Mistakes: Bumps on the road

[SkyFire]

So many people are scared of making mistakes. People are afraid of being rejected, of failure.

 

There is always 1000 excuses to facing up your fear. But, someday the time WILL come when you CAN'T run from fear, when it's now or never. Time when you can't run back to the forum, post about your problem, and go back. And THAT time, you will be absolutely helpless.

 

One of the biggest things Ive learned in life, is not to be afraid of mistakes and failure.

 

Without mistakes and failure, you cannot improve or grow.

 

Of course, when you try to change your old habits it will feel unnatural and weird. But you are trying to change, for the better. In the end it will be worth it.

 

When it comes to girls, believe it or not but I've gotten rejected by alot. It is the fact that I make the best of it, and learn from my mistakes, which makes me improve my game.

 

Somewhere down the road, you will stumble. When you become better, people will get jealous of you and try to bring you down. There will be times in life when life has beaten down on you so much, you feel like you can't go on. But you can't. You will pick yourself up, and you will keep going.

 

It all depends on the way you look at things; if you see failure as FAILURE and not try again, then you will fail. If you LEARN from your mistakes and keep trying and improving, you WILL eventually get where you want to be. All it takes is perseverance and the right attitude on life.

 

So don't be discouraged when you fail or make mistakes; learn your lesson from it, and continue living your life, because you only get one.

[VickiRose]

I love your post.... that is so true...

[Amannamederic]

hits home with me too

[darkblue]

Of course you need to fail to learn - everyone knows that.

 

I'm a little concerned about this:

 

which makes me improve my game.

 

'Game' - is that what dating/girls/attraction etc, is to you, a game?

[melrich]

Of course you need to fail to learn - everyone knows that.

 

No they don't. So many people see failure as just that...failure, not a learning opportunity.

 

Good post Skyfire. If more people would embrace failure and try to learn from it we would not get so many examples of people just repeating the same old mistakes.

[SkyFire]

'Game' - is that what dating/girls/attraction etc, is to you, a game?

 

In a way, it is a game.

 

"game" is someone's ability with women.

[darkblue]

I disagree - I think it's common sense and logical reasoning.

 

You fail - you evaluate, (where did I go wrong) - and you procede.

[darkblue]

'Game' - is that what dating/girls/attraction etc, is to you, a game?

 

In a way, it is a game.

 

"game" is someone's ability with women.

 

In what way is it a game?

Like you're 'playing' emotions?

[bold] - thereforeeee women can't have 'game'?

 

(I'll respond in the morning)

[melrich]

I disagree - I think it's common sense and logical reasoning.

 

As Winston Churchill said, "the problem with common sense is it is not very common".

 

The original poster was making a good point and i think a point that many on these forums overlook, as evidenced by constant repetition of the same mistakes.

[SkyFire]

I disagree - I think it's common sense and logical reasoning.

 

You fail - you evaluate, (where did I go wrong) - and you procede.

 

Logic and reasoning?

 

Dating isn't like math. If you haven't noticed, there's alot of illogical things going on with it.

 

Dating is a game if you see it so. If you fail and get shut down (rejected), you don't think that it's the end of the world and keep going for other girls.

 

Haven't you ever heard the phrase "you have no game"?

 

Let me rephrase. Game is someone's skill with dating/attraction.

[JynX]

Interesting post. You bring up some good points, SkyFire. This world would be a whole lot smoother if people took their mistakes and learned from them. However, it would also serve a purpose to look at other people's mistakes, learn from them, and keep yourself from making them. The knowledge is always out there, whether it be from our parents or friends, but most of us, however, chose to be stubborn and ignore the advice of those who've been there, and stumble head first into that same problem, which could have been avoided if we'd only listened and payed more attention in the first place. Then again that's just human nature.

[SkyFire]

However, it would also serve a purpose to look at other people's mistakes, learn from them, and keep yourself from making them. The knowledge is always out there, whether it be from our parents or friends, but most of us, however, chose to be stubborn and ignore the advice of those who've been there, and stumble head first into that same problem, which could have been avoided if we'd only listened and payed more attention in the first place. Then again that's just human nature.

 

Excellent point. That's how I came to learn alot of stuff out of life, looking at other people's mistakes.

 

However, I concentrated this post solely on the point that as long as people learn from THEIR mistakes, don't feel down about them and try harder, they will succeed.

[darkblue]

I disagree but I'm not going into detail, I'll just say this:

 

Logic - has nothing to do with math.

Maybe 'game' is some sort of American thing.

[jurupa]

SkyFire I think you missed one thing that I think you are actually talking about, which is taking risks. Making a mistake is taking a risk becuase even with thinking out all possible out comes you still never know what will happen when you make that mistake. For example yesterday I made a huge mistake in not asking out this girl when I had the best chance possible. But I do my best to learn from my mistakes.

 

Another thing you forgot to mention is to learn from other peoples mistakes. I can't tell you how much I have learned from other guys mistakes. Most of the time guys in my area try to be smooth and all that, but they aren't and are not good at recovering when they do mess up. This is why I just be my self, which has done a lot more good for me than bad.