Dating in the same circle

[giannapach]

So i kind of dated this one guy, keep in mind we’re all in high school. He’s on the basketball and football team. We made it extremely obvious we were seeing each other so of course the team knew and so did multiple groups of people at school. This friday we made it official we were done but for the past two weeks he’s been ignoring me. so of course i started seeing other people. There’s another issue which is a lot of my friends were also his. There’s this boy who i’ll call Josh. Josh was my Ex’s friend and he’s also on football and basketball. Today i hit up josh asking if he was going to homecoming and if he wanted to play a game with me. he first left me on read then replied he was, and not to come up to him or to text him, and that he does not wanna play games with me. i asked if i had done something but at this point he had messaged me Ex telling him to tell me to stop texting him. So now the football and basketball team dislikes me, while the breakup i had was not my fault since my ex lost feelings while i did not. The basketball and football team make up a large majority of the school, along with friend groups within those teams, and if they don’t like me then i’m screwed. I have no clue what to do since it was just a harmless text. And my Ex doesn’t make it any better telling me Josh “doesn’t want me or want to text me” Which i never wanted Josh in the first place i just wanted to know if he was going. The whole school also knows about me and my ex so it’s even worst. My ex practically cheated on me as well, talking to other girls while leading me on and acting as if we were together which i guess we weren’t. And people know that and they have it out for him i guess but i don’t want drama i just want things to be good and fine and i don’t want anyone to dislike me.

[Wiseman2]

10 minutes ago, giannapach said:

Today i hit up josh asking if he was going to homecoming and if he wanted to play a game with me. he first left me on read then replied he was, and not to come up to him or to text him, and that he does not wanna play games with me. i asked if i had done something but at this point he had messaged me Ex telling him to tell me to stop texting him. 

Ok  delete and block your exbf and all his people from all your messing apps and social media.

Don't date, flirt or come onto friends of exes.

There's plenty of other guys to  date hint to about going to dances and events.

 Just stay away from this bunch of boys..

 

[Batya33]

This situation will be yesterday's news really soon as long as you lay low for a few days - and then at least for now don't pursue any of the other boys whether it's fair or not.  I'm sorry you're stressed about it!

[SooSad33]

1 hour ago, giannapach said:

Today i hit up josh asking if he was going to homecoming and if he wanted to play a game with me. he first left me on read then replied he was, and not to come up to him or to text him, and that he does not wanna play games with me. i asked if i had done something but at this point he had messaged me Ex telling him to tell me to stop texting him. So now the football and basketball team dislikes me, while the breakup i had was not my fault since my ex lost feelings while i did not.

Sadly, yes, it can go this way when a couple breaks up.. and no, is never a good idea to approach your ex's friends to attend something with you 😕 . ( is called bro code) out of respect they will not go near their buddie's ex's), that, and yes, right now there is possibly many hurt feelings... and is common to 'take sides'.

You need to give all of this time.. Let the dust settle and just keep about yourself for a while.

Leave all on 'his side' be.  

No, is not like you are a bad person, but you will vent in your way and he will vent in his own way... you two need some real distance & respect.

You two are still young & learning.. and maturing.  Is best to just leave all alone now.

 

[smackie9]

This is the very reason why I didn't date guys I went to school with. Well I made one exception and it was one of the worst mistakes I ever made.

Date guys from different schools other than your own...like always. And never go sniffing around ex BF's friends.

[Wiseman2]

16 hours ago, giannapach said:

 i hit up josh asking if he was going to homecoming and if he wanted to play a game with me. . My ex practically cheated on me as well, talking to other girls while leading me on and acting as if we were together which i guess we weren’t. 

Hitting on his friend to get back at him for "cheating" backfired. Play fair.

You can make new friends by joining clubs, groups, sports yourself.

You can also date guys who aren't on those teams who now have a locker-room understanding of your games and avoid you.