I want to look sexy in the bedroom

[shau_nee]

hi, How can I go about looking more sexy? I want to do something to add some spice to our relationship, something he will remember. any suggestions???

[Mrocza]

Umm.....

 

Lingerie...and not just a pretty bra and panties...the full load...stockings, garter, corset, push-up bra, heels...

 

Going out on a date sans-underwear and giving him a sneak peak.

 

Getting him to give you a full body massage

 

Leaving massage (and other) oils on the nightstand when he comes over

 

Dress up in costume - if you're daring - and role play according to it.

 

Or even simple things like blind folding him, leaving lights on, tie his hands behind his back, feeding each other, etc.

 

Be creative. You can't really do anything WRONG in this situation lol

[shau_nee]

lol, what the heck is sans-underware?? never heard of it.

 

I kinda want to do something like a strip-tease or lap dance. but I don't exactly know how to begin.

 

I would like to sit him in a chair blind folded to start out, but I can't dance good. so then what??? i really don't know what to do. lol, i'm a coward.

[Mrocza]

sans-underwear.....without-underwear. AKA, comando. lol

 

Unless you're comfortable dancing for him and stripping it might end out badly. If you feel you're not a good dancer you can try practiciing in front of a mirror, but make sure YOU are ok with it otherwise your discomfort will be obvious and instead of getting him in the mood, you'll have to get him to stop laughing. (Oh yes, it's happened)

 

You don't have to dance though. Just blind-fold him, rub up against him, take his hands and let them roam, lick/touch/bite in random unexpected places.

 

Don't go too extreme if you're just starting out though. Get yourself in the mood as well, don't do it just to please him but do something YOU can enjoy too. (That usually works in lingerie, because when you're wearing sexy lacy undergarmets you usually feel sexier)

[renaissancewoman101]

Tieing the guy up and blindfolding him is always a good idea.

[CarnelianButterfly]

One thing I thought would be really erotic, is to blind fold him naked and on the bed. Tickle him with fruits or foods and make him guess what it was by smell and little tastes, for right answers do something very pleasureable like kisses or massaging, for wrong answers ice cubes dripped on his chest. Kinda a pleasure/psuedo pain thing, but the ice can be really teasing and such a noval sensation when your all hot.

[Mrocza]

One thing I thought would be really erotic, is to blind fold him naked and on the bed. Tickle him with fruits or foods and make him guess what it was by smell and little tastes, for right answers do something very pleasureable like kisses or massaging, for wrong answers ice cubes dripped on his chest. Kinda a pleasure/psuedo pain thing, but the ice can be really teasing and such a noval sensation when your all hot.

 

 

I like that!!!!

 

Especially the ice cube thing. You could try something like licking/sucking with an ice cube and alternate with sips of hot tea. A hot-cold sensation.

[CarnelianButterfly]

Men are typically visual so removing that sensation and forcing the others to the front can be a real experience. Feathers, soft mits, finger nails touching sensitive areas like the neck, nipples, inside of the elbow, inner thigh, ears and scalp are covered with nerves. I got a guy totally aroused just by massaging his scalp and neck, nothing else, he was very surprised.

[NJRon]

I find it really amusing that only women are responding to this thread There have been some good suggestions.. everyone is different, so hard to tell what would be good for him. Just a few more...

 

- A movie theater and a jacket in his lap can sure add up to some excitement.

 

- Watching a porno and acting it out

 

- Sending short, sexy messages to him throughout the day to build up the mood

[Derek]

The original post was how to "look sexy" in the bedroom. Perhaps she meant "Act sexier" too but I'll go with the "look sexy" initial assumption.

There are many other things like music and lights and food and smells, but

lemme stick to the "look sexier" bit.

 

You don't have to wear an entire outfit, it can be even just one thing.

 

But ideas I think of is if you wear a man's (his) dress shirt (white)... and little to nothing else.

Wearing a big football/hockey/(insert sport here) jersey and nothing much else.

Wearing a raincoat (with a belt) and scarf and boots and nothing much else.

