? NDG, I appreciate your feelings. My first love and wife was a child rape victim who never was treated. We spent more than 9 years together. I could not help her. I fought much with her and made it worse. All I can tell you: Firstly, be patient and advise X positively and encourage her to look forward to a better future and work for it. Secondly, develop yourself for your positive future. If all works out, both of you will strong and happy together. If not, you will still be strong enough to find your way on your own. One of the lessons I learned on eNotAlone is: One can be a loving healthy partner to ones loving healthy partner. I say this often, I know. Link to comment
ButterflyWrists Posted July 28, 2006 Author Share Posted July 28, 2006 Jon is 17 he started doing what he did when he was 15. So I don't believe he is going to change. Thank you for all the advise, all will be followed, even if hard at times Link to comment
blackend heart Posted July 28, 2006 Share Posted July 28, 2006 sweetie you know that im always here for you Link to comment
ButterflyWrists Posted July 28, 2006 Author Share Posted July 28, 2006 i know! and thats what helps best of all! I'm really happy today! It probably helps that I'm in a tidy room Link to comment
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