Rev_Limit Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 Well last night the ex girlfriend wanted to come over and hang out but I wasn't home and well she called me this morning asking where I was.. and well I feel bad because I wasnt here.. for some reason I felt like I wanted to see her last night but missed out on my chance.. I kno I shouldnt feel bad but I just do.. Im slowly moving on from the hurt she put me through.. but why do I feel bad about not being home when she wanted to come see me..when I kno that she's not worth it no more.. well I dont want her back.. but I do miss her..I been in No contact for a good 2 weeks now till today.. Has anyone ever felt this way before.. ?? Link to comment
nikkers04 Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 maybe deep down your not over her...or you at least want to stay on a friends level so you can still hang out with her. Link to comment
Relationship Coach Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 Don't be available to her then! She wants to keep tabs on you and make you miss her and kick yourself in the butt for not being home last night. Let's face it, if she can keep you at home waiting for her call, she knows you're not out with someone else. Go back to NC, this is for your own good. You don't keep Oreos in the fridge when you're on a diet! Link to comment
nikkers04 Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 Relationship Coach has a point...make her wonder what you are doing...and move on Link to comment
Dako Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 I don't think NC is the cure for everything, but for you it's a must. She's probably enjoying her power over you. That's fine except for one problem...your feelings. Look out for yourself. Link to comment
RescueDiver Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 Yes you may not want her back, but you still probably have feelings for the relationship itself. Sometimes after enough time has passed it's therapudic to talk to an ex to just put everthing to rest... but I don't think you're to that point yet. If you don't want her back... that's good, just keep maintaining the NC and keep working towards healing. And yes, I have felt that way too because when you lose a girlfriend/boyfriend... the thing people often forget is that you're losing a very close friend too and that is hard in and of itself. So yeah, you are going to miss her. Link to comment
Dako Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 I'm finding it hard to be friends with my ex. We have fun together, but I go into a funk the next day after seeing her. It's not easy, but eventually it'll get better. We both need lots of space, and only meet at cafes or beaches. It seems to help keep things light and breezy. Link to comment
Relationship Coach Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 Dako, You are desensitizing your self to her! When I was a kid I was allergic to bees, so I went to the Doctors each week for a small does of bee venom that was increased each week until I was able to tolerate a full sting. It worked for a few years as I was tested but still today I carry a bee sting kit with me. The point here is, no matter how many little doses you get you never know when it's going to kill you! Link to comment
AlwaysNeedHelp Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 Man dont make it harder on yourself.. Ofcourse you will miss her.. You used to see her and be with her.. You will miss her.. That doesnt mean something.. If you dont want to be with her then just ignore this feeling.. Link to comment
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