FairyQueen24 Posted January 10, 2006 Share Posted January 10, 2006 Hey Im 16 and need someone to talk to and i'll tell anything you want to know about me. So just leave me a note thanks! Hannah R. Link to comment
Tigris Posted January 10, 2006 Share Posted January 10, 2006 How many months are you? Is it too late to ask for help? Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted January 10, 2006 Share Posted January 10, 2006 Did you tell anyone about the pregnancy? Your parents? The baby's father? Let us know a little more about the situation and we'll try to give you the best advice we can. BellaDonna Link to comment
darkblue Posted January 10, 2006 Share Posted January 10, 2006 What would you like to talk about? Link to comment
MiaLeah Posted January 10, 2006 Share Posted January 10, 2006 I'm in the same situation. Have you just found out recently? I've been through what you're going through right now so if you want to talk, just pm me. Link to comment
Young1 Posted January 11, 2006 Share Posted January 11, 2006 WEll Fairy, I know who you are your no joke ....... Why did you even ask for any advice when you dont need it? This is for people who need advice not some feel sorry for me chat room ... Vallery Just if you need advice ask it. DOnt just sit around and let people guess who and what happened cause me and you both know what happened ok so just dont play like your innocent ok if you wanna start something dont start it on a Forum do it in person not like a scared chicken twit! Ok so if you need something from me dont be afraid to ask me because I might kick your butt but what ever you wanna Start Bring it on ....... Link to comment
FairyQueen24 Posted January 11, 2006 Author Share Posted January 11, 2006 Whatever Allyson... I'm not scared of you and you want to have a cat fight you bring it on because I know i'll knock you down girl. Dont even start with me because if i need advice i can get just like you ok so leave me alone. I want to be best friends again allyson I dont want to argue and fight ok! WE have been best friends we've been 4 and I dont want that to change so please just give it up our kids are going to be siblings in a weird akward way but dont let that jerk justin break up our friendship although yes it is partly my fault too . But what do you say let work this out ok because we cant be enemies after being friends for so long ok!.... Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted January 11, 2006 Share Posted January 11, 2006 I don't know exactly what is going on here- but if one or both of you are really pregnant- then I have to say I feel bad for whatever child would be born into a situation like that- with a mom who is willing to pick physical fights with someone while there's a baby growing inside of her. I'm not scared of you and you want to have a cat fight you bring it on because I know i'll knock you down girl. I might kick your butt but what ever you wanna Start Bring it on ....... It's just atrocious. BellaDonna Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted January 11, 2006 Share Posted January 11, 2006 our kids are going to be siblings in a weird akward way but dont let that jerk justin break up our friendship If this is what I think it is- then it's really a shame. With immature behavior like that- it does not seem that "justin" is ready to be a daddy either. You all need to sit down together- and involve your parents- and have a major intervention before someone gets hurt. BellaDonna Link to comment
DN Posted January 11, 2006 Share Posted January 11, 2006 I agree with BellaDonna. You are acting as if you got into a fight over Barbie and Ken, when in fact all of you will soon have real live babies to look after who deserve much better than squabbling parents. Bringing children into this world is a grown-up responsibility - time for all three of you to realise that. Get the help you will need to parent your children properly, or find people who will. Link to comment
Meow18 Posted January 11, 2006 Share Posted January 11, 2006 Fairy, if you ever need to talk, you can pm any one of us about anything. Really, we are here to help. As for the two of you. YOu both were best friends. I don't know the whole story, but I'm guessing that the same guy is the father of both your unborn babies.. and maybe that's what caused these fights? You both need each other. It seems like the father is a jerk who isn't going to help as much as he should. Get over whatever happened and be there for each other, cause whether or not you want to admit it, you are both in the same positions and it's always easier having someone there who knows exactly what it's like. Guys are not worth ruining a friendship. Especially a guy like that. Link to comment
Hope75 Posted January 11, 2006 Share Posted January 11, 2006 Are you both pregnant by the same guy? Link to comment
ShySoul Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 Post 27 should help everyone figure out what is going on. I agree with Maggie. If you girls want to be mad at someone, be mad at the father for putting you in this position. You guys are going through the same thing and should be able to use each other for support. Your friendship isn't something that should be broken up over this. It's not worth throwing everything you have away. Allyson, I know you are upset and hormonal (your own words). But I also know from your posts that you seem mature and want to give this baby a good life. And one way for you do to that is by working things out with your friend. Right now you are causing yourself stress over this, and thats not good for the baby. And once the baby is born, you are going to need all the support and help you can get. Don't you want your best friend to be there to give you that support? And don't you want to be able to give your friend support as well? Don't let Justin come between you two. Fairy, you can PM any of us if you want to talk. Don't be shy or afraid, we are here to help you. And I admire the way you tried to reach out and stay friends with allyson in your post. This is a difficult situation and I hope that you guys can work it out. Link to comment
