Eyes wide shut

[PeteMcAvoy]

Hi all,

 

I was kissing my girlfriend the other day and she freaked out a little when she realised my eyes were open, I hadn't even noticed myself but it seemed to bother her and she kept checking after that to see if my eyes were open! What's that all about, I get that caught up in the kiss that I don't even know if they're open or not, is that weird? Or is she overreacting and lots of people have their eyes open when kissing?

[Lonelyinasmalltown]

But in the movies eyes are always shut!

 

I think she may be over reacting personally, but if it does freak her out, make a conscious effort to close your eyes.

[mystik]

I don't think it's weird...I kiss with my eyes open! I know because I sometimes watch while the other person's eyes are closed maybe it is weird...but at least we're not alone! lol

[lillady898]

Depending on the vibe of the kiss, maybe it frustrated her that you didn't have the same "mood" as her. In any case, I pretty sure she was overreacting.

 

 

Just wanted to add: Maybe she's a bit self-conscious and feels uncomfortable with someone looking at her while so up-close and personal.

[Bethany]

I'm with her on this one. It really bothers me to think that someone is looking at me when i'm lost in the act. I think that they aren't feeling the same as me or are bored and looking around for something to do while kissing me which is a real turn off.

 

Either that or they are weird and 'watching' me. Can't help it but I find it creepy.

[PrincessLinzay]

In my experience, most people kiss with their eyes closed, if for no other reason than that most people don't exactly look their best at that close of range. Lol.

 

I don't think it's anything to freak out about, just something she is probably not used to.

[SLMitchell918]

Most people do keep their eyes shut. My husband and I joke around when we kiss sometimes and keep our eyes open just to be goofy but to most people it just doesn't feel normal.

 

Try to respect how she feels. It would make it more enjoyable for her if you try to keep your eyes shut but if you cant help it, talk to her about it.

[mystik]

like I said earlier, I do keep my eyes open sometimes..and I do know most people find it weird. But usually, the people I kiss keeps their eyes closed so they don't know that I do. And when they do open their eyes I quickly shut mine. It's kind of funny. It's not because I'm bored or not into them...it's almost like..."wow i like you so much, and find you so attractive, i can't believe i'm with you, i just have to look at you!" hehe. hm....okay maybe I need help. LOL. Yeah if she really doesn't like it, try to keep your eyes closed now that you're aware of it.

[ShySoul]

Everyone has different ways of kissing. Generally, its with the eyes shut as it blocks out all images from sight and makes it easier to get lost in the feelings and emotions behind the kiss. But kissing with the eyes open can be great as well. So there is nothing wrong with that. If she hasn't done that before, opening your eyes and seeing the person staring at you can be surprising.

 

I also think there may be self esteem issues of not being comfortable with people looking at her so intently, like she feels she is being watched during a private moment.

[somebrunette]

i usually kiss with my eyes shut.. but sometimes i open them just for a tiny second to look at him, and sometimes its funny when hes got his eyes closed and he's making this silly concentration face, completely unaware that i am watching, but then before i giggle i have to shut them

[pumkin_fairy]

well i have my eyes closed when kissing my babe but and so i dont know if his are open!!

 

anyway your g/f must have opend her eyes to have noticed your eyes were open... ask her why she had her eyes open!

 

jen

 

xxx

[shy_guy_3]

Yeah, personally I havent had the experiance (gf freaking out) but I think she over reacted...I dont think most girls care, well my gf dont care atleast...

[shy_guy_3]

anyway your g/f must have opend her eyes to have noticed your eyes were open... ask her why she had her eyes open!

 

yeah Pumkin_fairy has a great point..if she's complaining about you doing it just ask her why her's was open..

[yeawutever]

Yea, I just learned form the guy I'm hanging out with, it's eyes shut. At first I did it open, LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[iLoVeCoNnie]

Okay well hun , closing ur eyes means to girls like its romantic and if ur watching a girl kiss it aint right , coz its freaky .. best to leave thoose eyes of urs shut!

[lizylyz]

I keep my eyes open because i just like watching the peson i'm with. if they open their eyes i quickly close mine.

 

i think you should find out why it bothers her so much then deal with it together.

[Lansing]

Well..... If I am lip locked, it is usually closed... but.. if I am kissing her forehead or her stomach or her...... well.. you get the idea.. then, they are open.

 

It was soo freaky.. with this last girl I dated when I was kissing her, up close, her eyes and they way her lips were (the way she had them open) totally reminded me of an ex-gf... haha...

 

However, with her laying there with her eyes always closed, to me, it almost felt like I could be anyone. Like, she could have been thinking about someone else doing things to her.... However, I could see that if I had my eyes closed and I opened them and saw her staring at me how that might freak me out a little...

[SheWolf]

I can go shut or open, open can be romantic too at times its like you get lost in each other's gaze. But I'd try respecting her if she doesn't like them open you should shut them, she may be a little self conscious.

[monkey1]

I remember once when I kissed my boyfriend (kissing was new to me when I met him), I opened my eyes. It was kinda strange to see him up so close with his eyes shut, and feeling him kiss me. I noticed that his eyelids were really pale which intereseting. It was kinda cute. Though I closed my eyes quickly for fear he might open his eyes and see me staring half an inch from his eyeballs. Hahah!

 

I can only do quick kisses with eyes open, like if you're saying bye or something. Long passionate kisses that last several sections, eyes open is just kinda weird to me.

[AntiLove_SuperStar]

Thats a little strange to get uptight about. I open OR close my eyes depending on mood, or whatever...maybe she thinks you are distracted by something else if you keep your eyes open... for a quiet life, just keep them shut ;-)