Wearing knee boots, wearing strappy shoes, and leaving them on.

Body paint.

Short shorts/bikini underneath something almost see through.

Think of wearing many layers of different textures are slip off easily.

What about a wig or hair coloring? What about a mask (Eyes Wide Shut)

Belly dancer wear...

Police/security uniform, school girl knee socks...,

Grubby clothes worn into the shower with him (soaked jeans+t-shirt that sticks.)

Daisy dukes shorts...

 

Whatever you think would turn your guys engine on.

 

How about dressing like a business women in a tight power suit, hair in a bun, glasses, notebook, heels. (like a legal secretary)

I know that would make me want to unwrap her.

 

 

[Rawk-1]

Exceed all limits and dont hold back. set the mood with music, talk dirty and wear something extremely appealing. sometimes less is more but if you know what your partner likes than do just that. I personally, like thongs but as long as it hugs the right places in that very moment than im a happy camper. let your fantasy soar. try asking him/her what they want to do next or go with the flow and do whatever feels good. hope i answered your question. Have a great day.

[ShySoul]

So... am I the only guy that thinks you don't need to do anything to appear sexier, because the guy is already going to find you insanely sexy as it is?

 

In my observation of most guys attitudes, the simple fact that you want to make him happy is the sexiest thing of all. It doesn't really matter what you wear or do, odds are the guy will really like it. And that's twofold. One, you are showing that you want him and love him. And two, because he loves you and will find anything you do to be sexy.

 

The dressing up and stuff I find is often just as much for the women. They want to feel sexy and desired. And that is perfectly fine. There are all kinds of websites for sexy outfits. You can find something nice at most stores, you just have to know what you want and are looking for.

 

Sexiness is about attitude. If you believe you are sexy, then you will be sexy.

 

Though in this guys mind, if I love the girl, she can walk in wearing a paper bag and I would find her sexy.

[NJRon]

So... am I the only guy that thinks you don't need to do anything to appear sexier, because the guy is already going to find you insanely sexy as it is?

 

Yeah... basically...

[renaissancewoman101]

ShySoul, so you wouldnt want your girl to dress up sexy for you?

 

If I was dating someone right now, I would want to dress sexy for him, but then I would be too self-conscious about whether the outfit REALLY looked sexy on me or whatever?

 

Seriously though, most girls would love a guy like you, you are so easy to please and so appreciative.

[ShySoul]

If the girl wants to dress sexy for me, I won't stop her.......

 

I think I'm trying to get at the best of both worlds. If it makes her happy to dress sexy and make me happy, then of course I want it. But at the same time, I want to reassure her that to me she is beautiful and sexy all the time. The outfit may look nice, but its not the outfit that makes her look sexy, its her that makes the outfit look sexy.

 

Let's see, what can a girl where? Derek had some nice suggestions (he seems to always be on top of his game in these things, hmm.... lol). The business women / secretary is a good one. And school girl outfits always seem to be a crowd pleaser. Cowgirl outfits. Nurses. All kinds of lingerie.

 

Here's a couple sites I've heard of for all your sexy shopping needs.

 

 

 

 

[Dreng3333]

First of, let me say that I do agree with you Shy on one point, my girl does not need to dress up in any way to make me any more attracted to her. However, it does make me feel good to know that she is putting thought into it and thinking about me.

 

As for the looking better in the bedroom, my gf did this for me once (we didn't have sex but did have some other...playful activities) I would say maybe some lingerie with a tight blouse and a skirt. Maybe some high-heels, whatever you think he would find attractive.

 

I know that the one thing that drives me absolutely crazy, and I mean I can barely control myself, is to see my girlfriend in one of my shirts. I am 6'3" and she is around 5'7" or 5'8", so it is like a dress on her. To see her with that on and not much (or nothing) else, oooh, it sends tingles down my spine just thinking about it.

 

I hope this was helpful.

[byates5637]

This might not be exactly what you meant by this question...bit i think hands down the best way to look sexier is diet and excersize. It wont help right away, but 3 months into a serious workout plan you will be amazed.