Young1 Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 Hey THis is The other Girl ALlyson and Yeah I know what your talkin Val and I have talked this out all day and have decided to be best friends again and blame Justin for just using us then taking No responablity aat all... So now(just a joke)we are going to beat him down! Lol WEll we have decided also that we will work out anything that stands in are way including Justin (that dodo head jerk) Apparently he didnt realize unprotectred sex with teenage girls can make him a dad But thanks to all from Val! Vallery C. And Allyson L. Link to comment
DN Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 Did you not realise that unprotected sex with boys could make you moms? You have an equal responsibility in all of this, don't put all the blame on him, that is just as immature as fighting with each other. Link to comment
ShySoul Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 Vallery and Allyson, nice to see that you have made up. DN is right in that you have responsibility in this too, but from the sound of things I think you are going to do what you have to and make the most of this, living up to those responsibilities the best you can. It won't be easy, but you guys can do it. Link to comment
Meow18 Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 I don't at all think Justin was smart in this situation, and the way he's acting just proves he's a jerk. However, unless he forced you into having unprotected sex, he's not completely at fault for your pregnancies. The only difference is that he's being a jerk about the consequences, while you both are taking responsibility. I'm glad you both have decided to be friends again. Nothing is more important than having strong support from friends at these times. It's so hard to find a 'best" friend. You both seem like you can really help each other out. Just remember that friends will fight at times, that's just what happens. But usually it's not worth losing the friendship over. Link to comment
RayKay Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 To be fair, it takes two to make a baby. You two had JUST as much responsibility in using protection as Justin did....in some ways even more so as you two have no CHOICE in doing something once you get pregnant...he does, and his choice was to run. Which is not surprising (does not make it right but it's not surprising) - he is 16 too and with at least TWO kids on the way, many would run. You two can't. Maybe one day he will want to be a dad to his kids, and I hope then you will both allow that to happen. Get your family and friends around you and best of luck. It will not be easy, but it's doable. A baby changes your life forever in every way possible, but it does not mean for the worse. Make sure you get an education, and do your best to be positive role models for your children. Don't make this a vicious cycle. Link to comment
Hope75 Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 After these babies are born, it would also be a good idea to get paterinity tests done and file with the courts for child support. If Justin doesn't want to be a father figure, he still has the obligation to help support these children financially. Link to comment
ShySoul Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 I'm not sure how it works, but really, how much support is a 16 year old with two kids going to be able to give? He does have a financial responsibility but to what degree is he going to be able to live up to it? Link to comment
RayKay Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 I'm not sure how it works, but really, how much support is a 16 year old with two kids going to be able to give? He does have a financial responsibility but to what degree is he going to be able to live up to it? They do take that into account (ie according to his financial means) but there are places where they also look at HIS parents incomes. Sometimes in underage kids, parents are held responsible (you see this in repayments after crimes and such too). And, while he may not have much now, it does not mean they cannot revisit child support payments in two, four, six years when he does have more income. Link to comment
ShySoul Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 That's what I was thinking, just didn't have the facts to back it up. Even more reason not to be getting yourself or someone else pregnant at such a young age. It sets you back for years to come and doesn't just affect you, it affects everyone you know. Link to comment
Hope75 Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 I'm not sure how it works, but really, how much support is a 16 year old with two kids going to be able to give? He does have a financial responsibility but to what degree is he going to be able to live up to it? The court will order him to get a job. He will pay as much as he can of the ordered support from his salary, and the rest will accumulate as a balance. He will pay that when he is more established. It's a mess.... one of the reasons that teens should protect themselves when they have sex, they are clearly not ready for the consequences. Link to comment
RayKay Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 The court will order him to get a job. He will pay as much as he can of the ordered support from his salary, and the rest will accumulate as a balance. He will pay that when he is more established. It's a mess.... one of the reasons that teens should protect themselves when they have sex, they are clearly not ready for the consequences. I have yet to meet a teen whom honestly takes child support into consideration though..or more often...thinks it can happen to them.... It's sad, because really, it does not usually give THEIR child the best start either. I am sure they will be loved, but it's really not a great situation all around. Link to comment
DN Posted January 12, 2006 Share Posted January 12, 2006 It is not just financial support he should be offering. He is going to be a father and these children will need responsible mature adults in their lives to help bring them up. Children raising children is not the best scenario but everyone involved, teenagers and their parents, have a duty to step up to the plate here. This is not a game, nor a rivalry. It's not a soap opera, or a movie. It's not Ken and Barbie. It's cold, hard reality and is very serious. Helpless babies are going to be born and they deserve the best life that it is possible to give them. Time to grow up, stop fighting, blaming other people, pointing fingers and avoiding responsibility. Link to comment
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