Help me get revenge....

[TeeBell]

ok so some backstory: i have a neighbor that lives in my apartment building, we used to be BEST friends. When she didn't have her license i drove her around, took care of her kid. Bought her things when she didn't have money. We hangout every day and our kids were friends that is until one day she decided to sleep with my husband.  This post is not about the infidelity's and my husband and i have worked through it and dealt with our issues separately from her however she decided that I WAS A HORRIBLE FRIEND and she got a restraining order on me... ok fine because i pretty much wanted nothing to do with her after she betrayed me. She didn't even say sorry or act like she cared or even want to talk about it and work through it so i just gave up and left her alone.

Its been about 3 years since that happened and i haven't talked to her since and i have left her alone. We have fires in the backyard on the weekends when the weather is nice. most of the people from the building come out and have some drinks and listen to music while we all hangout together but of course my miserable neighbor calls the landlord and complains that we are too loud on a Friday night at 9 pm. The landlord calls us and says we have to fill in the fire pit and we are not allowed to grill outside or have any events that involve music or everyone crowding. 

I was so upset, everyone loves hanging out and we have an amazing yard that we all enjoy EXCEPT FOR HER. 

i have had enough of her, she makes me sick. i want REVENGE.  

I don't want to hurt her, i don't want anything bad to happen i just want to inconvenience her life and make things hard for her. I know revenge is not the high road and i don't care i hate her and i want her to be miserable. I usually just spit on her car door handle because i know she has to touch it but this was THE LAST STRAW. Now she has taken our yard away and everyone is upset! 

i want to know what i can do to make her miserable, nothing intense or harmful just gross/inconvenient stuff. Please help!

[boltnrun]

Is she still a bridesmaid in your wedding?

[TeeBell]

Just now, boltnrun said:

Is she still a bridesmaid in your wedding?

No this has nothing to do with that. if you don't want to help move along. 

[boltnrun]

So she's not still a bridesmaid in your wedding? Or is she?

No, I won't help you get "revenge". 

BTW, spitting on someone's car door handle is unsanitary and really irresponsible during a global pandemic (no, the pandemic is not "over"). You don't know if her grandmother or someone else vulnerable might touch your saliva and get sick.

[Seraphim]

When getting revenge dig two graves . Revenge backfires and comes back on you double . Waste of energy. 

[Batya33]

Get revenge by staying in your lane and living your best life to the extent possible.  I agree with your landlord. We’ve had too many false fire alarms and a few real ones in our apartment building.  Scary and really inconvenient.  I know it’s fun and you’ll find other ways to socialize. 

[TeeBell]

No, This person is not a bridesmaid. I havent spoken to her in 3 years. I know your very invested in that whole saga but like i said, this has nothing to do with that. 

If you dont like what im doing then be gone. 

I dont care that its unsanitary, she is an awful person and i want revenge 

 

[Batya33]

Just now, TeeBell said:

No, This person is not a bridesmaid. I havent spoken to her in 3 years. I know your very invested in that whole saga but like i said, this has nothing to do with that. 

If you dont like what im doing then be gone. 

I dont care that its unsanitary, she is an awful person and i want revenge 

 

You can want revenge and choose as a human not to react by actually doing it. Especially since she got a restraining order. Stay away. 

[TeeBell]

Just now, Batya33 said:

Get revenge by staying in your lane and living your best life to the extent possible.  I agree with your landlord. We’ve had too many false fire alarms and a few real ones in our apartment building.  Scary and really inconvenient.  I know it’s fun and you’ll find other ways to socialize. 

I tried that. I haven't spoken to or bothered her in 3 years yet she still continues to complain and ruin our fun. And no, the fire is contained in a fire pit that was checked by the fire department and as far away from the building as regulation requires. 

Our yard is where everyone can gather and enjoy the nice weather im not letting her take that away from us. 

[Seraphim]

Just now, TeeBell said:

I tried that. I haven't spoken to or bothered her in 3 years yet she still continues to complain and ruin our fun. And no, the fire is contained in a fire pit that was checked by the fire department and as far away from the building as regulation requires. 

