Laurayoga Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 Has anyone been in a ”situationship”, casually dating someone for months ongoing (9 months in this case), going on dates 2X a week (dinners, concert, vacations) , sleeping together without EVER discussing feelings or never attempting to have the “talk” on both ends? A few weeks ago he took me on a work-related trip to an amazing island. He never said he didn’t want a relationship. We’re both guilty of taking the passive role & not talking about it, I guess. I’ve also never approached this thought until know, because when I first met him, I was out of a serious relationship. He seems to be more stoic, more actions than words. For example, during our trip, he referred to himself as my boyfriend in a sentence (“Just tell the concierge your boyfriend told you…”) ? What happened in your case or what is happening? What was going on in your head or could be? Both in mid thirties, never married. Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 Why haven't you attempted the talk? He won't because he has a nice casual relationship with you, with the added benefit of sex. Been there, done that. Ended miserably lol . Except I asked a few times and I got the run around. Should have bailed earlier than I did. Lesson learned. If it works for you, leave it alone. Link to comment
Minikimini Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 Oh, I would have had a talk with him before now because I need to know what his intentions towards me are. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 It sounds like you are exclusive and he thinks of himself as your bf. What label are you looking for? He seems to be more stoic, more actions than words. For example, during our trip, he referred to himself as my boyfriend in a sentence (“Just tell the concierge your boyfriend told you…”) ? Link to comment
Hollyj Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 I would have had the talk three months in. I would not want to waste my time on someone who was not on the same track. What are you afraid of? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 I'm completely baffled at how one can get naked and sleep with someone, yet are unable to ask them a simple question. What's stopping you from asking? Link to comment
kamurj Posted March 30, 2018 Share Posted March 30, 2018 Multiple accounts are not allowed. Thread closed. Link to comment
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