 

I just broke up with my girlfriend so i'm all about working out right now, i want to give my future girlfriend a better looking man then my ex ever had

[becallamjr]

I recommend, sexy lingerie, the whole outfit. Light a few candles and just have some raw passionate animalistic sex with him. Well that is how I like it at least. Make it rough, but not too rough, then make it sensual. By doing a combination of acts you can build toward that connection. The connection is what makes the experience sexy and passionate. Let go of any inhibitions that you have, try that position that you don't do as often or haven't done.

 

Before you two do anything, I recommend the spirtual aspect as well. Both strip and sti accross from each other for 5 minutes in dead silence (NO CONTACT) and during this time you admire one another's bodies and it also builds tension, it's like a tease for both of you and I recommend it to all of my friends and they say it really works.

 

I strongly recommend playing the I can touch you but you can't touch me game, for starters. First with a tongue bath, avoiding his erogenous zones. There is plenty of time for that area. Play with his other sensitive area first, for example his nipples. Have a glass of ice chips available and put a few in your mouth. Give him the hot and cold effect on his nips. You can do the same for his most sensual area, but I recommend peppermints, altoids are the best. When your going for his super sensed area, I would suggest starting from the balls and working your way up. But tease him, the tip of the tongue is best for teasing. Try the tip of your tongue then the whole thing. like licking an ice cream cone. Nibble a little if he likes that, on the shaft only. When your gonna iniate sex, beforehand, give him a deep sensuous french kiss. I say start on top and tease him a little again, whisper something dirty in his ear. Something that will wanna make him cream himself right there and then. Don't forget the foreplay is just a prepper. Once you have gotten him to the point where he wants you so bad, slowly ease yourself on him and take it slow, with a few grinds. Stare directly into his eyes and tell him something dirty and then another sensuous kiss. You've teased the crap out of him now and you have also made him feel really good. The three positions I suggest are; girl on top facing or reversed, standing with guy behind, and missionary. I chose these three because they are the most sensual. Girl on top allows you to control the rythem of things, standing with guy behind is like an instant orgasm more most girls and the guy can be rough or passionate about it, and last but not least the old fashioned missionary, this is my favorite because you can look right into each others eyes and get those deep sensous kisses. I know i went into detail, but hey I'm a scorpio and we own the house of sex.

[Derek]

Derek had some nice suggestions (he seems to always be on top of his game in these things, hmm.... lol).

 

*grin* Thanks ShySol =)

 

I just don't have enough "game" to find the right girl yet. Being a "player" isn't me.

 

It amazes me that with our "sex-saturated" society (movies/mags/music) that everyone doesn't already know some of these things. Doesn't Cosmo or Glamour have tips in it every week?

 

 

 

P.S. Shy, though you are right about what the ladies want I might suggest that you don't always have to placate them. Girls like guys with their own opinion and direction on things too. They don't want a "yes-man".

[ShySoul]

Derek,

 

Maybe all the sex tips drown each other out and people can't keep it straight? Personally, I think that experimenting on your own and using your imagination and creativity is the way to go. But there seems to be a wealth of knowledge for anyone to find, they just have to look.

 

I didn't mean to say be a "yes man." Have your own opinions. But I find that when it comes to sex especially, much of the pleasure comes in giving pleasure. I also see that when you are involved in sexual activities, anything that happens really is good. The girl looks good in any outfit. And besides, its going to come off before long anyways.

[applz]

I think you can be sexy in sweats and a t-shirt..sexy is a state of mind something you feel if you feel sexy you ARE sexy..self-confidence goes a long way. Walk around butt * * * naked, if youre secure in your skin and not afraid to show it..its sexy.

[young_girls_suicide]

maybe try his football team shirt and nothing else, tht turns my man on n he has two things he loves rolled into one (me) n (football) makes me feel sexi ...

[lyambdyiue]

Nothing can't be sexier then your behavior. I can advise you to take women vitamins like Sentia. They would increase your sex drive. My husband had said that every my gesture was sexy.