Our yard is where everyone can gather and enjoy the nice weather im not letting her take that away from us. 

So you really think getting  revenge will bring back your fire pit ? How so?

[TeeBell]

1 minute ago, Batya33 said:

You can want revenge and choose as a human not to react by actually doing it. Especially since she got a restraining order. Stay away. 

She literally lives two doors away from me, i was doing my best to not bother her but she still finds it in her evil heart to take everything away from everyone in the building just because shes a petty b word. 

[Batya33]

Just now, TeeBell said:

I tried that. I haven't spoken to or bothered her in 3 years yet she still continues to complain and ruin our fun. And no, the fire is contained in a fire pit that was checked by the fire department and as far away from the building as regulation requires. 

Our yard is where everyone can gather and enjoy the nice weather im not letting her take that away from us. 

Don’t “try”. Do it. Meaning do the right thing. 
she’s taking nothing from you. Your landlord is forbidding it. So go to the landlord and show the fire department permit.  
this level of anger is really bad for you physically also. 

[Seraphim]

Will getting revenge make your landlord “ see the light ?” I highly doubt it .

[Batya33]

1 minute ago, TeeBell said:

She literally lives two doors away from me, i was doing my best to not bother her but she still finds it in her evil heart to take everything away from everyone in the building just because shes a petty b word. 

You’re not doing your best if you’re plotting revenge in this manner.  

[TeeBell]

Just now, Seraphim said:

Will getting revenge make your landlord “ see the light ?” I highly doubt it .

No, it wont. 

But i hate her and she deserves to be miserable too. 

[Seraphim]

You are just hurting yourself and revenge rebounds . 

[TeeBell]

Just now, Batya33 said:

You’re not doing your best if you’re plotting revenge in this manner.  

Nope not anymore, and i dont care. She deserves it.

[Batya33]

Just now, TeeBell said:

No, it wont. 

But i hate her and she deserves to be miserable too. 

That’s really not how it works in life. Life isn’t fair.  As adults we have to accept that. If you spit on her property she might not be miserable but an innocent person who touches it might be.  And if they have footage of it you’re going to suffer the consequences.  

[Seraphim]

Make sure you don’t make yourself also homeless in your effort of revenge . If the landlord gets too mad that could be next. 

[Batya33]

Just now, TeeBell said:

Nope not anymore, and i dont care. She deserves it.

Yes.  So my sense is at least the regulars who post here won’t give you actual suggestions as to how to act out your anger.  

[TeeBell]

Just now, Batya33 said:

Yes.  So my sense is at least the regulars who post here won’t give you actual suggestions as to how to act out your anger.  

yes i see that. Clearly this is not a place to get advice on this subject. 

[Seraphim]

Just now, TeeBell said:

yes i see that. Clearly this is not a place to get advice on this subject. 

Nope, we don’t specialize in revenge. 

[boltnrun]

So this is a different neighbor that your fiance also slept with? That means he slept with TWO neighbors in your apartment building?

Wow. 

No, this is not a "how to get petty revenge" forum. 

[Batya33]

2 minutes ago, TeeBell said:

yes i see that. Clearly this is not a place to get advice on this subject. 

Yes because you’re asking how to hurt another human being.  In all my years here I’ve never seen anyone advise anyone on how to hurt another human being. Or animal.  I have seen advice on how to defend oneself which might end up hurting someone but that’s different and doesn’t apply to you. Take a lesson from the fact that those who post here will not support hurting another human being.  You’ve gotten excellent advice on how to react in an adult and mature way. 

[TeeBell]

4 hours ago, Batya33 said:

Yes because you’re asking how to hurt another human being.  In all my years here I’ve never seen anyone advise anyone on how to hurt another human being. Or animal.  I have seen advice on how to defend oneself which might end up hurting someone but that’s different and doesn’t apply to you. Take a lesson from the fact that those who post here will not support hurting another human being.  You’ve gotten excellent advice on how to react in an adult and mature way. 

You must have missed the part where i specifically said i did not want to hurt or injure her. I said i wanted to inconvenience her and make things difficult.